What do you think of my friend?

Question

My friend is always so sweet and nice to friends but whenever those friends are not there, she talks behind their back, calling them names.

I was wondering, if she does the same to me? Does she always be nice to me and talks about me with her other friends?

Answer 1

you have answered your question, If that person can talk behind Her So-called Friends back. then she is doing it to you.

Answer 2

When your friend talks about others, do you give input to her stories? Call it gossip. Some people like to do it, and she probably talks about you in the same way. We're humans, and its not right. But you, wouwould have to let that go if you want to remain friends. If she DOES talk about you as well, so be it. What do you care. Let her......I feel as long as I'm being talked about, their leaving someone else along. Don't matter to me.....Long as I don't hear it.....Sad thing is, its like an ld game called "telephone"
You get several people in a circle and each whispers the same short story into the ear of the person beside them and they take it full circle....Well, by the time it gets back to the beginning, that story is blown way out and changed all kinds of ways. Its how people hear it and interpret it and embellish is and add to it and exaggerate it......just like gossip among friends.

Answer 3

Probably i would say. If you are sure of your facts she sounds two faced....... just beware.

Be good and honest to other though and you will win out in the end. Friends like her will end up with far fewer than you, when eventually everyone finds out what she is like.

If you are feeling brave, talk to her tactfully and ask tell her its not nice that she should be saying mean things behind people's back's.
If you do this, you may risk a confrontation, but on the other hand you might manage to correct her and make her see the error of her ways........... and she may respect you for it later!
Good luck!

Answer 4

The really important answer is what you think of your friend.

It sounds like you doubt her sincerity since you have observed her behaving insincerely. Are you willing to accept that her friendships are two-faced? There is a great possibility that she is being two-faced with you as well.

If she is treating some friends in a disrespectful way, she may be treating you that way as well, and if she isn't doing so now, she may in the future. When a person lacks integrity and credibility, it's difficult to tell when she is telling the truth.

It sounds like your friend may be trying to manipulate trust. She may be trying to make a person feel special by letting her in on the secret of what she "really" thinks about other friends. What she may not realise is that this doesn't create more trust, it diminishes trust.

That is only one scenario, there may be many...in the end, to trust her is to invite betrayal and doubts.

Kind regards

Answer 5

Sounds like someone you can not trust, I would wonder the same thing if she would talk about me behind my back - have you got a mutual friend? If so ask her to talk to this friend then if she says anything about you to tell you and be honest to you about what she said Im lucky I have a mutual friend that tells me if people talk about me behind my back - you dont have to tackle them but at least at the end of the day you know what they think of you and you know to steer clear of them in the future.

Answer 6

Undoubtably she does.

This is an immature way sometimes of bonding with people, to talk about others as if there is some solidarity -- but since that's the only way they know to connect, it's kind of fake.

I would avoid agreeing with her as she may well repeat what you've said someday to one of these friends. You could say something non-commital like, oh I hadn't noticed that, or I haven't experienced that personally and then change the subject.

Answer 7

Hmm...thats hard but judging by what you have said, she probably does, as sad as that is =\ I've had some people do that to me too and it hurts, it really does, especially when you have grown to really trust that friend. My advice: Don't be a b**** to her as hard as that may be, believe me, I know. Just be the bigger person here and don't let it get to you. You might be mentally screaming in your mind and wanting to send lasers at her through your eyes but wouldn't that make you just as bad... [[ and unhuman... ]] Just try to go about your day and stop hanging out with her. I've known people like this and the more you let it go, the nastier it gets. Try to have a great day, mkay? :]

Answer 8

If I were you I'd be wondering the same thing too! Just ask her when she's putting someone down what she says about you behind your back, but laugh when you say it like you're making a joke and see how she reacts.

Answer 9

well, if she does that to them, then it's pretty likely that she does it to you. but that's not a bad thing. confront her. ask her if she does. when people do that, they're usually troubled. or somehting's on their mind. talk to her. a girl did that to me. she was nice to me, then the next day, she talked bad about me and pushed me. she made me cry. that's how i know that people can be very cruel. but you move on. you get over them. or you get over with the problem. or find out if she does by asking her other friends. then if they tell you she does, then dump her. she's not worth your friendship. if your friendship is that important to her, then she would change for you. but you don't know yet. or do you?

Answer 10

She most likely is the same way when you are not around! Talk to her and tell her its not right to do that. Unless you go right along with her and talk about others just like her!!!