married for over twelve years, husband has always had poor sex drive, most often no sex drive, haven't had sex in over six years. he tells me he loves me, i've had a couple of affairs just for the physical aspect of it, i really not very happy in the realationship, but i dread the thought of dating.
2007-02-20 21:59:34 · 17 answers · asked by harley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consult a doc.
2007-02-21 00:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not personally tolerate being married to a man that ignored my sexual needs for 6 years. He's either gay or he's cheating on you, or he's a child molestor. Sorry but it's true. Hello!!!! You need to seriously need to think about getting out of that relationship. God did not intend for you to marry a man, and be treated this way. In all honesty, how have you been able to feel loved? You are worthy of the beauty that a healthy relationship can provide. How can you persue a worthwhile loving relationship if you cant let go of Mr. Wrong???????? I was single for 10 years as a single mother, before I met my husband. If I would have stayed with my 1st husband, I would have continues to be miserable. You cant let the fear of the unknown stop you. You can either take the guarentee of unhappiness, or you can have a chance. Im not one to take marriage lightly, but geez, get a room mate, it would be a better deal. At least you would not have the responsibilities of matrimony, and who cares if HE loves you, how can you believe that when he doesn't even want you in the way a man wants a woman?!
2007-02-20 22:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, move on.. It's time to let go, you can possibly think that this is going anywhere, and I'ts not just because he is bad in bed is more than that, this is driving you to have affairs and when you have affairs at the long run you start to feel bad about your self.It's better to date than to have affairs. Just let go and start over 12 years is a long time and you are just wasting your time with this man, you have the right to be happy and you are not happy.. my adivce at this point for you is to leave him and start new, good luck.
2007-02-21 00:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should stay with your husband no ever if he have a poor sex drive haven"t sex in six years and you sure not of had a couple of affairs
2007-02-20 22:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Sex" is one thing. Absence of wanting Sex, is the sginal that Love is gone. The aspect that you've fooled around, several tmes. Is proof that Love has left the Building. I'd say end it nicley as possible. But don't go offering yourself, just to get warm between your Legs. If you search for Love. Ans only offer to "Make Love"? You may find that Desire, return. I'm Divorced. Ans I know how painful it can be. The Best of "Love" to ya!
2007-02-20 22:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are not happy and havent been for years, then what is the point??? You shouldnt have to resort to affairs, your husband should have done something for you......... I know what its like and been there myself and know just how soul destroying it really is - and I feel for you. Just get out of it, and change how you think instead of dreading it, imagine how exciting it might be... Best of luck and good hunting (lol)
2007-02-20 22:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by Eve M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its true marriage is about vows and in health and sickness...but marriage is also about sex...other than being there in good and in bad for each other....part of marrige is sex...sex is ought to bring the couple more closer...there are religions that allowa the breech of marriage vows if one of the party's are not satisified sexually...divorce is 10 times better than cheating and being sinful...after all sex is a human need just as food and water...Moral is if ur not happy get out of it and yes sex is importat..but find a proper partner
2007-02-20 22:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Meme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be worse? you could be a man with a a wife that has low sex drive and no ambition. yes the thought of dating crazy, wacked out women has kept me from leaving as well!!
2007-02-20 22:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to have sex but in my opinion its not good to have extra marital affairs.Try talking to your husband then you can use vibrators while he is making love to you.When you cheat on your husband it will hurt him more to know that you don't support him.Love is one thing accepting one as he is,is another thing.
2007-02-20 23:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by cheupe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are staying in an unhappy relationship and haven't had sex with your husband for 6 years because you dread the thought of dating???????? you had to meet the men you had affairs with somewhere......
2007-02-20 22:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the only thing in your relationship you are not happy with is sex why dont use just buy yourself a vibrator?
2007-02-20 22:10:27 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica Rabbit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋