I pretty much realised im gay and i want to come out partly by telling some people but not everyone. How do you know which ones to tell?
2007-02-20 20:32:11 · 14 answers · asked by weirdlittlebritain 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
One person knows and she thinks its good.
2007-02-20 20:37:52 · update #1
Tell the girls - they won't have any problems and are usually happy to hear it and then want to start taking you shopping or talking about guys! Every girl wants a gay friend!
For guys on the other hand, you need to be more careful - only tell those who you feel are true friends and that will support you no matter what.
2007-02-20 21:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come out to a girl you trust not a lad as they may be immature and spread the rumour around. Girls will respect your feelings and listen to you more carefully. Only come out to girls that you trust though. Also if you have any siblings preferably a sister you could tell them.
Best of luck to you and I hope you make the right decision on weather or not you want to be gay or straight.
When I was 15 I had weird feelings of curiosity toward same sexes but after i was about 17 they started to go away. Maybe you should leave it a while before you tell anyone. The best of luck to you my friend.
2007-02-23 10:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently came out to my family & they were all fine with it. I know I was lucky as not everyone reacts so well. I think the best thing is to find out what people think by bringing it up in conversation first. It is best to be prepared for the worst case scenario as sometimes people can be fine about it when it's someone on TV, but it's a different matter when it's someone close to them. Just take it slowly & use your instinct. Don't rush into it without thinking. When people do react well it is a great relief to finally be open with them. I found it helped to tell people as though it's not a big deal to me, this way they thought I was fine with it so they should be too. Good luck!
2007-02-21 01:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found the easiest thing is to strike up a conversation with each person about gay ppl. They will then show their true colours and you will either find it easy to tell them there and then or to run for the hills screaming!
Parents are always more difficult as they always want you to have everything they didn't have - including the perfect wedding and marriage - which is obviously hetero to them...
But... i do wish you luck and hope that you have an easy coming-out like i did.
*mwah* :)
2007-02-22 22:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by MoonliteSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for me i came out to one of my best girl friends. She had tried asking me a number of times if i was gay and then eventually one night back from a club i asked her to aske her question again. And i came out to her.
It made our friendship closer and she was the only person i told at first. Once i was comfortable with being myself with her i slowly started telling my other friends one at a time. My parents were the last people i told, but the response i got from them was surprising. My mom said she knew, but she was waiting for me to tell her.
So basically you come out to someone that you are 100% comfortable with. Its hard to initially say im gay. but you discover things about your friends/family that you didnt know before. It helps you decide who are your true friends.
Best of Luck
2007-02-21 01:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Taven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is one if those things that wii get around even if you think you can really trust someone they will more often than not always tell someone else, but it is nothing to be ashamed of, when your ready to face it tell people and keep your head high, you will probaly be quite surprised by peoples reactions, i know when i came out there were certain people i dreaded telling but most were really fine.
ha ha my brother was not shocked at all, you will probaly get a lot of that too
2007-02-21 00:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the ones you feel most comfortable telling.... and the ones you know you can trust. Theres some people you just dont tell things to...and when you're finally ready to be really really open (like say you're in a relationship and want it to be public) then just let down your guard and say 'screw you" to whomever doesnt approve.
2007-02-27 17:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by imakulaff2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel comfortable having all your friends and family know, then tell them. In my experience if you tell 1 person only, the others find out anyway and then it becomes a big drama.
2007-02-20 20:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. If you don't want all the school to know in one day.. Double check how much you TRUST the people you want to tell. Congrats on the courage. :)
Good luck!
2007-02-21 00:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by welcomtomycrzylife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who ever you feel most comfortable telling someone you trust. For my step-brother who was only 15 it was my mum. He was scared what his parents would say, but we all love him and no-one cares whether he is straight or gay
2007-02-26 06:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by sm80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋