Im not myself around some people especially on parties.Im very aloof and hoping i dont have to talk to anyone that i dont have to talk to.Im not a ***** but i i really dont want to get in to conversation except for some family friends and my family.Now i know it's not healthy.I just want to be happy and not worry about what people will think about me.Im just really shy and i think because i have this inferiority complex.I want to go out there and just fun.I just find it hard sometimes.Can i change?How?
2007-02-20 18:04:08 · 4 answers · asked by mscofield 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had the same problem almost my whole life. Being shy is the worse. It takes over your life. It is really hard, but you have to just not be afraid to be yourself. Just take baby steps. Maybe try to talk to at least one person you don't know everyday. Just introduce yourself. whats the worse that can happen? They're not going to kill you because u said Hi. If u really want to change you can, just know that it takes time. I am so much more outgoing after going to college and living in the dorms. meeting new people definitely helps. I will always be a quiet person, but now I am more outgoing. Good luck
2007-02-20 18:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by V Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social phobia can cause these feelings.
http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/ds...
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cognitive_b... worked best for me. I suffered from social anxiety for over 15 years. I've tried meds, individual therapy, and group therapy and studied psychology for 10 years, as a profession, but also with the hope to cure myself.
Depending on your comfort level, you could go to a psychologist that practices CBT and specializes in anxiety disorders, seek a group therapy, or create one. Usually those that do attend the group therapy are a bit more high functioning because as you know, it can be difficult to speak in a group.
Another idea is to see if there are any local research studies being conducted that you could participate in.
The program that finally worked the best for me is this one: http://www.socialanxiety.us/findinghelp.... and I was lucky enough to have a structured behavioral group to go along with it. Sometimes the people that actually attend this program come back home and form groups.
Any questions, let me know ... I can't tell you how much this has improved my life!
2007-02-24 04:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Advice Please 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're an introvert. I'm an introvert too, and there's nothing wrong with being that way. Not everyone has a social butterfly personality, so don't feel that you're abnormal or anything. If you have an inferiority complex, then my best advice would be to learn to accept yourself and love yourself as you are. You are perfectly good and normal and nobody is better than you. The more able you are to accept yourself as you are, the more you will be able to talk with people, be yourself and have fun. I know it can be hard to be yourself with new people because you worry they won't like you, but when you truly love and accept yourself, you give others the chance to love and accept you too.
2007-02-20 18:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Hypatia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand shy people. Really - what do you have to lose by putting yourself out there? People will judge you? It really doesn't matter what people who don't know you think about you. I think it's worth it to put yourself out there; you can meet some pretty cool people. Good luck.
2007-02-20 18:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Faint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋