she's older than me, i'm 20, she's 25,,, we're in college abroad, my parents is not with us.
she always borrow money from others eventho my parents send money to her,
and i'm so tired becoz people keep asking me to pay what she borrowed
i'm a dentistry student i'm so damn tired with my study and other life problems, and now, my problem is my own sister
shud i take care of her? i'm younger than her... but our parents is not here, they send enough money for us, but she's so useless,, always lying, and she didnt do her study well
i'm so tired talkin to her, i dont know what to do anymore,, i always tell the truth about her to my parents, they help a lot, but still i feel tired of her
what shud i do?
2007-02-20 19:35:11 · 13 answers · asked by wEnNy 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Tell people that you aren't responsible for her debts. She borrowed from them, so it is between her and them. If they trusted her enough to lend her money, thats their problem not yours! So when they come up and say that they lent her money, say "And?" and they say "I want my money", you should say "is my name (your sister's name), no, then why are you bothering me?"
2007-02-20 19:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by James G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out what she does with the borrowed money first. And if she's wasting tht money then try to talk her out of it. (which u mst hve prob'ly tried but this time try harder). It doesnt matter if u r younger thn her coz a Sister is a Sister younger or older. And if she doesnt listen to u ask ppl she usually borrows money not to give her anymore and tell ur parents to take some action.
2007-02-20 19:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Aki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl, When I was 25 my youngest sis wasnt throwin coins at me,Hell no!Mommy and daddy wernt either.As far as her friends go tell them to call her,or tell where she stays,tell them you are broke and behind in something(rent,car insurance,)Give them all her whereabout info.and walk away,you probably have a lot of studying to do so use it(cant talk gotta take a test,library,whatever)stop giving her $ or your parents,cause soon you gonna find out that your first intensions were good but now she cannot live without you/mom,now she is dependent upon you.You will have taken the shovel out of her hand and started digging her grave yourself
2007-02-20 19:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by jjhanson3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a whiny jerk, If he does ruin up with you in line with hazard you need to take it as an indication that issues have been in simple terms no longer meant to be. Any candy and information guy might under no circumstances ask some thing like that. He acted like slightly one whilst he have been given the respond that he did no longer desire you're in all hazard extra effectual off with out him.
2016-10-16 03:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell people that you are not responsible for her debts since she is an adult. Also, never lend her money. And you might want to consider telling her that you no longer want to discuss her money issues (& stick to it) & stop 'telling' on her to your parents. They are aware of her habits & nothing you say seems to have an effect. Your sister will probably be like this her entire life.
2007-02-20 20:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the idea is not to let her weigh you down to the point that you start doing yourself harm.
she's 25 you say. and she isn't sleep-walking. so she's totally aware of what she's doing and what is expected of her.....how am i doing?
somehow you need to issue a reality check her way with the tact and diplomacy that will leave your relationship in tact. priorities need to be emphasized and put in order. you know her pretty well and should know, by now, what motivates her. see, you will be together as family for a life time even after your parents are no longer.
she needs to realize that she has education at her finger tips at great expense to your parents. never mind if they can afford it or not. i'm sure that they go through all kinds of hell to afford to support you both. i'm sure that in their mind they do it in order that you at least have a fighting chance when you are on your own.
your success would be a fashion of thanks for their great efforts not to mention your own self esteem....yeah?
good luck. my good wishes are with you.
2007-02-20 20:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she borrowed the money from friends- she is the one to pay it back!
You can take care of her without having to finance her. It sounds like the best type of loving you can give her now is to let her do her own thing and find out for herself what she is/isn't doing right or wrong.
2007-02-20 19:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Icarus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, you are responsible to your sister, but you should know until when... If she borrows it is her fault... if her friends ask you to pay... tell them that it is not you who borrowed... it is your sister, settle it with her...
First, you need to own up to your own life... once you do not... everybody else will own it for you...
Second, your sister needs to own up for her life... it is not yours in the first place... she is not a dead albatross on your head... She needs to be responsible for herself and what she needs to do...
I hope you see that living your life is more important than living your sisters life... you know what I mean... you have a life... she has her own... she needs to see what she is doing wrong... if she needs to be reprimanded for what she is doing... tell her up front... she is a big girl that I think is matured enough to handle situations.
For you, do the best you can for your life... you are still young and you still have a lot of choices... use them wisely... Remember, it is your life... you will not be able to save your sister if you break down like her... Live your life and live it to the fullest and maybe your sister will see what she is doing wrong...
Have fun in living... ;-)
2007-02-20 20:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If SHE is borrowing money, then SHE needs to pay it back. For anyone to expect you to pay HER debt is ludicrous!
It sounds like it's time to stop associating with her. I know that sounds harsh considering you're sisters, but something needs to give. If people bug you about the money, tell them to piss off because it wasn't you who borrowed the money!
2007-02-20 19:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents and explain them this condition.
And manage your finances separately then her.
Obviously, you can't 100% detach yourself from your own sister.
2007-02-20 19:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by Ravi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋