what does a man prefer? A career woman or a housewife? When can she express her right to be succesful?

Answer 1

U should express your right to be successful every time u walk into a room. I don't mean u should try to dominate other people but you r a woman and u are fully capable of doing anything that u put time into. I think that the whole concept of housewife is unfair to women because they shouldn't be expected to take care of a home by themselves when there r other people living there as well. Even if it is the agreement in the house that one party will work and the other will take care of the home, the "worker" should still pick up half of the slack when he/she gets home. If u ever run into a guy who thinks that u have certain responsibilities as a women then u shouldn't waste any time with him past that point. However the same goes for the reverse situation. U can't expect as a woman to be viewed as equal and at the same time believe that men have certain responsibilities just because they are men. U can't see a man who is more oriented with housework and criticize him. U can't believe that it is the guy's responsibility to make the first move in trying to start a relationship/propose marriage. U certainly can't get upset because a guy doesn't hold doors, pull out chairs or let u enter the room first because remember u can't be equal only in the times that u get some type of advancement out of it. Foret the gender roles and let everyone be what they are not what u expect them to be.

* I've ready a couple of the comments from other users. One of the recurring ideas is that a man expects this or prefers that. That's bull because "a man" doesn't expet anything. Human being expect things. There is no special position that people take naturally because they r men or women. I'm sure everyone want to come home to a hot meal and be spoiled by there spouse but who are we to just determine that it is more appropriate that men be the ones receiving that sort of treatment in relationships. If it comes to a point where two people need one to work and the other to stay home, it shouldn't be assume that the women is more fit to take care of home. It should be decided based upon who has the most potential of supporting the family indiffinitly as well as the personal issues that are specific to that family. I think that most of the answers posted here are just a testament to the brain-washing that has occurred on the grounds of sex and race. Why all the prejudices and presuppositions. Let people be themselves and stop saying thing like "women are this" or "men like that." U can't say what "men" want because we are not the same. It's not like we all grew up together and have innate preferences. When u ask what men or women want it's more like what society says that men or women SHOULD want based on what society says that we SHOULD be. I could talk about this 4 ever but alot of people still don't take anything away from it. JUST BE YOURSELF. The person worth being with will like u for that. If u don't want to be a housewife or business woman than don't be and don't let anyone force u into it. Relationships are about partnership. U should be willing to do whatever u expect of your partner when necessary and vice versa.

Answer 2

I think a woman should express her right to be successful BEFORE she agrees to marry. To do otherwise would mean that she married under false pretences.

Having said that, success must be measured from within.
There are successful career women, as well as successful housewives. I am sure that it is even possible to be a successful career woman, & a successful mother.
But in a marriage, success can't be accomplished without the full support of your spouse.

So what does a man prefer? I think most men in the long run would prefer to know what they are getting themselves into before they get married, so they can make that decision for themselves.

Answer 3

Wow that's a can of worms your asking. Or at least a well practised conundrum.

Working women are nice because they financially contribute to the household total incomes. But working women also have more exposure to other men in the outside world. Today's woman is becoming less and less tolerant and plenty of successful men out there that will gladly take your place.

However, in the same sense House Wives have issues of their own, mostly not actualizing their own self worth and having outside interests as much as they perhaps want or need and after 10, 15, 20 years they are escaping to find themselves. Sometimes throwing it all away to feel again like they did before this madness started.

I've seen both happen. It's not a pretty sight in either case. But that is the American way... We humans are a fickle bunch of people.

Answer 4

If you feel that your right to be successful is important, you should find a man that feels the same way. You can't expect a man that wants a soccer mom or a housewife to want you to pursue a career. Do what you think is right and a man that feels the same will find you.

Answer 5

A lot of men I talked to would really wish that he will marry someone who can stay at home and take care of their family. But due to financial pressures or problems they both NEED to work. So in my own opinion, men would really love to marry or live with someone who is flexible enough to assume roles ( as a career woman or housewife ), Depending on the situation. As to success, it will be the woman who would decide for herself the basis for her to determine if she is a success or not.
For me, a successful person or woman is someone who was able to accomplish her goals. That does not only mean career or financial or power . It encompasses all goals. Fitness, spiritual, psychological,etc

Answer 6

My personal experience with my husband is he much rather I be a house wife and come home to a clean home, hot dinner, back rubs and spoiled treatment then to have me working. I worked before and the whole family was miserable because I was spread too thin, I didn't have time for the house, the kids school work and my husband. Something always got the short end of the stick and it was usually the house work and my husband.

Some men like the business woman who is all work and bring home equal pay, depends on the type of man you go for.

Answer 7

Well I would love a wife and a career woman, who would want to express her success always. Some men don't want their wives working but me if she wants too, hey it's all good. Some men wnat a wife to be a housewife and stay home cook clean. Well I want one who idf she wants to work go for it and when we get home we can both share the housework and the cleaning. ANd besides who doesn't want a guy who knows how to cook. Well to me it's sexy when your wife comes home all dolled up and tired and you can go give her a shoulder rub and help her out of her clothes.

Answer 8

I have done both! Worked for 13 years while married with 3 children. As they got older and involved in more activities it was just a little harder to juggle everything. My husband I think prefers me at home now. But in a way I feel I am not as organized at home because I am not on a time-line.(as far as cleaning,cooking,etc). And housewives can also be INTELLIGENT! I guess maybe it all depends were you are in your marriage as far as kids, financial stability,and whatever you prefer to do.

Answer 9

That depends on the man. Some prefer career women, some don't. If you are asking in relation to your own personal relationships, you're asking the wrong parties. Try asking the man involved.

Answer 10

every women has a different dream. one would like to have a wonderful career and feel a little independent and another might just want to stay home with the kids and be a house wife. some men would rather have a wife with a carrer and some men would like it if their wife would stay home. every relationship is different. they key is communication. me on the the other hand, i am split down the middle. i know what i want to do career wise but on the other hand i wish i could just be home with my child and try for more children.