My husband and I were old traveling buddies...hopping trains and squatting and such. Years later when we met up again and were both settled he asked me to marry him. Since we married we lost everything, and ended up back on the streets. He has told me that he is happy with being on the streets, but I am not. WE have tried separating, but we miss each other and love each other so much its unbearable. Aside from our lifestyles, we are very much in love and happy together. Neither of us is happy in each other's "world". Is there a way that we can both be happy and together?
2007-02-20 16:50:31 · 12 answers · asked by Wench 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well i know it's very difficult to stay apart after you're married but i think that this matter should've been sorted out before you guys got married, anyways, it's pointless crying over spilled milk. Now we must find a solution.
I think that you guys should sit down and talk, it's not like your man is not missing you, he does im sure, but women are more expressive about their emotions, men aren't, and you have to live with that, no matter whom you marry, men will never reveal their emotions.
Separating isn't easy, and i don't think that should be an option, let him live the way he wants to and stop cribbing about not meeting each other, it won't help. Just take it easy, and let him have his liberty, and you have yours.
For God's sake don't separate. You'll regret it later on...
2007-02-20 17:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are addicted to the lack of harmony.
You are the one making the choice. If you can't make good choices, how can anyone here help you.
You have more control over your life than you think you do.
If you need to not be with him, then there will be a pain with the loss. Feel the pain then move on.
It isn't as hard as you think.
It is like sticking your hand in the fire. If you keep sticking your hand in the fire and getting burned you aren't very smart.
Stop putting your hand in the fire. If you keep sticking your hand in the fire, then it is only YOUR fault. You must thrive on pain.
2007-02-20 17:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you try living in an environment you both like. figure out a place you BOTH like, no necessarily one way or another. and if all else fails, then maybe you could just visit eachother from time to time, still be close, but not in the same living quarters. if you truly love eachother, you will find a way to work things out
i wish you the best of luck!!
2007-02-20 16:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by helping you out! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can find a way to share both worlds like travel on the week ends. get a motor home and travel some the stay some where for awhile until you want to move again.
2007-02-20 17:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by skip3800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you really want to save this marriage then both of
you need to honest with each other about what you want, if
this is a issues then it will alway be a issues sometime you have
to thiink what is best for everyone that invovled.
2007-02-20 17:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow tough one. Well the two of you need to find accommodations that you both can compromise on that will suit you both. It can be done but compromise must be a part of this.
2007-02-20 16:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you can have your life and goals. And he can continue to live his goaless life on the street. Then he can visit you when he needs a bath and fresh change of clothes. Is your love for him THAT strong???
2007-02-20 16:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YEA! GET A HOUSE AND LET HIM LIVE IN THE ALLEY! MEN USUALLY HAVE A DESIRE TO PROVIDE STABILITY FOR THEIR WIFE! YOU CAN'T JUST LIVE ON THE STREETS.
ASIDE OF THE HOUSING SITUATION WHAT ARE THE LIFESTYLE ISSUES? MAYBE YA'LL SHOULD ADDRESS THOSE AND TAKE IT FROM THERE.
2007-02-20 17:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by HeLovesYou! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband use to be on the streets strangely we seprated after we got a place
2007-02-23 13:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get a house and let him live in the alley behind the garrage
you get a home life and he gets his street life
2007-02-20 16:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋