Married men and women are you thinking about getting divorced but you're just not sure how or when to tell

Question

you're spouce?

What are the reasons you want out ?

Answer 1

I just went through this situation, and we signed our separation agreement last week.

It was a struggle to make the decision, though. I had movied out for over a month before I decided to go through with ending it. The hard part for me was how much I thought I loved "her." I knew I made a commitment and didn't want to walk away from it. In the end, I realized that it really wasn't her that I loved, but the "her" I fell in love with years ago. We both had changed and we both hurt each other through the years, and we never really dealt with our problems. I was holding on to our past and ignoring the bleak reality that was staring me in the face.

We went to a counseling session together and he told us that we can make it work, but it will take a lot of WORK. We'd be going to therapy for years. That's not the life I wanted or deserve. Finally, I woke up and faced reality and told her I was done.

Edit: We had no kids...

Answer 2

This is very serious. Why would you need to know other ppls reasons for wanting a divorce? To validate yours?

My reasons were so crystal clear...domestic violence. If you have no crystal clear reason for divorcing perhaps you should try couples therapy first. There are many reasons ppl "think about" getting a divorce. If everyone divorced who thought they wanted to...NO one would be married! Need a reason? Adultery, emotional cheating, financial blunders, your spouse is still hung up on their ex, you found neked pics of their ex hidden in their bible, you found opp sex phone numbers on their cel bill, email account, etc.

All long term relationships go thru periods of love & friendship and occationally the feelings of hate. The commitment of marriage is for "better or for worse" which means you stay and work harder to make each other happy. If there are NO kids...it makes leaving much easier. If there ARE kids...so sorry for THEM. Don't just think about yourself in this. Does your spouse feel the same way? Do you argue over EVERY thing? Can you picture your spouse hooked up with your best friend and it NOT bother you? Anyways, good luck! It's really a tough decision. NO one really wins unless there are NO kids involved.

Answer 3

1. I got married at 18 because I was pregnant. I was too dang young. I'm still too dang young. I had no idea what I was getting into and I was and am not ready at all for a lifetime commitment.
2. I never got the chance to grow up. My family is deeply religious and believe that girls should live with her parents until she's married, then she's under the *authority* of her husband. I went from being taken care of by my folks to being taken care of by my husband. I want to be my own person and make my own decisions.
3. I'm in love with someone else.

Answer 4

Yeah, I`ve been tossing it around for a few months now. I`ve caught him cheating on the internet a few times and I don`t trust him. The when is the problem. He has problems with control and alcohol also so each day is a different issue.