2007-02-20 23:28:59 · 26 answers · asked by Dreamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My man...I've been there before. First of all you're dealing with a "seven year itch" so to speak. You're probably bored with your wife and are either looking for some excitement or wanting to know if other women find you attractive. I was infactuated with my sister-in-law. It always seemed like I had married the wrong one. But, I'll be honest. Keep it to yourself. It's not worth hurting your wife's feelings or destroying a whole family because you like your wife's sis. Be prepared if you tell her how you feel, that she will probably tell your wife, unless she feels the same about you. But, that's a HUGE gamble and as I said before, IT'S NOT WORTH IT.
2007-02-20 23:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem with feeling attracted. Thats probably something that you cant change. Your reaction to those feelings, however, is something you have total control over. It's kind of creepy that you have a thing for your wife's sister, though.
You have no choice but to resist the urge. That means, you must NEVER do anything about it. Dont tell her, dont every be alone with her, NOTHING. You cannot do anything about it. If the urges are too great and you are too weak to control them, move your family far away from her. It's much easier however to just accept the attraction and leave it at that. You will destroy an entire family (and get officially labeled as white trash if give into the feelings)
2007-02-21 07:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Freak Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do anything with this attraction you will be destroying your wife, destroying your marriage, destroying for life the relationship between your wife and her sister if she acts on it. If you are not happy in your marriage get out of it and do everyone a huge favor and let your wife find a man that loves her truly. You are overestimating yourself here, and if that sister went for you, I would say she was very very low class sorry to say and hasnt got any morals or values. Like I said leave and let your wife have peace.
2007-02-21 08:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try telling that to ur wife, im sure she'll invite her sister over for a threesome... WAKE UP!
this is a big no-no! dun u know women are super jealous in relationships, let alone a fantasy of her own husband on her sister? its betrayal, embarassment, and all the bad stuff to her. if u are dying to get a divorce, please try to bed the sister. otherwise, try to find more attractive factors in your own wife.
in chinese sayings, there's always a "7th year itch" for married men... which means when a marriage comes to 7th yr, the guys will normally have the higher possibility of having an ex-martial affair... : )
If you love your wife... you know what to do. and u'll be glad that u didnt do anything despite ur lust and desire when u are still holding ur wife's hands at the age of 80. : )
2007-02-21 07:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, try to distance yourself from her sister and start to think about what made you fall in love with your wife in the first place, too many people will get hurt! Put it down to a crush, and spend some quality time with your wife!
2007-02-21 07:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, did your wife get bitchy fat over the past few years while the sister kept in shape? It's infatuation. Keep it to yourself and maybe suggest that your wife join a gym or take a chill pill!
2007-02-21 07:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married to your wifes sister you would be attracted to your wife Yall men always wanting what you dont have. Sheesh,get a life, you cant have it all!
2007-02-21 07:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by sandra b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal but still wrong, i mean this person looks like your wife whom you love, but what you feel for the sister is not love,you are just confused because she looks like you wife so much.
2007-02-21 07:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by no2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were a lover man instead of boy you would understand that that is a road you can NEVER travel.
Best to forget about that one.
Actually it would be best to forget about all of them except your wife.
You are married. It is your lot that you chose willingly, remember?
2007-02-21 08:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should speak to your wife about it, so maybe you can see what is wrong in your marriage that is making you feel this attraction.youcant always help who you are attracted to, but you can try to fix it before alot of people get hurt
2007-02-21 07:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋