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Why do i always feel people are upset with me? I am such an insecure person. I never was but the last two years, i can't stop checking up on people I know to see if they are upset with me.
Is anyone else like that? Why am i like that?

2007-02-20 17:57:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

10 answers

I used to be like that but I soon realised that I was obsessing about things that were meaningless. A majority of the time I was upset about stuff that others would not think twice about. You need to build confidence and tell yourself that you are equal to everyone else. Don't be afraid about what people might be thinking of you and make sure you surround yourself with those who love and support you. Show your feelings and don't hide! A wise saint called St Padre Pio said "don't worry or waste energy on things that may cause anguish, live for Jesus'.

2007-02-21 21:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Shahrukh Girl 1 · 1 0

Let me tell you, it doesn't matter if they are upset with you. If you have not done anything, then it is thier problem. Wether or not they are upset, they need to deal with it. If they don't talk to you about it, then it is not important enough to them, so why shold it be to you?

I think you are insecure because you have low self esteem. If you liked yourself more, you would not care. At the end of the day, the only person you need to be okay with is you.

Another thing you can do is to put sugar coating on everything.You will find it quite empowering and you will feel more confident in how others view you.

Compliment others on little things, take notice, and one of mypersonal favorites: pet names, not to a weird level, but once in a while, "Thanks sweetie." etc. I use it all the time, granted I work with children a lot and they respond better to nicknames, many adults do too. But make sure you converse with them a bit first, and make sure they know that you know thier name.

2007-02-21 02:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by lil' ol' me :) 1 · 0 0

It all comes down to insecurity, you seek approval from other people because you don't trust or want to believe your own judgement. Girl, you need to find out what you want and love in life- life is way too short to worry about what other people think. Peers disappear, friends eventually become less and less as you grow older. Sometimes you can't even rely on family- the only person you can truly rely on is yourself. I'm sure you're a good person- YOU just need to realise that.

2007-02-21 02:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 0 0

well there are some anwers , and heres another one:)

Sometimes when you fell like that is for different reasons, sometimes is that you feel upste due to some things you have done in your life and have made you feel this way , theres deppresion that comes and goes suddenly, theres remorse of some things you have done in your life.....

Like I said there are 100000 of posibilites, but there is always hope , don't be or feel the victim if people look at you that way , again there are people that see and Judge even they don't know you...... The only thing that can help you is all inside of you ...How you feel inside is what you think you are reflecting to them

Live life , enjoy life and never never lie to yourselve

2007-02-21 02:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It can be helpful to keep in mind that other people are pretty focused on THEMSELVES and think about themselves and their lives about 99.9% of the time. You might be self concious or upset about something you've done, and worried about what the 'other' person or people are thinking of. It's a pretty safe bet they're thinking of themselves and what they've done wrong and who is upset with them, not about whatever you've done - chances are, they were so focused on themselves they didn't even notice it. Your actions are most apparent and important to yourself, and that's true for everybody else too.

If that isn't helpful learn to develop a thicker skin. Train yourself to not worry about what other people are thinking. If they choose to verbalize their thoughts to you, deal with it then, but don't beat yourself up worrying about what they might be thinking.

2007-02-21 02:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1 0

The reason they are upset with you is because you keep checking up on them. Stop doing that and they will no longer be upset with you.

2007-02-21 02:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I felt like that too and was always trying to justify myself.

I soon got rid of that habit when I realised people were asking me genuine questions to which they knew I'd probably have an answer.

Don't worry and please don't become depressed. It will all go away over time.

2007-02-21 02:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

oh sure ... many of us are like that..... we are like this because we are a caring and loveable person.....we dont want to hurt anybody..... i am like you.....
if you dont want to be depressed by your habit... i ahve a instant remedy... it works with me.... i am sure it will work with you....
dont try to find out if somebody is upset with you....( if they are upset ..they will tell you).... dont try to hurt anyone intentionly...
the depression will wear off

2007-02-21 02:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by importer911 2 · 0 0

something happened to you in your past and you are trying to repress this thought from coming back to your mind.

2007-02-21 02:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Your not alone. Please talk to a therapist.

2007-02-21 02:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Tom 4 · 0 0

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