I'm always cool about that about peoples get angry with me whether i'm wrong or not but they never know whether i'm hurt inside until now i'll never forgived who ever hurt me back then. It's turned to be nightmare for me each days,months and years. Once i think i want to swear to them but i cant, really cant because it's not me...I'm so much hurt now and what can i do..
2007-02-21 01:42:19 · 6 answers · asked by zakaria z 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to forgive. Not for them - but for yourself. Try to put yourself in their (the one that hurt you) shoes. Granted, you are probably above doing the same thing they did, and them living with themselves for their actions is enough punishment. Pray for the ability to forgive. They are the ones that have to live with themselves and YOU are the bigger person for not treating someone else that way. For instance-I would rather be stuck with 10,000 burning needles then to even be capable of doing to another human being what my mother did to me. I don't live around her, but do have contact with her. I feel sorry for her because she has to live with what she did. When given the chance to retaliate, I also could not do it. I wouldn't like myself too much if I did. Forgive but not forget.
2007-02-21 02:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by KATHY A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look back. Try to find closure with your past and close that chapter of your life. Look toward the future and remember that other people may initiate you getting mad or upset, but you are actually the one upseting yourself. People that have hurt you will get their turn in due time. Let time do it's thing and be the better person in the situation. Live for the future and remember the good stuff and weed out all the negative. There is good out there and it's waiting for you.
2007-02-21 10:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I understand your question but I am going to give it a whirl.
So you have a calm exterior when someone is angry with you even if they are wrongly accusing you and even if you are hurt you don't show it until now.
I can't really sort out your past from your present tenses and your who's and your whats but I don't think that is necessary.
Forgiveness is what you are after.
How to deal with those who will not forgive you (you have no control over them, so having asked forgiveness you simply accept their response)
And how to forgive... this is a practice of reminding yourself over and over that you have made the decision to not hold anything against that person. (God desires to help you with this.)
Just keep reminding yourself that you are learning forgiveness and you are sticking with it.
Check out books from the library and read up on forgiveness.
2007-02-21 09:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if you were back then its no use keeping the grudges. the best way is to forgive coz its human to make mistakes ,s o just let it go and next time if u dont like the way people treat you just shout back that helps to ease out
2007-02-21 09:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by chandana b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life!
2007-02-21 09:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by stevemxusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might get some answers here...
http://superficial.sulekha.com/blog/posts.htm
try googling past life regressions.
2007-02-22 18:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Evans F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋