Should men have the right not to support their children?

Question

If a woman has the right to terminate a pregnacy, because of her right to chose. Should a man have the right to not take care of a child physically, finacially or emotionally if he clearly states in the beginning that he wants nothing to do with the child. A man could want to focus on his career, education, not want to children at the time, or a number of other reasons the woman might use to have an abortion. If a woman has a right to chose to be a parent or not, shouldn't the man have the same right? Its only fair and everyone claims to want to be equal.

I havfe some descent argument and al ot of stupid one's. A woman gets pregnant by spreading her legs, so don't put it on te man like its his fault. As far as contraceptives go, women have far more options than we do. If a man should be forced to take responsiblity, then shouldn't a woman. Everyone wants to treat the woman as if she's an innocent victim in all this.

Personally speaking I'm against abortion and I believe all men should take care of their children. But the same rules should apply for everyone. If the father wishes to keep the child, but mother wants an abortion. She chooses the outcome of that, because of her so called right t choose. Again I say its only fair.

Answer 1

Absolutely, especially if he's not been informed or has not been given the opportunity to make the decision with the mother. They say a man makes his choice when he decides to have sex. Well unless we're talking about rape, so does the woman - AND she has more contraceptive options - birth control pill, morning after pill, IUD, birth control shots, female condom, spermicidal insert... There's no male version of the pill. BELIEVE ME there would be far fewer pregnancies if there were such a pill, or even a shot.

Adoption is always an option, and so is the morning after pill and if needed, abortion while we still have the right. This is not to say that this would work in every case, but there are certainly many cases that can be seen as entrapment.

It can be argued that women get even more pleasure out of sex than men (multiple orgasm) so the arguments based on this being all the responsibility of men since they wanted to have a little fun is pure BS. Unless we're discussing rape, this is an act between two consenting adults who are both responsible for themselves first.

Answer 2

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Women have the right to choose just like people have the right to pick up a hammer and hit themselves in the head three, maybe four times. This does not make it the right thing to do. Once the child is born, there is no right to terminate. Even if the mother does not want the parental responsibility, the father can assume that role.

If a man (a real man) has a child, he should be as involved as he can be in that child's life. If the mom is that stupid, I can't imagine what the guy saw in her to begin with, let alone why he allowed himself to actually have sex with her. But regardless of her, he should do what is right for the child. Not what people think is right or wrong.

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Answer 3

Hmmm thats a really tough one.

but think of the single mums who cant work that have to raise the child with no support from the male.
that would be very hard.
and giving up a baby to abortion is not as simple as that.
its a live changing decision that will haunt you for the rest of your life "if i kept that baby he would have been 1 today" is just 1 example
think of all the emotional problems
And you'd feel as though you've killed an innocent baby (in which you have)
perhaps giving birth , and then giving the baby up for adoption, but i think thatll be more emotional draining as you would bond with it much more having it in your stomach for 9 months and giving birth to it.

so id have to say, i really do believe that it would be wrong for a father not to support his child.

the father should take every precation possible not to be in a possition where the female could fall pregnant, even if that means no sexual intercourse at all if he cannot commit to a lifetime of supporting his child

Answer 4

If he really doesn't want to be a part of this child's life he can sign away his parental rights. As ridiculous as it sounds, it's true, and obviously I don't agree with abortion (there are some instances where I would seriously look at the situation, but never follow through with something like that), I couldn't fathom hurting myself or my child.

Answer 5

no i dont think its right to kill an unborn child and i think a man should except the responsibility of making a child and taking care of it. JUST LIKE THE WOMAN SHOULD. if ur gonna have sex use protection so u dont have a child and if u dont use protection and u end up having a baby then u need to GROW UP and EXCEPT the RESPONSIBILITY that u CHOSE to have. ppl need to take on the responsibility of their actions. thats one thing thats wrong w/this world today. every 1 takes the easy way out.

Answer 6

It all depends on the circumstances. If the guy was just playin around and the women get pregnant then it is his responsibility to help.
Now if a women comes to a man and says "I want you to father a baby for me and you don't have to have any responsibility", then I think he should be off the hook. The courts however don't see it that way.

Answer 7

the day a man decides over a womans body, is the day a woman WILL NOT tell a man she is preggers.

period.

yeah she spread her legs, but she didnt spread it alone, someone was there with a love sword, and more then likely no wrap.

so, it is what it is. its not easy on anyone involved; the man, the woman or the child... they all struggle, but we all do the best we can.

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Answer 8

If a man wants nothing to do with a child that he fathered or doesn't want a child in the first place then he shouldn't have unprotected sex.

If he fathers a child then he had better assume responsibility.

That is what is fair.

Answer 9

There are a lot of other issues in this one question. But ultimately, the man made or helped to make the decision to have a child. When you have unprotected sex that results in a preganancy, you have made that choice. So if you've made the choice to make a child, you should be responsible for it.

*shrug* Works that way for women, as far as I am concerned. I know there will be other answers that object to this one, and there are reasons why "the choice" was made without someone's consent/knowledge/et cetera. But purely generalizing, that is my answer.

Answer 10

A man makes his choice when he decides to have sex. There is always a chance that a woman might get pregnant. Always. So he needs to be thinking about that before he inserts his penis. And make the choice then. That is his right.

And pulling out does not prevent pregnancy. It only takes one sperm and there are millions in the pre lubrication. You don't have to ejaculate to get a woman pregnant. Don't even put it in there.