can marriage counseling save my marriage. my husband needs anger management classes badly.?

Answer 1

Do you think he needs anger management classes because he hits you? The cold reality of the matter is that in a short-term, get what you want immediately situation, hitting someone works. Contrary to what some people may believe, domestic violence is rarely about anger. People may blame it on an "anger management" problem. But the same people who supposedly cannot manage their anger when it comes to their spouse manage perfectly well when it comes to their parents, the neighbor, the grocery clerk, or the police officer who comes to the door. Domestic violence is about using violence to gain (and maintain) control. Often the batterer views the victim as a possession to be guarded and controlled -- they monitor phone calls and email, reduce contact with family and friends, and if their possession gets out of line, they smack it back in place. Anger management classes are not going to change that.

Answer 2

Anger management classes can help. But they don't work overnight and the angry person must be willing to work the program.
These classes along with marriage counseling may have a real positive effect on your marriage. Good luck.

Answer 3

There are many, many places that offer plain ol' anger management classes. Most of these are offered in conjunction with domestic violence classes. They do work wonders. There is an organization called "Changing Courses", she has been on the oprah winfrey show...she is in Sacramento though.

What I would suggest...is do both at the same time. Your marriage counselor, may just offer him individual counseling for him to deal with his anger issues solely, or even recommend he take some classes. 12 classes do wonders!

Answer 4

That depends on you, your husband and whether or not both of you want to save your marriage.

I wish you well with this and hope he agrees to get some counseling in anger management.

Answer 5

Marriage counseling can help sort out what issues are "individual " and what are "mutual" issues to work on. Anger management issues are usually "iindividual" issues that become blurred in a relationship. Control is an issue that pertains to both.
Counseling should help you decide what your limits and expectations are with regard to what you want/need in a relationship.
He must acknowledge or understand that he has issues to work on himself. If he doesn't, then only your discovered clarity as to how much you will tolerate is accomplished.

Answer 6

Counseling can help both your marriage and your husbands anger, but only if he "wants" to do it. If he's only going too do it for you, it wont work. Take it from a recovering addict and person who also needed anger management.

Answer 7

If he wants to get help it will work. If your having to beg him to- give it up and move on. You'll feel like crap doing this, but maybe he'll do something about his anger if he thinks you leaving him for real. Don't just threaten him- really go through the motions of actually leaving- it can work. Some adults still act like children and still need dicipline in there older age. This is what he needs. He either stops or you leave.

Answer 8

Yeah probably worth a try. It would be good for you too so you can figure out what it is that triggers the anger. One on One therapy for him if he`s willing to go wouldn`t hurt either.If he`s abusive then that`s a different ballgame. Most people I know who have anger issues, it`s because of some sort of abuse.

Answer 9

It will only work if you BOTH are willing to change. If he won't go along with this, then it's no use. It takes two to make a good marriage.

Answer 10

what is 'anger management'-counting to 10 before you act?it is nonsense.