First, before I ask, I wanna say that you gay guys can best friends with us, girls. You won't befriend us just for sex, and you're good advisors concerning guys' issues (Since you know a lot about them :-P). I love you! ;-)
Now my questions are:
- What's the first thing that catches your sight when look at another guy? (Forget their privates for now :-D )
For me, I first look at the eyes, some guys have charming eyes.
- Do you feel offended if someone said that "f*g" word? Or do you ignore this?(Like this stupid OLGA on answers).
I mean I won't get offended if someone thought I was a lesbian, since all sexualities are natrual, but I'll be furious if someone said that word to me or to one of my gay friends.
2007-02-20 19:37:03 · 10 answers · asked by Root Of All Evil 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I notice hands. I'm a pianist, and I've always been interested in hands. I like hands that look expressive. It generally indicates an artistic temperament.
I don't like the word 'fag' because it has been used by so many to hurt us. If I am called a 'fag' by someone (more often than not it is '******') I smile and lift my hands to the sky and say, "YES! I'M A ******!" That seems to confuse the name-callers.
But then there are the inbred cretins like Fred Phelps who puts 'God Hates Fags' on his posters. Ick. On every level.
2007-02-20 19:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by pasdeberet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first answer: for me it's the overall build of a guy, the way he holds himself, the way he walks, the way he moves and behaves, his physical aspect as a whole. And then forearms, I'm a sucker for muscular forearms.
The second answer: it depends on how it's used and by whom. I was having a conversation with my straight female best friend about the boyfriend of another female friend, and we were joking about how effeminate he seems to be, and she described him, jokingly, as a "fag!". That usage was okay, because we both know what she meant, I know she wasn't using it in a derogative manner (we both like the guy, we know he's not gay, we just were looking for a funny word to describe him). Using the word as a derogative term for a gay man isn't okay, merely because it's not okay to speak derogatively about someone just because they're gay.
What bothers me most about the use of that word is that it's become an insult to use against people completely independently of its homosexual connotations. It implies that to be gay is a bad thing, and by calling someone that, you're saying "you may as well be gay for all that I think of you". It's a deeper level of homophobic and anti-gay pervasive thought than just calling a gay man a fag.
2007-02-24 09:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by dm_cork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question - First think that catches my eye when looking at another guy is his look and how he carries himself. and yes, the eyes are important but smile as well... i dunno, i kinda do an all round scan of someone when i first see them!
Second question - Depends on who is saying it. I have friends who just use it out of jest and I'm not so fussed about that (but not entirely happy about it either) but if someone shouted it at me in a hateful manner then, yeah, I would naturally be offended. It's kinda like the 'n' word when it comes to african-americans that we can call each other f*gs but no one else who isn't gay can. Like how we so loosley use the term f*g hag.
I usually just ignore it anyway (not that I get called that often anyway).
2007-02-20 20:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by zengie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that the two on the instant and gay adult males are extra visually orientated. i will like somebody a very good purchase - even love in a manner - based upon their character and character. yet while that spark isn't there on the beginning up from viewing them as eye-catching to my eye, then i won't be in a position to take it further. on the different hand, if somebody is warm yet in addition a jerk, i'm getting completely became off.
2016-12-17 15:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that catches my eye is the face, especially if he has facial hair. The eyes and smile also catch my eye.
As for the epithet...it depends on the context in which it is used. If it's used jokingly, then no I'm not offended. If it is used maliciously, of course!
Thanks for your support. I know many straight women who prefer the company of a gay man over other women or straight men!
2007-02-21 02:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) the first thing that catches my sight is the whole package of his face second will be his teeth.
2) ofcourse I felt offended everytime theres someone who say those kind of thing although i just act as ignoring them but still deep inside it hurts me a lot
2007-02-20 20:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by ryan g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eyes, smile
Depends on who's using the f*g and if it is meant as an insult
Olga doesn't offend anybody...she's burned out her shock value.
2007-02-20 19:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hehe once i come out of the closet i cant wait to get my "girlfriends".. I see their face but personality is important. If someone called me a f a g or said f a g. i wont care cuz it proves there immature
bye : -)
2007-02-20 19:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by The Con 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Basics. Face, eyes, smile and attitude.
2) No actually not, but I love to dis them back just to get them started LOL.
I feel so compelled to say I love u back. Thanks for that =)
2007-02-21 03:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile or lack of smile... i really dig 'bruised' fellows.
yes- i think its offensive.
ps: what the hell is up with the whole, 'first, before i ask, i wanna say that you gay guys can be best friends with us, girls...i love you ;-)"
jesus.... thats offensive.. to me, at least.
if you only knew me.... i think you'd take back that 'i love you...'
2007-02-20 19:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by louie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋