I love my husband very much and will be married 5 years on the ( of March. Everyday when I come home from work he has a friend over and seem to spent more time with them than he dose with me. Is he falling out of love with me? What should I do?
2007-02-20 18:50:13 · 21 answers · asked by hollidayfun@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guys love to hang out, but if it bothers you that they do that in your house everyday, tell him that.
2007-02-20 19:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All marriages go through some form of change from the time they start. The reason is clearly the fact that the longer you are together, the more you trust each other and the less excitement and butterflies you feel at seeing each other. However, this does not mean that the love is not there. Love on the contrary or excitement has a tendency of intensifying. You will then have the ability of looking at each other for what you really are and stop woring so much about the way you look etc.
However, if there are other factors such as him wanting to get back together with the boys and you are being bothered by it, it would not be a bad idea to talk to him about it in a quiet setting.
Perhaps you can prepare him a surprise dinner and have some rose pettals spread on the table. Start by telling him the things that he is doing right, the things that you appreciate about him and then slightly introduce the diea that you are a little hurt that you don't have him all for yourself when you get back home from work. This will probably give your husband the idea of inviting his friends over during times that are more convenient for the both of you.
When he accepts, maybe you can reward him with a massage and spa. He will then appreciate the idea of telling his boys that when you get home from work, it is alone time for only you and him.
As women, we know when something is wrong, so if there is something else that you feel, make sure you let him know. If not, then I wish you the best and hopefully you get your spa too.
2007-02-20 18:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by College Student 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would be no different if he asked you the same question if you talked on the phone to a girlfirend every day ...he may wonder if you are more interested in that person. Guys get to a point where they need company, etc...what else has changed in your relationship? Try something new..buy some new clothes, lengrie, something like that. Bring him home flowers, go out for dinner.
Does he work, why is he always home earlier than you. If he is not working the answer is that he is bored. And same could be true if he gets home early. People get into a routine..no different than a morning coffee, have you ever seen all the old men (or ladies) all get together for coffee every morning. Wow, rain, sleet or snow counldn't stop them from getting together. I think it is no big deal. If it really bothers you just chat with him about it, if you don't feel that you can approach him for whatever reason leave him a note about it before you go to work...honey can we have a quiet "just us " night tonight?? or something like that. No worries honey...he is with a guy right...worry when you come home and another woman is sitting there having a beer with him.
Good luck and keep your chin up.
2007-02-20 19:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, its just that he is bored with the rut he is living in. don't you have any friends you visit with during the day? he is working and he probably misses his pals that he hung with.
if you keep picking on him about his friends being around all the time he may start hanging out in a bar or a pub..is this situation better? At least he his staying home and men don't have the same feelings as a woman has about relationships.
Most new wives (and some old wives) resent their husbands attachment with their husbands friends and relatives. Jealousy?
this is a common complaint of newly married ...their mates don't like their friends and relatives...its normal but don't be too assertive as sometimes your mate will rebel against being told who he can visit and when..
2007-02-20 19:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They call this the old shoe syndrome. He lives with you and can be with you anytime. Hell...he sleeps with you every night right? This is the "I take you for granted" part of the marriage.
If you want attention then spice things up a bit. Dress up is some hot clothes and make his friends ogle you a bit. That will get his attention. The idea here is to give him a reason to kick his buds out the door. Remember you can do things for him his friends can't. You just have to remind him why you are there in the first place. You have to make him want it again.
It is time to spice up that old sex life. Start finding knew ways to pleasure him like learning new Felicio techniques. Guys just love it when his girl does strip teases for him. Get creative and when is attention back.
Good luck!
2007-02-20 19:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do women always complain about friends? Don't be insecure. He supports you and your worried he doesn't love you. When he packs the suitcase and moves out because you nag him about his friends, then you should worry. Until then, try to enjoy what he enjoys with his friends. Participate in allowing and doing the things he loves to do. Show him you love him by encouraging him to have a great time. Remember, you are the one he sleeps with at night.
2007-02-20 19:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by moralityisrelative1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe after 5 years he's just really comforable with you. If it bothers you, arent you close enough to him to tell him? Idea* why dont you give him the "come here big guy" eye, and slip into the bedroom.. I bet he'll send his friend home..good luck
2007-02-20 18:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes when people are together all the time they just need some space.its really not you .you should take up a hobby of your own.like a girls night or even hitting up the gym in not skinny but its nice to do something for me and he does notice and when i get home the friends are gone now ; ) .good luck
2007-02-20 18:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though TEXASMAN sounded a little rude I believe he's sooo right I am so insecure about my husband and I took his advice the best.
2007-02-20 19:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by DropTopAle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No sometimes guys need to hang out with other guys, but if it really bothers you that much try talking to your husband and see if you can agree on something
2007-02-20 18:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋