My boy friend has female friends, and yes I have a problem with it. not because they are females, but the fact that he has them in his cell phone contact list. And when I ask to see his phone, he locks the contact list. He said that they are just friends, But he keeps them hidden from me and I don't know any of them. We have been together for a year and a half and I don't know any of his female friends. I have known him for years, and was friends before we became intimate. We broke up once over this , but we can't seem to get over each other. And I love him much, and he said he feels the same all the time. But his love is questionable because when we broke up he had sex with a woman a day after. After time passed we was back together.Then one day we made passionate love, very emotional, and I felt his love for me. Two days after this he had sex with the same woman .In my face he told the woman of his love me. And that he wanted me and would never leave me.He did apologized, but...
2007-02-20 23:24:16 · 15 answers · asked by lmj747 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have a right to mistrust him i would not trust him either, why should he hide things do you hide things, probably no, he needs to grow up and stop being so self centred, tell him from me selffish people end up lonely people. what goes around comes around.
. he has to consider your thougght and feeling and how unhappy this is making you. something is going on and its suspictious go out with someone else let him have his girls and he will do the same to them as hes done to you, they don,t change that easily and you wont change him. sorry but its the truth.
2007-02-20 23:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by denny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and Yes She should have told you about this "friend" the first time he got in touch with her. Also why weren't you the boyfriend invited to this lunch? You can bet your last dollar if the shoe was on the other foot and it was you taking a former "friend" to lunch it wouldn't be" Okay sure" coming out of her mouth! I would flat out tell her you want to meet this old "friend" from her past, that you are a couple and it's important to you to get to know all her friends who are important to her. Then figure out a place and time to invite him,ahead of telling her, then right after to drop it on her before she can make any excuses have her call him right that min. Better yet you have her phone alot you just call him and invite him first then tell her. Her reaction will tell you everything! But you know the trust between the two of you has already been compromised by her actions. My final words go with your heart you are young and have so much life to experience don't let this one bog you down put the ball in her court . Good luck
2016-05-24 01:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one has nothing to hide, one hides nothing.
Why you don't have any respect for yourself. This guy is a moron. If he'll have sex with a woman right after breaking up with you, ( I think he's been seeing other women all along)then have sex with you, your concern should be STD's and HIV.
Of course he would tell this woman "in your face" that he loves you. SHE DOES NOT CARE. They're just frac buddies.
Wear the label "STUPID" with pride. You're not alone. There's a crap load of women like you out there.
2007-02-20 23:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question should be "How long should I be a door-mat to my boy-friend?"
Dont mean to be rude but WAKE-UP lady... you wanna spend rest of your life wondering if he is sleeping with someone or the other? Leave him... sooner or later you WILL get over him and find someone of your temparament. It will hurt.. surely... but that would be the best thing to do.
2007-02-20 23:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by TulipGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
me being a guy, i understand, i have the same problem about the trust factor with my wife. yes she thinks i would cheat on her in a heart beat but not the case al all. dont get me wrong, guys out will do that but not all. when girls have guy friends, us guys cant accuse them of cheating. so why should they. all in all, my opion is if he his really cheating, he'll mess up and youll find out. just prepare yourself before that happens.
2007-02-20 23:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by jedi1medic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok locking phone you trust him? he would not keep them hidden if they were just friends and he would introduce you to them.he wants his cake and eat it too, maybe he wants all of you at the same time and cant make up his mind. i would dump him there are a lot of nicer guys out there he sounds like a jerk
2007-02-20 23:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by freeflow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he not worth it if he cheats why put up with it have more respect for your self you a independent lady get rid of the jerk and go find your self a prince!!!! cheaters will always be cheaters ( you cant change a leopards spots)
2007-02-20 23:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by persian gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems a bit shallow. I wouldn't trust him at all. Be prepared for a lot of pain and hurt.
2007-02-20 23:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
up to you.. if you think your love is stronger then his cheating ways.. and if you think thats okay.. then sure stay with him
i dont think its that you love him so much you think its okay to be cheated on.. its more that you think you can't do any better..
and you can
2007-02-20 23:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser so dump him if he cheated once he will do it again you can do better.
2007-02-21 00:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋