what do I do when I get home before she has the baby? and what do I do after? how should I act WHEN i AM WITH HER AND THE BABY? WHO GETS THE MOST ATTENTION? I am so nervous at this time
2007-02-21 00:19:46 · 17 answers · asked by Andre 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Awww bless your heart! Congrats, too! This is by far the best question I've seen on here yet.
Just do what you'd normally do (well at least I hope you'd do!). Just comfort your wife as I'm sure the closer she gets to delivery, she may be getting a bit uncomfortable and irritable. Help her out with the daily tasks of life and family. If you have other children right now, then offer to take them out for the day and let your wife have the day all to herself.
Wow, I could lists thousands of ways to help her out and how to act, but ultimately, I think a lot of it will just come natural!
When your new baby comes, just be a dad. It really isn't hard, I promise! Offer to change the baby!! LOL
As far as who gets the most attention? They both get the most attention! You'd be surprised how much love you can share equally between two people. It's such a blessing and honor to be a parent and spouse! I completely understand your nervousness. My husband was in Korea at the time of our daughter's birth and he, too, was nervous as could be. She was born premature so he wasn't able to make it for her birth and asked the same questions you are now... when he got home and saw us there and met his daughter for the first time, it all came natural to him as I'm positive it will for you, too!
So long as you're willing to help your wife with tending to your son's diaper changes, feedings, baths, etc, I'm sure you'll make a great dad. It's not hard. A bit of advice from me to you would be, "don't forget the mom!" So often people bring new gifts for the baby, but seem to forget how much the mom endured during pregnancy and labor! If you're fortunate enough to be there for the birth, then make sure to give her a nice and thoughtful gift for after the birth of your son. It doesn't have to be expensive either! A nice basket of bath stuff would be fantastic. Something with maybe some bath salts, lotion, a relaxing scented candle... you know, stuff she can soak in a nice bath with while you take care of the baby. You'd be surprised how much women (especially moms!) appreciate the smallest of gifts so long as the heart is behind them.
I don't want to take up 4 pages of advice in this one spot so feel free to email if you'd like some extra help! Again, it'll all come natural and as long as you're ready and able to help out, then you're already on the right path to being a great dad! Congratulations again!
2007-02-21 00:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on a little honey moon before the baby comes . Let your wife know how beautiful she is everyday and buy her a bracelet with something engraved in it with a symbol that represents you her and the baby like 3 charms that attach to the bracelet . Act so happy and show them all the love you have inside . The wife would require more cause the baby will sleep allot . Make your wife dinner and buy a card when they come home to say thank you for having my baby and being such a loving wife . Calm down you will do fine . Congratulations on your family .
2007-02-21 00:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Me777 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get home before the baby is born, be good to your wife, give her lots of love. After the baby is born, love your wife and your son. Your son will be needing lots of attention from both you and your wife. And I mean LOTS of attention! So don't feel left out. Bringing a baby into the world is a lot of work. Very rewarding work. Be as involved as you can with both baby and mom. Don't be afraid to help, or if you don't know what to do, ask your wife what she would like for you to do. She'll love you for it.
2007-02-21 00:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She'll get the most attention during labor and delivery. But you're bound to get attention too since you'll be coming home after a few months. When you get home before the baby, just relax and enjoy each other until the lil ones comes. Afterward, enjoy the new baby and help her in any way you can. You need to act like yourself, since you'll be the proud new daddy. Congrats on coming home and Congrats and good luck being a new Daddy!
2007-02-21 00:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get home, just show here lots of love and attention like you always have. After you've had some time together, see if there's anything she needs or needs help with before the baby comes.
Believe me, when the baby comes, it's an adjustment, but the two of you will figure out how to handle it just perfectly.
2007-02-21 00:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations Daddy! It's normal to be very nervous.
#1-If you get home before she has the baby, you love her and talk to "the belly" alot. It will seem very silly, but it will help you bond with the baby.(The baby will also recognize your voice later!)
#2-You try to help her after as much as possible. This is the tough part, but remember, it gets fun.
#3- You act like the loving, wonderful man you are.
#4- Unfortuately, the baby needs more attention than you right now, but its cute when he/she is sleeping to cuddle your wife and say " Baby, I need some lovin' too." (Not a good idea if your wife was up all night though)
Talk about your fears and hopes and excitement with her now. It really helps your communication and relationship.
2007-02-21 00:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Pekoe90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you do when you get home is love her and cuddle her and rub her feet. Enjoy the last few days you have together where you can sleep uninterrupted, and let her know how happy you are to be back home with her. Treasure her.
After the baby arrives, wallow in your new parenthood with her. Enjoy your baby together. Support each other. Help her as much as you can, learn to change diapers together, how to bathe the baby, change his clothes, mix his bottles, burp him. Discover the joys of functioning on very little sleep. Become enraptured at the sight of tiny baby yawns.
You will know how to act when you are with them. It comes naturally, I promise.
The baby pretty much demands the most attention, but make sure that the two of you give each other time for cuddles and love, too.
You'll do fine, it sounds like you have the right kind of heart. Congratulations, Papa!
2007-02-21 00:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before the baby...help haer out as much as possible. She's probably tired. After the baby still help out with chores and things like that. the baby will get most of the attention. Once you see your little bundle of joy you'll be fixed upon her so much. Don't be nervous just relax and enjoy your wife and baby.
2007-02-21 00:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you have been gone for 4 months then you probably feel sort of out of touch with whats going on. Just relax and let the baby get the most attention this time. You will get yours later!!!
2007-02-21 00:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you American American or you both are just white complected? First dont think of the worst come on be there for her second only because he came out looking african american doesnt mean he isnt yours or that your wife is cheating. What about yours or her great great grandmother or other family you dont know might be african american. Dont take it to extreme and think wrong about your wife he is yours no matter what brcause you both are married (i suggest because you say wife) so that baby was born inside a marriage.
2016-05-24 01:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋