i had an abortion in 2004 and its still bothering me. i was wondering if any one knows what they do with babies they take by the vacuum thing. do they get burried? Is there any place i can go to sit with my child that is no longer here?
2007-02-20 20:33:18 · 19 answers · asked by wondering 12/30 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i was 10 weeks along and no i do not want to visit the remains but want to visit the place where he or she is at
2007-02-20 21:15:59 · update #1
i understand you made that choice for ur own personal reasons, how far where u? It is usuallly just disposed as waste im afraid so i doubt you will be able 2 go anywhere, i had a miscarriage ( now have 2 healthy boys) i still think about the baby i lost nearly every day, time does heal. Did u have a scan and have a pic? I have buried my scan photo in my garden in a little box and planted a tree, this way i have somewhere 2 go , hope this helps
2007-02-20 20:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what they do with the remains after an abortion, but I wanted to respond to this question and try to help you.
You may not be able to sit with the physical remains of the embryo/fetus but you can still make peace by writing a letter. You know why you chose to abort I am sure it was a difficult decision. Try not to dwell. Write the letter then seal it in an envelope and put it away You now have to move forward and do justice to the decision you made back then by becoming a better person for the experience.
2007-02-21 05:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one thing they don't tell you about having an abortion in the clinics, is that it will be something that never leaves your mind and heart. Everyone has made mistakes, but don't let the guilt and sadness you feel live in you for the rest of your life. You deserve to happy, and if you are always kicking yourself for something that has happened in the past, you won't ever be happy. I would suggest what some others have suggested, by writing a letter to your baby, and finding closure for this.
2007-02-21 12:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After they suck it out, they would just place it as biohazardous waste, but depending on where you are, there are different practices. Some are used for stem cell research (don't ask me which conuntry does that). Some are just dumped as regular waste, and some gives the mother its feotus back.
If it helps, just pray for your child, close your eyes and imagine him/her, in many many pieces. There is no turning back for them and you as the choice was made.
The only thing you can do now is not commit the same mistake again. Move on, why do you wish to sit with something you chose to give it up? It may be difficult times or unsupportive people around you, but the child (as always said) is innocent.
2007-02-21 04:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by IIDX Chem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks and one thing that has helped me was that I went to a cemetery near my home and found an infant grave marker with no name on it and I put things on that babies grave. It helped me a lot with closure. I still visit the grave site today.
As far as your abortion goes. It gets easier as time goes by. My cousin had an abortion years and years ago. She had no choice it was her father's baby (He sexually abused her) and now she has two wonderful daughters and a wonderful husband. Please don't let anyone make you feel bad about the choice you made. You made this choice for a reason.
2007-02-21 14:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by snugglesrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are talking about visiting the physical body. You need to understand the bible. The bible says that without the spirit the body is dead. What you are really seeking is the spirit that inhabited the body of your child. Think of it this way, the body is like a space suit that allows the spirit to live in the earth's environment. If you want to visit the suit, then continue as you are. If you want to find the son or daughter that was in the suit then you need to talk to God.
2007-02-21 04:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by teentitanliz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know 10 weeks baby, is well developed fetus, imagine how it must have felt when it died.. normaly they do not bury, some hosipital just throw them away into waste, some use it for some research..and sorry to tell but some countries eat the fetus.. i have seen the pics.. it is so baby...
what to tell you, image there are so many people who want to have a baby and r ready to do anything, you were so lucky, god had blessed u, but went against it..but atleast you feel sorry for what you did, dont worry it must be in heaven rejoycing with the lord along with other sweet angels
2007-02-21 06:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Richa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
normally the sucked out babes will come out as a mass of flesh and therefore cannot be used for any medical purpose.normally they dispose it off along with other hospital wastes in an incinerator.it will all be traumatic for you.first you must own up your sin and pray god to give you courage to forget the bad event.make a promise to yourself that you wont do it again.live the future with the belief that every sinner has a future and every saint has a past.sorry if i have hurt you.
2007-02-21 04:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by chiratai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn. I'm so sorry. Your question makes me cry. I just answered a girl who miscarried. I lost my baby too. You made a decision that can not be reversed. You did what you had to do...close your eyes. Tell your baby in words or write a letter. Don't be ashamed for your choice. Those are hard ones and you need to move on. Take care, your baby is with you.
2007-02-21 04:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately aborted babies are sent out as medical waste and disposed of just like all other medical waste.
2007-02-21 08:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋