(my language is not good,pz excusez me)
i have one & only gal friend,she is my best friend ..(only my friend no other relations... ) from college... can we be friends after her marriage, will it create any problems to her, how can i say this to her fiance.... we r true friends only no other thing in wrong context... we r not lovers or like tht any relations.....
plz tell can we be friends aftre her marriage, will my wife accept this or her fiance accept me as a good friend,,,
or can i leave my friendship , and go...(we should have true friends in same gender only?)
i have no other friends in gals, ...i am thinking her only as a good friend..plz tell me
2007-02-21
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➔ Friends
Yes you should continue your friendship with your female friend even if she is married and you are married. A friend is a friend and any spouse should accept their mate's friends no matter what gender they are. In a true relationship there is trust and honesty so the spouse should not be threatened or jealous of your friendship with his wife. Good Luck good friends are hard to find, hope you can keep this one.
2007-02-21 03:11:38
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answered by Cyn 3
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Here's the thing. You are putting so much thought into this that it really sounds like there is more going on, even if just emotional or psychological, than you guys being just best friends. If you truly were just best friends, this would never be an issue. If you are worried about her getting married, you have formed more attachments than you are willing to admit. One piece of advice, don't tell her fiance this, it could really upset him. One more piece of advice, don't do anything to come between her and her love.
2007-02-21 03:08:07
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answered by Tact is highly overrated 5
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are you already married? I suggest you remain friend but only spend time together in groups (with other people) or in very public places. This way no one can question what is going on between you. If her husband has an issue then I would suggest that you respect the wishes of her husband. If your wife has any issues then respect the wishes of your wife.
2007-02-21 03:18:38
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answered by Anonymous
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It's possible for men and women to be friends, however, you will have to work hard at making a friend of her fiance. If he is not receptive to your friendship, and is skeptical of your friendship with his fiance, then you may have to back off. It isn't healthy to question the trust of a budding romantic relationship because of a friendship. You - as a true friend - should be willing to leave your friend for the sake of her relatonship with her future husband.
2007-02-21 03:08:26
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answered by Anonymous
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This all depends on the other people involved. If you are lucky, everyone will understand the friendship and be fine with it. But if it does create jealousy in your wife or your friend's husband, then the marriages must come first.
2007-02-21 03:06:49
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answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7
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I think you better befriend her finacee and try to spend more time with him so that he can understand what you are truly like. that will help him to understand your real feelings and intentions. You can be better judge of his character and what should be your next step only after studying his character and understanding him. He may or may not be open-minded, but if he is not perhaps it will better for both of you to maintain a distance. Same goes for your wife. If you both become family friends along with your spouses, the friendship may continue, otherwise restraint is in order.
2007-02-21 04:50:02
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answered by Smriti 5
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i would think it better to distance yourself from this female friend . no matter what your wife says she will get jealous its that simple . now if your female friend finds a guy a stead boyfriend or gets married herself you have a chance to make it work if you only see them as a couple with you and your wife together.
that still can be hard but that's life.
you have to put the marriage first . take the time to explain this all to your female friend.
2007-02-21 03:20:35
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answered by Anonymous
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it really depends, it isnt your choice anymore, you need to just ask her, "now that your married, is your husband going to be cool with us being friends" and her answer will be your answer., she will either say no, he isnt cool with it, and im sorry and the friendship is off. or he may have no problem at all with you two still being friends, but more than likely you will become a friend to the couple, not just her anymore, but her and her husband, that would be more proper.. maybe invite the two over for dinner one night so he gets to know you and feels more comfortable. best of luck ♥
2007-02-21 03:07:58
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answered by ~♥Dominatrix♥~ 2
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nicely i'm married with 2 young infants and yet another on the way and my perfect chum is a guy..granted we did date at one time and we grew up at the same time in simple terms down the line from one yet another. ordinary him for 14 years.
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answered by Anonymous
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It'll work as long as you don't try to hide it from anyone or act shady about it. Be open and honest with her husband about your intentions and he should be fine with it. Good luck.
2007-02-21 03:06:57
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answered by KC Slim 5
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