how can i make these stupid boys stop doing this to me?? they all treat me like im a wh-re when im totally not! im a virgin for gods sake! and the thing is i cant really stop them because i never see through it, they always act like their madly inlove with me and buy me expensive stuff and take me to expensive places but then i find out they never even loved me and just wanted to waste their time with me cuz im a worthless wh-re, and this really hurts me cuz i always fall for them, and they break my heart, and the stupid thing is that everytime i fall, i just get back up and date another boy who does the same thing again, im only 15 so i dont think i should be treated this way...how can i lose this fake reputation?
2007-02-21 03:05:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't. That is the nature of rumours. All you can do is be true to yourself and be more discerning about who you choose to go out with.
They may well be saying these hurtful things to you because it is easier to throw abuse at you than face up to their own shallowness. It says nothing about you and a lot about them.
2007-02-21 03:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a virgin then those boys know that already & are bragging to try to make it look like they've had you! You will NOT get rid of this reputation, I'm sorry.
What you can do is think positive & stop being desperate to find that one guy who will believe in you & understand you! You have to first believe in yourself. Unfortunately, with the fake reputation you have, it will be very hard to convince anyone differently. People can be so cruel.
(I had this type of rep all my life growing up, because I had fallen asleep at a friends house while watching TV with her on one side of me & her guy cousin on the other side. I went to school the next Monday & I was the "talk of the school" - as my friend told everyone I had "slept" with this guy. I was all of 11yrs old at the time. I didn't even know what sex was exactly. But the damage was done. I am in my 30's now, and still those people from my home town remember this about me...)
Be yourself & believe in yourself - and find those who believe in you & understand you! One day you will find the right guy & he will believe in you & you will share something special & this will not matter to you anymore!
2007-02-21 03:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it really, really hurts to have people think you are a wh-re but in reality you are driving these boys CRAZY! Keep it up girl. You are doing really, really good.
I can see how this fake reputation started. Boys hang out with each other and discuss the girls they had. They know that you are a nut that just will not crack and each of them report back to each other lying about what they got out of you.
I see you as a hero. Keep up your virgin vigil and don't give into any of them. They do not deserve you. In fact, stop going out with these boys. Find your boys somewhere else. Your reputation will go from the fake wh-re to the ice queen. Much better, don't you think? You hold out for the right person.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 03:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by beingsmartisrelative 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stop yourself from going after the same types of guys. That's why they ALL seem to be the same; because you choose guys that are similar in character. Better yet, try being single for a while. Like you said, you are only 15! Trust me, you've got plenty of time to be dating around once you are out of high school. Plus there is a much better choice bin once you are a little bit older!
2007-02-21 03:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK here is what your doing wrong. you are accepting expensive outings and gifts and not doing what they may think is a fair trade.
IE your a virgin.
this is all kind of mixed up but its life. you need to refuse expensive gifts and make it clear to the boy who asks you out that you will not accept such things right from the very first moment he asks you out. soon along in the first date with a boy explain to him that your a virgin you intend to stay one and that you will not take any gift or go on any date you think costs to much in order to avoid any mix up about how far you go.
do this and i think you will find it works better for you .
2007-02-21 03:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your attitude. You're receiving great gifts, going to expensive places for dinner, and you're still a virgin??????
You've got it made! Just don't fall in love with these bozos. Let them spend their money on you, and you just say Thanks!
Don't give in to them for sex. EVER. You're just 15. You have lots of years ahead of you for that. And it's not something you want to trade for a nice gift or nice dinner. It's something special between two people.
Have you ever asked yourself what is making them think you might be a who-re? Surely after a few times, word would have gotten out that you don't put out. Just don't fall in love...you're tooooo young.
2007-02-21 03:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by thankamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you get this so-called "fake reputation"? You had to do something for people to think you're a wh*re. Maybe you should transfer schools and start over as a "virgin" elsewhere.
2007-02-21 03:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mullet Man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are 15..... focus on school and having fun with your friends, not stupid childish boys. You may not believe me, but you will not find "The one" for you at age 15, so why try? Just focus on being 15 and having fun, and doing well in school so you can make something of yourself. Please dont give in to the pressure of stupid childish boys, your virginity will mean the world to right person, and be forever cherished, but to the wrong person it will be a number, and a joke amongst his friends, so be careful and be smart, save yourself for the one who has saved his self for you.
2007-02-21 03:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by jorge n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 15! Stop dating all these dudes. That is why they think you're a wh_re. Chill out. High school rumor mills can be rotten. Take a step back and stop dating for a while.
2007-02-21 03:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by KC Slim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably know you are a virgin and think they may be the "lucky" one to get first dibs on you so they can brag about it... take time to enjoy life and forget about guys for a while except as friends. Then you will find someone worthy of waiting...
2007-02-21 03:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Meezer Kitteez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋