I had a baby over almost 2 years. I HAD to watch what I ate, because I had the gestasional diabetes. I was in and out of the hospital. When my baby was born we both almost died and I had a 3rd degree tear. So i couldn't do cruches like most moms after the baby is born. Not to mention he was in the hospital for a month. I am SLOWLY losing the weight. I had a lady i have known since I was little and a toothpick say...OH MY GOD YOU ARE FAT!
2007-02-20 17:49:55 · 16 answers · asked by mommyoftwo 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I am a spiritual person, but that has nothing to do with people being rude. Your not suppose to Judge people for ANYTHING, that means their outside appearence. I thank you for all of your comments that where intended to make me feel better.
2007-02-21 00:26:21 · update #1
Ignorant. Try your best to block those comments and just keep losing at your own comfortable pace. Good luck sweetie.
2007-02-20 17:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by applebottom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people are so rude about weight. In fact, I don't know why some people are so rude about anything. It can take a long time to lose weight after you have a baby, and the older you are, the worse it is.
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I wish people would never make rude comments. I'm sorry that this happened to you. My Dad always taught me to think about how other people feel before saying things about them. He was right!
2007-02-20 17:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I know exactly how you feel. You could respond by..
1. Yes, I maybe a little over weight, but your ugly and I can always lose weight. I'm sorry , but there is no hope for you. Have a nice day.
2.Don't you realize commenting on other peoples weight is extremely rude? Didn't your parents teach you any manners?
3. I'm sorry that you are so unhappy. I hope one day you will find
peace in yourself instead of trying to hurt others to make yourself feel better.
I am so tired of rude people.
2007-02-20 18:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by uuummk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the old bag. I tend to walk away from these things. But I have been known to say, "and you are perfect?"
Worse than the offhand remarks of strangers are the comments of those closer to home, especially when they seem to be deliberate jabs.
Have fun coming up with snappy comebacks. With the right spirit, you can make yourself chuckle by thinking up snappy comebacks to the rude or dumb things that come out of people's mouths as they try to interact with you.
Just remember what your mama always told you: If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.
This lady handled a rudeness with class:
"I was about 5 months pregnant with my first when I frequented a farmer's market. The gal selling me a tomato plant was a size 2 or something outrageous like that. She was informed of my pregnancy, and gasped and said, 'My god, are you sure you aren't having quintuplets?' I gazed at her long and hard and said 'I'm sure!' She quizzically looked at me and said, 'Wow! Were you fat before you were pregnant?' Immediately I handed her back her plant and told her thank you for the lovely comments and I hope the next time she stuck her finger down her throat to stay skinny, she thought about how ugly she was on the inside.
Walk away next time. Tell the person WHY you are walking away. In our world apathy or silence indicate acceptance.
Another comeback if you are realllllly ticked: It's thanks to your type that I've seen more friends battle eating disorders than I can count on both hands. It's thanks to your type that we see 10 year olds who want to go to the gym, or go on diets. It's thanks to your type that instances of eating-related illnesses are reaching epic proportions in Western countries. Hey, why not go the whole hog and say it's thanks to your type that Karen Carpenter is dead!
You are down to earth but not quite far down enough.
You are living proof that manure can grow legs and walk.
When I look into your eyes, I see the back of your head.
You must have gotten up on the wrong side of the cage this morning.
You should do some soul-searching. Maybe you'll find one.
You're not ugly...you're just...well..U-G-L-Y.
LOL I had fun coming up with these.
So Mom... you know what is up with you. Ignore the ignorant and just continue being a good mom. Rudeness is as rudeness does.
2007-02-20 18:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain on this one. I feel so bad about the baby weight that I gained that I refuse to go anywhere where anyone that knew me when I was skinny could possibly see me. I know that is a bit extreme, but I just don't want to hear it. People are not very understanding. But I know that when someone says something to me about it, I just say "well, i hope that you stay 'perfect' forever or I will be the first one to point out every little thing that is wrong with you". My cousin kept whipering to everyone about how fat I looked at my husband's college graduation. I had just had my son five months before and it really hurt my feelings. People are just stupid. Try not to worry about it. :)
2007-02-20 17:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by snowangel_az 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Thats pretty harsh! But dont feel too bad, my own grandmother used to tell me "you need to reduce" every time I would see her. The bottom line is......
Who gives a **** what everyone thinks!!
People always pick out flaws in other people to poke and make fun of. And you know what, who cares...I feel sorry for those types of people. I feel really sorry that their lives are so unfulfilled that the only excitment they can pull out of life is to put other people down.
Take pride in the fact that you have a beautiful baby and you both made it! That is the greatest blessing of all!
2007-02-20 20:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by TUBBY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are really jerks like that.
I was bedridden for my pregnancy with my daughter and gained so much weight it wasn't funny. Never managed to lose it and just ended up gaining more because I wound up with multiple surgeries after the baby came and other health issues and am now in a wheelchair, and people are really evil about it.
I've learned to just ignore them. I feel sorry for people who need to validate their own existence by putting me and other people down for something as unimportant as what size clothing we wear.
2007-02-20 17:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been a fat chick my entire life and am 42 now and still have the ***---- comments ppl judge us for our looks and not our personality that is the way society is and that will never change...I had it and will never know what it's like to be skinny,,but now doesn't bother me as much as before cuz with age you just don't care what other ppl think and screw them all..be yourself and the right ppl will love you for you and not the size of your waist...we all have something that we don't like about ourselves, even blonde skinny chicks have their problems too,,,so be cool and don't let society screw with you mind....
2007-02-20 18:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by lisadivirgilio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has no right to say that...people these days are sooo freakin judgmental and it is really harsh. These people need to step back and take a look at their lives and make corrections. NONE of us has the right to judge someone else...who cares how much someone weighs...as long as they are a great person on the inside.
2007-02-20 18:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw her and what others say. be happy you had a healthy child take good care of them and work slowly on your weigh for yourself, dont let other discourage you.we are not all rich and famous and get the perfect body back like they do with millions in personal trainer, dont compare yourself to others and screw those ugly people who would disrespect you like that in your or whats suspost to be the happiest time of your life
2007-02-20 17:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by bambi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋