should i have a baby for everyone else?

Question

i got married at 1n7 on my own accord but now i feel like everyone is pressurizing me into having a child i mean i wouldn't mind and i think i am responsible enough , mature enough and ready to be a mum and also in a stable relationship, but i sometimes feel like i would be having the baby for everyone but myself

Answer 1

Don't give in to pressure from other people. You have a baby if and when you want to. It's nobody else' business. You will be the one who has to bring the child up. :)

Answer 2

You may want to actually do some research into this, the baby boomers have little to do with bankrupting a system that was not set up to handle the current influx of the population. When SS was set up, it was to handle individuals for the rest of theit natural life span which at the time was only about 10 years after retirement, it also assumed there would be enough young people joining the work force to cover the income required to maintain this. The baby boomers did not open the "flood gate" for illegal immigrantion but rather the business owners who wanted to make additional profits of individuals while paying them below a living wage under the table. The current credit crisis about brought on by poorly thought out policy changes put into place by the Carter administration, and continued through the Clinton administration, which he admitted to on national TV. It is those who are not part of the "baby boomers" who will not accept the fact that the SS system needs to be changed in order to insure funds are available in the future, it is up to the current generation of home buyers to insure they do not overextend their credit and purchasing homes priced beyond their means and allowing loans for individuals who cannot prove they are able to pay it back. The stocks have their balancing act every so many years, this is nothing new. If you are young and have a 401K, you will see this about every 8-10 years. everything you mention, has happened before and will happen again. Maybe you should encouarge the privatization of SS like President Bush wanted to insure there is funding for future generations rather than sitting on your behind expecting others to take care of you. No one generation is responsible for another generation, you are responsible for creating plans that continue to work or reform old plans to meet the changing needs of the populations. And to figure out how to do this without further taxation which will bankrupt the nation. BTW for the individual who stated the baby boomer were the "me" generation, you also may want to take a hard look around, as the baby boomers are those who do more charity work, contribute to charities, and have often worked for decades to provide for their families. Do not assume the leftist hippies are all that was produced during the baby boomer years. The current generations are more "me" focused than ever before in history as the person asking this proves.

Answer 3

You should never have a child because someone else wants you to. You are the one who will have to care for this child and raise it for the rest of its life. This is something you need to be ready for and only you can make that decision. I can very much appreciate how parents want grandchildren and brothers and sisiters want to be aunts an uncles but this is a decision for you and your husband to make together. You will know whaen the time is right...I never believed it when people told me that because I have been out on my own since 17 and have never wanted a child. I never felt that feeling everyone else felt (that need to have a baby) the when i turned 29 I got it. Everyone is different and gets it at different times in life but PLEASE only have a baby for you! Good Luck

Answer 4

I was in this situation. You should not have a baby for others. You need to have a wonderful bond with your baby and you simply won't if you have the baby for others. You need to work on your self esteem and develop more. I waited until I was ready and a good thing I did because it was a rough pregnancy and it was my head in the toilet and my suffering to bear alone. It was my choice in the end and I accomplished this by standing up for myself and telling people to mind their business. Don't be pressured, Your body clock will let you know when the time is right.

Answer 5

Oh no! Perhaps you are finanically ready, relationship ready, and all other types of ready - but you have to be emotionally ready!! I would advice not having a baby just yet. When you are ready you will know - it feels like falling in love! Enjoy your time being free from responsibilities and demands that come along with parenting! You have plenty of time! :-)

Answer 6

No way, you will not be happy cause your not ready for that next step into grown up life. your still a baby and need to live a bit more before you bring a child into this world. U have 2 be financially stable, have a great job(college), a house, and be happily married,

Answer 7

I think that, provided that you have a few childbearing years ahead of you, you should take time before haing babies. Enjoy your life as a woman with no responsibilities. Enjoy your freedom. Having a baby is hard work and if you dont REALLY want it with every fibre of your being, i anticipate that it will be REALLY hard work. I always wanted a child and yet even I had moments when i briefly longed to go back to being childless!!

DOnt ever have children for someone else, motherhood is too great/burdensome a task to do for someone else. trust me.

Answer 8

you should really sit down and think of what would be best for you. if you are not ready to bring a child into the world, then wait. if you get pregnant because everyone wants you to, you could have regrets and maybe depression during or afterwards. having a baby should be one of the happiest times of your life!make sure you are ready for it! good luck to you, i hope it works out!

Answer 9

You should never get pregnant out of peer pressure, or pressure from elsewhere. It is an awesome responsibility, and it will take up the bulk of your time for the next 4-8 years.

Answer 10

Defiantely not, do not have a baby or even consider having a baby until you are ready. It is no-one elses decision but your own