I know it sounds silly, but I am afraid that it will hurt the baby....does anyone else have / had this problem? I am in my 4th month, feeling great, baby has strong heartbeat, doctor said we both (me and baby) look great...so why am I so freaked out? My poor husband is being so patient but it has been 4 months and is starting to stress him out a bit......help!
2007-02-20 15:53:40 · 17 answers · asked by Momma2B 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I felt that way too when i was pregnat... but you know what? One day I needed it... Just close your eyes and let him do you slow... Take avantage that your baby havent arrive get.. cause once is born you wont sleep for quite a while!! Enjoy it cause you will no harm the baby... Now dont get wild... CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW BABY
2007-02-20 16:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by kbc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have such a great husband, I'm sure that he understands what a new lifestyle you are living and is very sympathic to your needs. There is nothing wrong with sex, unless you are high risk or the doctor said no sex. You are in the 2nd trimester the "honeymoon" of pregnancy where you will feel your best, enjoy it. It sounds like you want to do it but you feel uneasy about it, lets just say, the baby doesn't mind, you are always moving and doing things anyway so that action isn't a big deal. Since it's been a little while since you've been friendly with your husband, you might need to set the mood, or have him set a romantic mood for you. Take a shower or bath and make yourself feel good, light some candles or what ever you and your husband do to make it special, and take it slow. Enjoy exploring each other, and your growing shape and curves, it sounds like your husband is pretty tuned into your needs, so just let him know what is comfortable for you and what isn't. It's okay to try different positions that are more comfortable when you are pregnant... from one pregnant lady to another... pillows help ;) You just might find it enjoyable!
2007-02-21 00:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a husband and I had the same weird feelings, not wanting to hurt the baby. But its completely safe and you should feel more like it the next few months. But, do what feels right. Your husband sounds great and I went through the same. My wife is 8 months now and we still every now and then, although I have forgotton what normal sex is like! Its totally up to you though.Our doctor even stated that it does not hurt the baby one bit!
2007-02-20 23:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by nd30jb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure you're not the first pregnant woman to feel this way, but it is silly!!! (sorry!!) if you ask a doctor that question they will tell you the same thing!! there's NOTHING wrong with having sex while pregnant. not at one month, not even at nine months!! absolutely NOTHING wrong with it. it won't hurt the baby in any way what so ever!! and i can guarantee you your husband isn't gonna stay that patient through the whole pregnancy. so you should really get over the paranoya.
2007-02-20 23:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by qbanita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it every day all day, that is until the last month. Then your just askin for early labor. Doesn't always happen but its a very good possibility if you have an orgasm you could end up in the hospital sooner than you like. Also in the last month your cervix will dialate a little(not much) and might be tender so if you do it anyway don't let him "get in them guts" so to speak.
2007-02-21 00:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Archangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is It Safe to Have Sex During Pregnancy?
If you're having a normal pregnancy, sex is considered safe during all stages of the pregnancy.
So what's a "normal pregnancy"? It's one that's considered low-risk for complications such as miscarriage or pre-term labor. Talk to your doctor, nurse-midwife, or other pregnancy health care provider if you're uncertain about whether you fall into this category. (The next section of this article may help, too.)
Of course, just because sex is safe during pregnancy doesn't mean you'll necessarily want to have it! Many expectant mothers find that their desire for sex fluctuates during certain stages in the pregnancy. Also, many women find that sex becomes uncomfortable as their bodies get larger.
You and your partner need to keep the lines of communication open regarding your sexual relationship. Talk about other ways to satisfy your need for intimacy, such as kissing, caressing, and holding each other. You also may need to experiment with other positions for sex to find those that are the most comfortable.
Many women find that they lose their desire and motivation for sex late in the pregnancy - not only because of their size but also because they're preoccupied with the impending delivery and the excitement of becoming a new parent.
2007-02-21 00:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the same way. I lost my first one so IM extra paranoid. No matter how much someone says its safe you will still worry. My b/f was the type of guy who had to get action everyday. Now he is being good. If you decide to have sex just tell him to very gentle. Also you can please him in others ways. Im not going to say it but you have a hand and a mouth and Im sure he would appreciate either. Mine does.
2007-02-21 00:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no reason you can't have sex if everything is fine with you and the baby. If you are really scared you can always just tell your husband to be slow and take it easy so that you don't have to worry so much.
2007-02-20 23:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife's Ob/Gyn told me that it was alright as long as I was gentle. He also suggested that it also helps at the time of labor because those muscles in that area of a womans body should be limber too. This was part of his answer to my concerns about my wifes appetite for sex during her pregnanacy. My wife felt that she was unattractive during pregnancy. So between what her Ob/Gyn told me and my wifes need to feel attractive, I had to let go of my inhibition. I believe I helped her both mentally and physically through the pregnancy. We had a healthy boy.
2007-02-21 00:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by eks_spurt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are experience very common feelings, but they are unfounded unless you are in a high risk category, which it sounds like you aren't. Sex can actually be better during pregnancy, enjoy; your baby will be fine.
2007-02-21 00:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sassygirlzmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋