I spent the past year splitting from my ex and we are almost divorced. I am with a new guy who loves me but is very jealous. My friends say I should wait, but he loves me and wants to marry me and have a baby. Am I headed for trouble or should I get remarried?
2007-02-20 22:14:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say to ask yourself the following: Can I see myself spending the rest of my life with this jealous man?
Be truthful to yourself with your answer. And listen to your friends...that is what they are there for.
2007-02-20 22:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My initial response to your question was that you should wait. Then I compared your situation to one I experienced. I got divorced in March, started dating a new guy in September and married him in November, all of the same year. We've been married for 16 years now, so I'll have to say if you think he's the one, go for it. I'd wait on the baby, though. That changes everything. Spend some time together first. Good luck!
2007-02-21 06:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should wait. You are just nearly been released from "prison", and now you want to enter it again. Why? Why is this guy so anxious to put a tie around your neck. Do he want to own you? If he really loves you like he says he does, then he must give you time to find yourself again. After all, you still can be together as friends and lovers, without getting married. Get to know each other really well before taking the big step, otherwise this one is also going down the divorce court. Think twice....
2007-02-21 06:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by Blacksabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, you say he is very jealous. Is he wanting to get married because he is really in love or because he is jealous and thinks this is a way to make sure you are his. I think that I would tell him that you are not getting married for sometime. That you will see him but marriage is out of the question for now.. This way you can find out how far this jealousy thing will go. Sometimes jealousy turns into physical abuse. HOLD OFF.
2007-02-21 08:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are headed for some really big trouble. I would dump the jealous jerk and move on. Jealous people have some really deep mental issues that only tend to get worse over time. You need to run as fast and far away from this dude as you can.
2007-02-21 06:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not yet. Allot has happened in the last year you need some time to yourself. Alone completely alone you do not want to be with him if he was just a rebound partner.
Don't cheat yourself or him, make sure he is the guy you want with no doubt at all.
Take a month or two to be alone and get to know yourself again. If you do decide that you want to be with this new guy you need to make sure you have no extra baggage with you from the past marriage.
2007-02-21 06:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are headed for trouble you don't go from one relationship to another besides that you are not even divorced yet you know there is a thing called adultry and yoor soon to be ex could you that against you
2007-02-21 06:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his jealousy may flatter u now, but later on it will get quite old to have to deal with. i would not marry this person, as he will not make u happy like u think he will. you will be divorced in no time. love isn't about jealousy, this guy has some issues.
2007-02-21 06:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course u are. Thats a rebound and it always looks better than the last one. U might be rushing into an abusive relationship.
2007-02-21 06:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take time for yourself before you rush back into another marriage you have not even given yourself time to be single again, if he loves you he won't push you so hard into getting married.
2007-02-21 06:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋