This sounds really bad but I dont want my babys dad 2 be in my sons life. we split up recently because he disrespects me alot and i no that its bad if i say he cant c him but im scared that my son will be like him, he makes promises he cant keep, calls me names and hes just basically a child, he has another son who he dosent really c.
2007-02-20 21:07:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you push his dad away then your son will resent you for it in the future. your son wont turn out like his dad. all that he will do is realise how much he lets him down. he will realise that his dad is a waste of time and that he doesn't want to be dissapointed any more he will give up on him all by himself.
if you stop him from seeing his dad then it will always be you that made that decision for him.
i understand thatyou are doing this for your sons benefit but if you don't let him see for himself than he will always be curious.
your son will grow up fine and he will make sure that he is a better daddy than his daddy ever was.
it will only make him a stronger person.
2007-02-20 21:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum did exactly that when i was 6. She was terrified I'd end up like my father.
I'm 19 now and my mum passed away suddenly when i was 11. I've been orphaned and still caught find my father.
I know I can't tell you what to do, but speaking from experience give your son the chance to see him. From what you say about the father, he'll likely just stop seeing him anyway. Make him do the planning - don't ask him when he's next going to visit his son - let him make the effort. If he does, don't knock it like my mum did - and never tell him you don't want him to see your son anymore because that will only make him cling on tighter - unless you want him to of course.
Its tough as a single mum out in the world, so use him as a sort of security line - but don't go running back to him for the sake of your son.
I don't want to sound pushy, but in the end it's your decision.
Best of luck hun.
2007-02-20 21:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kiarri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is get a restraining order from you and your child if he has infact inflicted any harm to you or your child by calling the local police department. Documentation is the best thing you need. That way if he does come around you just call the police and he will be arrested. The report will go to court and a judge will decide if it is necessary to have the restraining order placed on your childs father. Until then the only thing you can do is if he comes around ask him to leave and if he doesnt then call the cops to escort him away. One thing you do need to take in account is although he is the way he is to you... your child later in life may despise you for not letting him be in contact with its father. Good luck!
2007-02-20 21:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sons the priority here. Are you doing it to spite him because of your own feelings towards him? If thats the case then your not thinking of your son are you? Is it right that you should deprive him of his dad because of the way that he treats you? He might just turn out to be a great dad. I think that you should put your own feelings aside just for the sake of your kid. Maybe im just giving you the male perspective on it.....
2007-02-20 21:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by jaz r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe should have thought of using some birth control then you wouldn't have been in the situation you are in now. Why on earth would you want to have a child with someone who disrespects you, lets you down and calls you names?
2007-02-20 21:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Lou 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you should have thought about that before making a decision to have a baby with him. He didn't just start direspecting you overnight, did he?
As it goes, he is your child's father and a part of your child's life, you can arrange it such that when he sees his dad you are there with him or someone you trust is there with him. It's not advisable to prevent him from seeing his dad.
I know my answer would probably get marked down but this is my opinion.
2007-02-20 21:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by swish 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 4 yr sons dad was like that he was abusive to me when i was with him, he took drugs and drunk alot. We split up when my son was 1. I hated my son having contact with his real dad. It was only when he wanted to see him maybe twice a yr. I'm frighted my son is going to turn out like that and i feel like I'm wishing his life away scared in hows he gona to out like
2007-02-20 21:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by ryan+reegan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i grew up not really knowing my dad coz my mum mad the choice for me not see him coz he treated her like crap and jus like you she didnt want me to be like him i never blamed my mum and im glad i didnt turn out like him, when your a little boy you look up to your dad hes your super hero and if your son sees the way he treats you, your son is gonna think its alright to treat people like that ,your son does need a male person to look up to tho maybe an uncle or your dad, i was lucky i had my big brother and he substituted my dad, i hope you make the right decision.good luck
2007-02-20 21:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you have to do but always let your son know who his father is and as hard as it is don't say anything bad about him because that's what he will hate you for but when you feel he is old enough to understand then tell him why you did it.
2007-02-21 13:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by leeanne0107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have thought of that before you had sex with your baby's daddy! He has as much rights to the child as you do! Grow up.
2007-02-21 05:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Cyn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋