I was a tomboy when I was younger, all my childhood friends were boys. I was never really into girly stuff. Now I'm 24 and people don't really comment that I'm a tomboy anymore. I do like certain types of girls to hang out with, but I find myself being involuntarily bitchy about girls i don't like (ie girls who try and be close friends with my boyfriend) I want to like more girls, but I have a distrust that I can't seem to shake off.
The only reason it's a problem is because I come across as insecure and possibly a bit jealous around my boyfriend, which is not a good look.
What can I do? sometimes I feel like I am just making small talk/ chit chat with girls because I have nothing of interest to say to them.
I think I like being the only girl in my group of only guy friends. I only live with guys, I play in a band with only guys.
2007-02-20 21:56:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am definitely not a lesbian! I just feel more comfortable around guys as friends, ie, if you fall out with a guy, he will tell you he's pissed off at you, you have a chat and it's all good again. Fall out with a girl and it's full on warfare!
2007-02-20 22:08:17 · update #1
If you can't beat them, join them.....your chit chat with other girls is a good start and a healthy solution to dealing with other women.
The fact is, you might not relate to them as well as you do with men. I know I don't.....I play video games, I chat online, etc.....My husband is the emotional one and I'm the stern one. I don't deal well with emotions as well as he does, but since we met is when I started learning that I don't have to be fu-fu to be attractive.
He likes it when I take control, or be aggressive in any situation. Find where your comfort zones are and then make an effort toward other women, or if you don't like it, just be who you are....there is nothing wrong with having only male friends. The "friends" I think I have are just into their children and telling me about how "nino" has grown so much last year, like my son hasn't grown also :-( Its boring listening to fu fu types about kids or clothing or how much they gained during pregnancy, etc.....
I like sports and I'm very competitive. I own a PSP and no other guy can beat me at tennis yet.....I think it's ok for women to be different than Hollywood fu fu and like different types of things.
2007-02-20 22:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is not you, maybe it is the girls that are coming around. I was also a tomboy and now I work in an office with 7 other women. I still find myself getting very bitchy with the wrong kind of girls. Just make sure it is the women you mistrust and not your boyfriend
2007-02-20 22:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so like you not wanting to do the whole girly stuff probably thats why i don't have much girlfriends i hang around a lot of guys and though i have a bf he doesn't coz he know i wouldn't do anything stupid. There's no problem in not wanting to hang out with girls but why i don't hang out with girls often they gossip too much and can easily get you in trouble so personally i'd rather stick to being one of the guys even if i don't look like one.
2016-03-29 05:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a Mom for a very long time. Please do not take offense of what I am going to tell you. You seem to be gay inclined...as you are more comfortable around the boys...you are not jealous from other girls with your boyfriend...you just don't want anyone to take your toy..its a man's thing as a territory...
Try to talk to girls as you would talk to boys...do not think they are beneath you in conversation...you will find that there are a bunch of tough girls out there and would love to have the conversations you want to talk about. that is one, the other one is to me you reaction toward girls is very similar to the reaction of boys toward girls.
I would say to you "look deeper inside yourself" and see what directions you need to take to have a more peaceful relaxed life and relationships.
Very good luck
2007-02-20 22:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ariana 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe you could talk to them, see if they can help, Its normal for you to feel this way, your just not adapted to hanging out with just girls, because we girls sure are catty! hehe, but maybe try hanging out with both sexes a day, one day with the girls, and the next day with the boys, or maybe both sexes can hang out together, that way you wont lose ur feminime inside.
And i know that you cant stand having girls all up on your man, let them, they are completely jealous, atleast your man loves you, and he wont dare to hurt you by cheating on you. Girls are catty or course, but look here, think to yourself and say ''Im jealous of them?? Im the one WITH the man'' So dont worry im sure your boyfriend isnt really into them
Hope this helps!!
-Yvette Miranda
2007-02-20 22:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette Miroslava 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ok you grew up with guys and that is how you have come to be it is not bad but just try to tal kto girls more if you want to be their friend but just becasue you are only around guys isnt bad. it only matters what you think about them
2007-02-20 22:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by will 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if u want 2 be a girl, be a girl! set goals for each day. ask girls y they like wat they like etc
if u cant do this stuff, be a tomboy! and be proud of it!!!
2007-02-20 22:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by mandii 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you might be a lesbian
2007-02-20 22:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you do dirty stuff with your male friends? maybe you want group enjoyment?
2007-02-20 22:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
are u gay?........maybe u are a lesbian x
2007-02-20 21:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by scotgal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋