My boyfriend and i know each other a couple years, but been together for 16 months. We talk about marriage, but plan on getting married after college (2009-2011) some where around those years. Is that a good idea? We both dont want to get married during college.
2007-02-20 15:07:31 · 16 answers · asked by Miss Keys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 19 and he's 20. We both started college last fall so I'll be 23 and him 24 and 4 years. I'm going for my B.A. and so is he, but i might go an extra 2 years... so we might be around 23, 24, or 25.
2007-02-20 15:28:59 · update #1
I personally think that it should be made a law that u cant marry untill your atleast 25 years of age, because u change, grow, and mature alot between the ages of 18 and 25.. and u see alot of things differently at 25 then u did in your late teens early 20's
2007-02-20 15:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how old are you?
anyway, I think it's a good idea to get married after college, that way when you get married you'll have more time to spend with your husband. To me the right age would be middle 20s, like 25 or 26, for example, me and my bf both are 23, and we wanna get married at 25 or 26, the first 5 or 6 years of our marriage we wanna be alone so we can enjoy ourselves, after that we can start thinking of having kids, when couples have kids right after they get married, they can't enjoy their relationship the way they should, anyway, back to the point, middle 20s is a good choice, if you wanna get married right after you finish college tho, then go for it ONLY if you're sure that he's the person you want to spend the rest of your life with... but if you want my opinion, I think you guys should wait till you're 24, 25 or 26.
2007-02-20 23:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? DeSi ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what any of your other answers tell you, it is a good idea to wait to marry until you are at LEAST 27. There is a time around your mid twenties where men and woman have a mini "mid-life" crisis. Priorities change, and personality changes, and things that seemed right and good at 24, just do not make sense for the rest of your days. Trust me. If you force it, you'll regret it. That doesn't mean you can't be in a committed relationship, or even engaged. Just not married.
2007-02-20 23:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married at age 20 (during college)... i finished college, and we are still happily married with 2 kids 9 years later! we'd only known each other for a year and a half before we got married.
the point is, the time is right when you are ready. for some people it will take years to feel ready, for others, you just know right away.
make sure you both agree on the major stuff, and work out the minor details as they arise... you'll do just fine!
2007-02-20 23:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by lady_angora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my boyfriend our last year in college, we have been together a bit over 2 yrs. I definitely think waiting until after college is a great idea. We also had conversations about marriage and agreed to wait until after we graduated.
Depending on your beleifs about living together, I would suggest doing it before marriage if you arn't opposed to it.
We have been living together 7 months, and also moved out of state, away from family and friends. It has been WONDERFUL for us. We have our priorities straight, we have grown and matured a great deal. Our relationship, our frienship, and ourselves have grown so much over this period. It was definately the right decision for us! (We are 22 and 24)
Good luck to you and your man!
2007-02-21 09:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 20yrs old. Getting ready to celebrate 15yrs of marriage
The things you need to ask yourself about marriage.
1.) WHat are my role models for marriage? Ar your parents divorced? married?
2.) Do my partner and I have good communication skills ?
3.) How well do you compromise with each other ?
4.) Look at each others parents and see what habits, good traits or bad traits they might grow into ( LOL this is a big one,lol )
There is no right age, its about what is right in those people . My parents were married at 17, they are celebrating 38 yrs of marriage! their parents were married at 15 and celebrated 53 yrs before they died
good luck
2007-02-20 23:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by BoTToms UP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 25 (last year), after dating him for 6 years, and had been working at my job for 2 years (since graduation from college). My husband is the same age, and did the same thing of course. I think it is definitely a good idea to wait till after college...when you're in college, you got other things to worry about like your classes and meeting graduation requirements. When you first get married, you'll have other things to worry about...like money, bills, and getting used to "we" and "ours" instead of "me" and "mine." :) You don't want to deal with all of that while you're still in college, so you definitely have a good idea to wait. I did, and I'm glad I did...it sure is making things easier right now.
2007-02-20 23:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by ORDtoSXM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no right answer for this question. how can anyone tell you when it is right to get married. marriage is a priviladge. the only one who tells you when it's the right time, is your inner-self. it doesn't matter what age you get married at just be aware MARRIAGE is hard work. i am 19 years old and married to the most wonderful man. YES, we still have ups and downs, like anyone else, however, our love is strong, so we can overcome anything. it's all about your relationship and how willing you are to work at it. i wish you the best of luck in your relationship with this man, and from what he seems, he doesn't sound too bad. i mean nowadays, men are in denial with marriage. they talk all this nonsense how they'll never get married. those men are called boys. goodluck.
2007-02-20 23:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Soldier'sWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is a great idea, you clearly have lots of distractions and believe it or not you both will change over time. Better to wait until you know for sure that marriage forever is what you both want. As Max would say, "Good thinking 99"
2007-02-20 23:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure about your age. ive been dating my boyfriend now for two and a half years, and.... well we have talked about marriage, but he wants me to get through with at least one year of college. (i will be starting next year, but i am going for my mba and mna, so we are talking about seven years in college)... and more than likely we will get married ... soemtime. i dont know. i honestly think its different for everyone. just wait, and when the time is right, you will know. i really agree that you shouldnt get married in college, or at least wait one year, so you know what you are doing, and are used to your new atmosphere.
2007-02-20 23:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by ictoagsnstii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋