i like sex but not all the time, sometimes i just want to lie there and cuddle but i feel a pressure to get sexual. I cant relax anymore because im always thinking hes going to try and have sex in a minute. He does this look which means he wants it and sometimes i ignore it and feel bad. How do i not have sex when i dont feel like it and not offend him and how do i stop feeling this silent pressure to have sex all the time
2007-02-21 02:15:56 · 22 answers · asked by helen b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay!!! start by talking to him. Some men think if you give into sex every-time that keeps you from wanting someone else. Tell him what you want and find out what he really wants, it may be he may not want it all the time either and maybe you both can relax. Good Luck
2007-02-21 02:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Peaches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cool not to want it all the time but when you do have it good all the way and make sure that every need is satisfied and hope for the best from that method. The reason he wants so much is probably because something is not getting met. So if u just want the wham bam thank you ma'am he is gonna keep coming back until everything is done.
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good luck and let me know how it works out.
2007-02-21 11:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by beecharmed_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty normal for guys to have high sex drive than woman, i'm one of them too. You got let him know that you too need the emotional attachment and not just the physical. Involve in activities together like jogging, swimming or even tennis, this will drain away "much energy" that he has and prevent him from asking you for sex. And also avoid being just the two of you in his/your house, because that certainly invites him to have other thoughts...
2007-02-21 10:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by hottub0_0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunately quite common and you have to compromise. Sometimes you'll have to turn him down and sometimes have a quickie for his sake.
No it's not ideal. Yes it is realistic. That's life.
Also, if/when you find he uses porn, don't be hypocritical and have a go at him.
Above all, when you DO want sex, initiate it. That way he won't think you don't fancy him.
2007-02-21 11:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ian69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can always do it himself hon. As long as it's out of sight you need never have to know about how many times etc. Don't sucome to 'doing it' because he wants to, if your not in the mood he has one hand at least doesn't he!? Let him use it. I'm not being rude, after all it's only human nature!!
2007-02-21 10:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been marred for 20 years and i love my wife but the start i wanted sex all the time and it was OK for me but she sat me down one day and told me that she loved me and wanted to be with me for the rest of her life but she could not go on have sex as mush as i wanted and that every one has diff sex drives so i took it like a man and as i said we are still together, just like me he will think you love it as much as him just talk to him it will work
2007-02-21 10:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get him to do loads of jobs that will tire him out, then he will not be in the mood.
Failing that just be honest with him :o)
2007-02-21 10:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't give it to him he will go get it from somewhere else. And your next question will be are your cheating on me...So give that man his 2 minutes of pleasures it want kill you.....We all know he will be sleep in second after wards.
2007-02-21 10:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by mzalizza 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Put Bromide in his tea
2007-02-21 10:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by HesterHughes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take the situation in hand!
2007-02-21 10:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by Chris W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋