why do women get lazy???

Question

ok i realize that i am walking on thin ice here and i realize that this assumption doesnt apply to every woman, so here i go. it just seems that if a man is successfull enough to allow their wife to stay home and not work for a few years that they will never want to go back to work, why is that?? i mean i am a professional and make a good living, so my wife stayed home for a few years while the kids were young. now that the kids are old enough to take care of themselves she doesnt want to even work part time. the same thing happened to a friend of mine as well. so why do you ladies get so damn lazy?? should this be a warning to men to never let their wife stay home or what????????????????????

Answer 1

If she is still doing housework and taking care of the kids(kids still need to be looked after even after the reach the age they start getting self-sufficient), then she isn't lazy. If you are still comfortable and don't need the extra income, what's the big deal? Since when is a person's worth in a marriage dependant upon how much money they make, and if they aren't making any at all, they are lazy? I don't know why I'm answering considering this: "successful enough to allow their wife to stay home" or "let their wife stay home". Since when is it about whose letting/allowing who to do what in a marriage? It should be a mutual decision, not something that is "given" by one spouse to another.

Why don't you ask YOUR WIFE why she doesn't want to go back to work(in a non-accusatory way) instead of talking bad about her to strangers on a very public forum?

Answer 2

Funny this was started 8 years ago and there's a good chance that this lady and most like her are still doing as little as they can to get by . Stop sugar coating everything and just admit it. There are a lot of lazy females out in the world .There are lazy men to go along with that .But making excuses to as why they are not lazy,will help no one . No she is not lazy because she does not want to work . She is lazy because she sits on her tub all day while kids are at school and watches soaps or whatever .Shes lazy because after doing that ,she commands her kids to do all the chores she neglected during the day . Shes lazy because she has no desire or motivation to work in any form ,ever again. Being a mom is the toughest job and i have no want to try and fill that role .. But don't sit around and use the title to get you by .Get up and earn the title....

Answer 3

Does she manage the house full-time? Laundry, dishes, general housekeeping, shopping (for kids, groceries, etc.), managing doctor's appointments/taxes, after school activities, getting up with the kids at night if they are sick, and more? If she does, then she already has a full-time job.Not to mention what having kids can do to your energy level (for years). And you want her to take on a part-time job, too? Are you going to do the same? After you come home from your day job, head over to your part-time job? Or will you pitch in around the house more to make up for her being gone at work? Is this a financial necessity at this point? If it's not I would encourage her to get involved with the community or volunteer (if she doesn't already), take college classes or community ed. classes while the kids are at school (and make sure you help her out more around the house), etc.
Most people don't realize what a hard job being a stay-at-home mom can be. It's also hard to 'switch' jobs and worry about how everything that needs to be taken care of around the house is going to get done. Plus, even if the kids are in school things still happen - they may get sick at school, get into trouble, etc. and it's hard to find a job that will give you the kind of flexibility to just take off whenever your family needs you to. Let her enjoy being at home but encourage her to take up a hobby.

Answer 4

The kids are old enough to care for themselves. Lot you know. Are your children teens? If they are more teens get into trouble after school and before their parents get home than at any other time of the day. Are they in elementary school? Who takes care of them after school? Who cleans your house? Who does the laundry? Who does your yard work? Most stay-at-home Moms do all of these things. Is your dinner ready when you get home? Does your wife try to keep herself attractive so that you will want to make love with her? How many of these things could you do along with taking care of the children? How many of these things would you help with if she had a job? I bet you are the kind of man who says that is woman's work and wouldn't lift a finger to help her. By the way how is it lazy to work around the house all day. Could you afford to pay someone to do all the things she does? Last time they added up all the things a housewife does it came to over $300,000 per year. You got that kind of money? The only one in your marriage who needs to change their attitude is you.

Answer 5

We're not getting lazy,It's just when you have worked and dealing with the stress on the job it's to much now that we have a chance to stay home and know things are getting taking care of ,We just relax and take it easy.I stay at home now and you're right I 'm not ready to go back to work we're fine.PS If things get out of control you know your your wife has your back and will go back out in the work force.Relax and change your way of thinking,Lazy is such a bold and nasty word coming from your husband.Handle your business and make your wife feel loved and appreciated.

Answer 6

first i have a problem with the way you stated this question

you " let" your wife stay home to take care of the kids ?

i really doubt she is lazy have you thought OK bad choose of words for you let me restate that

has it ever crossed your mind that may-be she is scared that she no longer has the skills to keep up out there or that all the younger better looking women will get the positions and from what i see from your question you are not being allot of help to her and I'm sure your the kind of guy that has not taking the time to sit down with her and talk about this with her

Answer 7

TJ, it not about laziness. I am sure she occupies herself fully with domestic arrangements. To test, do you cook (breakfast lunch and dinner), keep the house clean, bathe the children, put them to bed, settle arguments, keep them entertained, iron, do the laundry, shopping, etc. ? The list goes on. If you do the majority of these things, then she probably could be classed as lazy if there is nothing else wrong with her.

If you come back to a spotless serene house, she is a very hard worker and a billion miles plus away from lazy.

On the getting back to work thing, it sounds more personal. It is scary getting back into work if you have been out of it for a long time. Fear, dread, low self esteem/lack of confidence all come into play. You probably need to go easy on the judgement thing. You wanted her to stay at home, she stayed at home she probably loves it at home. The question is why should she go back to work? Do you now resent her for being at home? You need to consider your motives

Also if she does not want to go into working for someone, what about her working from home for herself?

Be the gentle soul that I am sure your are.

Answer 8

Okay so the kids are older and can take care of them self's. Yea right; I bet they still depend on their mother for food, clean clothes ect.. I bet you still depend on your wife for your meals, clean clothes, clean house, shopping for the food, answer the phone, sex.
So tell me if she was to get a part time job who is going to help her around the house. I am sure it won't be you or the kids.
She will be stuck doing the same thing as before plus more.
Want to know how i know that, because I am their now.
I quit work like my husband wanted for 15 years now I am working again just in the past year full time & plus.
I still do the house, kids, husband, pets, bills, mowing,and taking care of the mother-law ect... and no matter how many times I ask for help. I dont get it and beleive me i ask.
So who is it that really gets lazy her or the ones she is taking care of.

Answer 9

Why have you posted this question so many times?

anyways

Its the duty of men to earn the livelihood for the whole family including wife and children. Women only share that burden for the sake of their darlings and earn too. Its not mandatory on her part to earn her livelihood if she does'nt want to be called as lazy. In your case, I would say that women tend to lose more energy during their pregnancy, child birth etc., which develops fatigue in the body. Activeness in her days would keep her moving and if she stops, fatigueness eat her up.

I have some tips - Check her lipid profile, Thyroxin level, Sugar level etc., to rule out any possible difficiencies. Thyroid Imbalance causes severe fatigueness which is normally called as lazyness. Diabetics and High Cholesterol in the body makes her days most tidious and would make her feel tired. Some women during menopause would also behave lazy.

BUT PLEASE DONT CALL HER LAZY.

Answer 10

I agree with scot gal and the others. She bore your babies. Yet you call her lazy to earn. Men do the earning and the women do the chores at home. I am ashamed of you for askin why she is lazy. But its your wife. If I were your wife I would have given you left and right. This wife of yours must be a sad thing. I presume you are from India. I am also from India. I work and am the AVP of a US firm. I plan to leave and get married. My hubby wants me to be a home maker. I also love to take care of him and plan to do so. I may work but thats up to me coz I have my own dreams and he respects that. You seem not to even respect your wife. Get a grip and be happy she gave you babies and made love to you. Trust me being a woman is not easy. It is hard. Start counting your blessings.