from my daughter:why is my 12 year old brother always so mad @ me/he's always so mean ?

Question

He says mean things to me gets mad 2 everything, always rude to me expect when he wants something.He is such a bully!I cant even be myself cause even that bothers him.Ohh yeah im also 10 years old and its only me and him.we have no more brothers.Hes a boy and im a girl.

Answer 1

When my son and daughter were growing up, my son was like this to my daughter, but if any one else was horrible or mean to her he would go mad.
I asked him why he did it, and his reply was "Well she's my sister" in the end my daughter tried to ignore him and stay out of his way, It is all about growing up and going through all the hormonial stages in your childhood.
It was a stage they went through as aswell, as now they are so close and are always helping each other, you could not wish for a more better brother/sister relationship now.
Hopefully as you and your brother get older your relationship with each other will change for the better, good luck :o)

Answer 2

I hope i had an answer for you! Boys will be boys and at times they act very selfishly only thinking about themselves and no one else.. I go through the same situation with my brother who is 10 years younger than me! He can be such a pain sometimes and is only nice when he wants something from me- IE: money, a ride or a favor!...
Why does he act they way he does? cause he's an idiot!... Dont worry in time he will mature and change and soon realize that you two is all you have, later on in life (many years from now) you guys will only have each other to count on and protect!

Answer 3

Big brothers do go through a stage of being a pain. My sons would often pick on my daughters. It is almost like it is the law to tease your little sisters. I know that it is hard, but eventually your brother will grow up and change. My sons are now 20 and 21, and my daughters are now 12 and 14. It seems that the girls have become a bit of a pain like their brothers used to. My sons are now really good with their sisters.
Ride the storm, it does get better. I wish you all the best sweetie! :o) x

Answer 4

What does mommy and daddy have to say about your brother and his anger? I think your brother needs to talk to someone about what is bothering him and why he is so angry.

Just do not allow your brother to abuse you in any way. Talk to your parents and tell then as a family you need to decide on some kind of counseling to help you brother learn to deal with his anger. If this does not work talk to the counselor or a teacher at school.

Do not stay silent to this. And tell your brother you will not tolerate being treated this way. You are brother and sister and one day you may be all you have. You should learn to get along and become friends, the day will come when you will need each other.

Answer 5

Unfortunately i was once that brother for a little while myself... and we can say and do things we dont really mean. especially around the age of 12. you need to give him space, especially when he is with his friends. I'm sure he will soon realize that he is suppose to support and protect you. You could try telling him that you will give him his space and not take up to much of his time, but that you would appreciate if he would play or watch tv with you sometimes... You should also try to learn from how this makes you feel.

Answer 6

Your brother is coming into his teens, and his brain is having trouble keeping up with his growth. You're not alone, my brothers drove me crazy until they seemed to become sane at about 17.
Stand up for yourself and explain WHY he has upset you. Often they don't really understand, or feel guilty later and too embarassed to say so.
Maybe your Mom can look at the website below with you. It's on the teenage brain, with a section on teenage "aliens".
Good luck honey, your Mom sounds like your best ally right now.

Answer 7

I'm an older sister and I have a really cute younger sister. I think your brother truly loves you. Boys are just shy about revealing their true feelings about their siblings because they think it's 'sissy/wimpy/etc.' to love their family members. Older brothers are the best kind of siblings in the world! They are always there to protect you!

Also, if you think you are bullied too much by him, you should say nicely to him "I would appreciate it if you would treat me with more respect."
It shows that you still respect him but he can't abuse the authority he has over you.

Answer 8

Probably because he's a 12 year old boy. My son treated his sister the same way when they were young. He finally out grew it and they've become friends. I think a lot of it has to do with his hormones starting to surge but not sure.

Answer 9

Boys are stupid 99.99% of the time. I got lucky with a pretty cool older brother but you should hear what some of my friends have to go through. As my mom told me when my brother was that age, this is a difficult time in a boys life. He may be going through something difficult at school or something that you don't know about. Try to be nice to him all the time. Maybe talk to your mom or dad or whoever is incharge of you. They should be able to talk some sense into him. Again, boys are stupid. I love my guy friends, my brother, my dad, and my cousins but they are all clueless to girls. Forgive him because it isn't completely his fault that he is a guy. I hope that he chills out!!! Good Luck!!

P.S. My brother went through this when he was that age. He has grown out of it though. THANK GOD!!!!!

Answer 10

It is called Simbling Rivalry and there is no cure for it. The first born is spoilt with attention until the 2nd born arrives on the scene and then the first born turns bad. The closer the years, the worse it is.

Personal experience.