Ok so last night me n my fiance got into a big argument because he seems to find that Drugs are more important to him than me .. so i broke it off . Well a coupel days ago i asked if i could be pregnant and i took a test b4 skool this morning and i am.. should i get back with him?? For the baby??
2007-02-21 01:58:49 · 25 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ok so im still in high school i graduate on march 23. As for those of you that answered and thoguht itd be nice to say mean things please dont im goin through a lot right now and that doesnt help. he'd be an amazing dad if hed get clean ... and hed be able to support me and the baby.. no question about it
2007-02-21 02:15:37 · update #1
If drugs are more important to him than you, then they will be more important than the baby. Use some common sense here.
2007-02-21 02:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow your in a tough position. No use preaching about safe sex because what's done is done right....so to answer the question it's probablt not a good idea to stay with the father because he is on drugs. Hopefully this will wake him up and he will get help but onyl he can decide if he wants help. If you stay with him and have the baby while he is using drugs you are risking the fact that cps can come in and will take your child because the baby will be in a dangerous house. This a time to look out for the baby's well being and it is hard because hormones make you wacky. Maybe you shoudl talk to a counselor. Good luck and hang in there!!
2007-02-21 10:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Do not go back with the father. That is the worst possible thing you could do for the baby. He has to WANT to get clean, and for most that means hitting bottom. No one, not you, not his own child will make him change. You shouldn't let him near you (or the baby after it is born) until AFTER he can prove that he is sober and clean. Until he is his need for drugs will always be more important to him than anything, including formula and diapers for the baby. You already have your slef and the baby to think about and take care of, you don't need to saddle yourself with more responsibilities by adding him to the equation right now. As the saying goes "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink."
2007-02-21 10:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, do you think his drugs will help the baby? I believe all sperm doners deserve to know they procreated. I call them sperm doners because that's all they are until they become a father. Maybe knowing he is going to be a father will be enough incentive to get off the drugs for good. I wouldn't bet on it though. If he couldn't do it for you, then he may not for a baby. I don't mean to be harsh, I just take being a parent very seriously. Being a parent is a big responsibility. Every child deserves that. If he's going to be part of the baby's life, then he needs to make a commitment to do so. It's not good for you or the baby if he comes in and out of your lives. Good luck.
2007-02-21 10:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs are hard to battle, you arent dealing with a loving man or a could be wonderful father, right now you are dealing with the drugs, and there is nothing that will make him want to get off of them until he wants to get off of them, and that usually doesnt happen on its own. Its going to take help. It also depends what drug he is using and how often. My sister is a meth addict and has been for 10 years, Her two young boys have been out of her home for a year now and shes just starting to get it together. It takes more than you think. But if its pot you have a good chance. Ive done pot for 6 years and i found out i was pregnant at 6 weeks, i stopped and havent thought about it, wanted it, craved it nothing. Goodluck!
im 23 weeks now
2007-02-21 10:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If drugs are more important to him than you, what honestly makes you think that a child is going to change that. I wouldn't necessarily get back together with him but of course tell him about the baby and see how he reacts. Personally, I would make it clear that unless he cleans up his role in his child's life would be very limited.
Best of luck, and congrats on the baby
2007-02-21 10:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing drugs, then he's nothing but trouble for that baby...trust me, I know from experience. My ex husband was addicted to crack cocaine and when I got pregnant, I stayed with him for the sake of being with my baby's father. BIG MISTAKE! He made the 5 years I was with him the worst in my life....I wouldn't wish the life of a drug addicts girl on my worst enemy!!! I look back on it now and say to myself "Why didn't I just leave him back then?" I kick myself in the *** for it all the time and I just want to warn you....its a bad situation! Go to school, get an education, forget about him....he will bring you down if you stay with him...don't do it to your baby!!
2007-02-21 10:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Perplexed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel he will be a good father? I would tell him about the baby but he would need to get some sort of help for the drug problem, before I would get back together with him. A drug addict won't make a good father in my opinion.
2007-02-21 10:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if he won't give up the drugs. Your better off to raise a baby alone than to have to put up with a druggie and a baby. Make him prove he is going to go clean, rehab, counseling, etc. Good Luck
2007-02-21 10:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sooner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhhh....If he's doing drugs - you need to stay as far away from him as possible. DO NOT get back with "for the baby" - that is so lame. Do you really think he could contribute to the situation if he's snorting crap up his nose? And you mentioned school - are you in high school or college? Think about the future - do you want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE with a drug addict? Not me.....
2007-02-21 10:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Robby's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Please don't do this to yourself & your baby. I'm going through a similar situation where alcohol & partying are more important than me and it SUCKS. If you're already done with him, then please stay done. Your child shouldn't be around drugs or jerks like your ex. The baby will be better off without him. Who knows? A nice guy may come along one day that is worthy of you & your baby. Good luck.
2007-02-21 10:03:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋