Abortions?

Question

I'm 15 years old and I'm pregent. I would like to have the baby but I'm not sure I'll be able to take care of it. My mother is dead and my father is a working man. So I'll have no one to help me throught the prengecy except the father who is also 15. I am considering getting an abortion, but I'm also afrid. Does it hurt? What do they do? and Should I get the abortion? I really need your help.

Answer 1

Do not murder your new child! except the responsibility of the result of you having sex! It will be hard going through the pregnancy but its only 9 month of the rest of your life, killing your baby will last the rest of your life! If you do not think you can look after a baby put it up for adoption! that's what my mom did for me (she was rapped at 16) and I am really thank full that my birth mom gave me a chance to live life and have a family of my own!

Answer 2

I am very touchy on this subject, so if I hurt you fellings I am very sorry. First let me tell you about me. I was born into a family of sexual abusers. I was taken out of that "family" and was brought to my family where I am now. I was adopted one year later. That was when I was 6 and 7. I am now 17. In my opinion, abortions is MURDER! Don't do it. The way I think of is if I was aborted, I would not be here today and I would not be helping you right now. Even though I was born in those conditions, I was glad to be born. There is another ooption other than abortion, that is adoption. Adoption is a great thing. Through adoption there are many different options. If you truly believe you would not be able to take care of your baby, put it up to adoption, you will be glad you did. Talk to the agency closest to you and ask for a family that lives close to you so that you can have visitation rights. That means that you would still get to see your baby when ever you want, but make sure the other family is okay with it and does not want to take your baby from you. Be specific. I hate abortion terribly, and if you did get an abortion after readong this I would be really hurt. Just think about it and find some agencies near you and look for anything that you agree with. Just, PLEASE, don't have and abortion, thank you for reading this.

Answer 3

Honey try adoption! That way you'll always have the chance to know your child. It will have a loving home, that you'll pick out, and it will have the best chance of all, LIFE. You can visit your baby and stay as active in his/her life as you choose. You can even sign up to the adoption agency knowing there's a possibility that you'll decide to raise the baby yourself, and that's fine too. Just do your research as much on adoption as abortion. You know abortion will never give you a chance to hold and love your baby. It's permanent. Your Mother would probaly rather you give the baby a chance at life than anything else. Do some searching within before you decide. Here are the procedures used for abortion. Remember they do not explain the emotional feelings you'll be having during and after the experience.

Vacuum Aspiration:
In the first trimester, usually 6 to 13 weeks, vacuum aspiration is the procedure used to empty the uterus. This traditional first trimester abortion involves three main steps: (1) an injection to numb the cervix, (2) insertion of a soft flexible tube through the cervix into the uterus, (3) suction created by an aspirating machine to remove the uterine contents. It takes less than five minutes to complete.

IPAS Syringe - Early Abortion with Manual Vacuum Aspiration (MVA):
As soon as the pregnancy can be detected by ultrasound (typically 4-5 weeks), an abortion can be performed using a manual aspiration device called the IPAS Syringe. Similar to the suction aspiration procedure, the IPAS system consists of thin flexible tubing, but instead of using a machine to create suction, the suction is created by a handheld syringe. The procedure usually takes less than 5 minutes to complete. Aftercare is the same as with suction aspiration. Availability of this procedure is based upon doctor's discretion. Abortion by syringe is sometimes referred to as the quiet abortion.

D & E (Dilate and Evacuate):
From 13 to 24 weeks, Feminist Women's Health Center uses the Dilation and Evacuation (D&E) procedure. Appointments are made for 2-3 consecutive days. On the first day, an ultrasound (sonogram) is performed to determine the size of the fetus. Then, the abortion procedure is begun by numbing the cervix with injections and inserting dilators into the cervix. Overnight these dilators gently expand, opening the entrance to the uterus. The next day, the cervix is again numbed, the dilators are removed, and the doctor uses special instruments to evacuate the uterus removing the pregnancy. The final step is suction using the aspirating machine. In more advanced pregnancies, additional dilators are inserted on the second day and the fetus is removed on the third day. The medical procedure lasts about 10-15 minutes.

Answer 4

I will say this: It is for you only to decide. I will tell you my story and you can go from there. I am now 29 years old. At 15, I was forced by my parents to have an abortion. I was stupid, didn't use protection and got pregnant. My then boyfriend said he'd stick around, but didn't. Back then, the abortions were very awful...at least mine was. They doped me up on something, I stayed in the stars and felt like total crap afterwards....vomiting all day. The next day, I still felt like crap, voniting still and in alot of pain. (Did they do it wrong? Who knows?) I have hated myself EVERY SINGLE DAY since. I feel like a terrible parent. I'm glad, however, that I didn't have to raise a child at such a young age, but that feeling of what could have been is still there. I think about it often and it still hurts. (Mentally) I wish I could have done something different back then. I didn't have a choice though. I disagree with abortions, always have and always will with one exception....if a pregnancy occurs through sexual violence. ABORTIONS ARE NOT A FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL!!!! Remember that. If you feel like you are not ready to handle the responsibilities of having a child, then you are not old enough to handle the consequences of premarital sex. The facts are that there are at least 50% of women out there who cannot get pregnant and would JUMP at the chance of being in your shoes. Give someone like that a chance to have a child of their own before you decide to end a child's life before it even knows it exists. ADOPTION is a wonderful thing. I now have 2 of my own children and have adopted one as well. It's a great feeling to know that I love and can care for a child that couldn't be taken care of somewhere else. She is my daughter no matter what anyone else says. You should sit down with a counselor WITH your dad present and weigh ALL of your options before you decide. Abortions are a big step. There are many emotions attached with them once you're older. I have spoken with a couple of teenage girls who had them and they all regret them to a degree. God bless you and your decision. I hope you make the right one, whatever it may be.

Answer 5

I know right now you're terrified. I've been in your situation before. I was much older than you and my girlfriend and I at the time had an unplanned pregnancy. After we found out and thought about it we determined that it would be better to terminate the pregnancy. So we went ahead and she had an abortion. Not long after that our relationship ended she hated me and I couldn't blame her. She felt as if I didn't ever try to talk her out of the decision we made and I will admit that I really didn't try to. Now I regret ever allowing her to go ahead and not have the baby. Although you didn't plan on getting pregnant it happened. It's not that child's fault that you made him or her. After my girlfriend had the abortion all she would think about was how much she regretted going through with it. She went through a lot of depression and eventually told me she didn't want anything to do with me. I also hate myself even though all I did was father the child. I didn't think about the consequences. If you don't think that you can raise the child you can always give the baby up for adoption. But I guarantee you that once you have the baby you will do anything in your power to keep that child safe. If you have an abortion you might solve your short term problems but the guilt will stay with you forever. God Bless you and the Baby.

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear you are in such a difficult position at such a young age. I personally believe there is a better way than abortion. Having said that I must tell you that it is painful, but your degree of physical pain has much more to do with how you deal with pain. The emotional and spiritual pain you will experience can be highly variable also.
There are some women who feel no emotional upheaval from the procedure and there are some who grieve the rest of their lives.
This is a tough decision to make and you are simply too young to bear the burden entirely on your own.
Find a counselor who can help you make the decision which is in the best interest of all concerned.
Remember you didn't get pregnant by yourself and you may want the father to be brought into this so he is held equally accountable for this decision.
Talk with your dad, he may have wise advice to give you. And if you are afraid of what he may say, give him a chance, he may surprise you.
Do not give up until you have found someone to be an advocate for you even if they do not agree with your ultimate decision.

Answer 7

Whether or not you should get an abortion is up to you and your beliefs. There's always other options such as adoption since there's so many couples looking for heathly babies to love as their own. If you just don't want your body to go through having a pregnancy and you feel that you're mentally ready to get an abortion then you should just do it. But don't rush into it because that can effect you for the rest of your life. Be careful and whatever decision you make I hope you're happy and safe! Good luck with everything!

Answer 8

Well just you saying you would like to keep it means you SHOULDNT have an abortion. There are agencies out there that WILL help un-wed mothers with little to no income. And will provide Medical ins for you and baby. I BELIEVE you CAN DO IT!!!! And if someone tells you cant, prove them wrong. A child is a precious gift that many women wont ever experence. You also have to take into consideration that if you abort you may never be able to have this chance of bearing a child again. BTW- My mother had me at 15 and everything turned out fine for the both of us!!!!! Good Luck.

Answer 9

I was in your shoes 21 years ago, I too was 15, first of all you need to talk to someone in your family about this, I remember I was soooo scared! I didn't want to tell my parents and to this day my father still doesn't know, I told my sister in law, she told my mother, My mother didn't say a word except, be ready in the morning, I made you an appointment to have an abortion, I knew I was way not ready to take care of a baby, and the guy who got me pregnant, was a big jerk!, I was relieved that it was going to be ok, it did not hurt, I was a little woozy afterwards, but no pain, I have 4 children today and I think what I did was right because I wasn't ready for all that. Its very scary for you right now huh? I know- adoption was out of the question because no one was taking my baby fully developed!!! Sooner the better, so think about who in your family you can talk to and if you need to, I am here, [e-mail]

Answer 10

Abortions are hard. Some people regret it for the rest of their life. This is what I think. Before you get an abortions, you need to know where do you believe life begins. Birth? Conception?
If it's conception, you may have problems with abortions
Keep the child will be very hard, especially without family help
You can coincide adoption. I think of an adoption as an act of love.
God bless you
Please think hard
Before you have an abortion, look into adoption. If you look into adoptions, does not mean you can not change you mine

Answer 11

Abortion or not, I do not envy you right now.

The fact that you are 15, uneducated, unmarried, without a job or source of income is tough enough.

Now, add the pregnancy and at your age, the risk factor for the baby is very high.
Chances are high that the baby will not be carried to term, which means it will have a lot of health issues.

Adoption is probably the best option, but I would not rule out abortion (although I personally do not agree with this measure as a form of birth control).

Keeping the baby would only mean a tough life ahead of you.

If you have access to a family councilor at school, a religious leader and a parent-figure, consult with all of them and get their views.
Then make up your mind.

If you do decide to go through with the pregnancy, for God's sake, start eating healthy, exercise, get a good doctor and keep up with the folic acid.

Read the link and learn.
This is no time for ignorance.

Good luck.