I have this sister that says she believes in the book of mormon, but justifies herself having sex with her boyfriend. She is living with me right now and wants to go see this guy. I feel like doing some harm to him! My parents do not know about it, what do I do?
I am shaking so bad right now, I want to find his number and address out and yell my freaking head off at him! What do I do?
2007-02-20 15:01:38 · 25 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel like he is a thief!
2007-02-20 15:02:05 · update #1
personally if she is a true Mormon, and chooses to return back to Heaven, and also claims to believe in the book of Mormon, shouldnt be thinking about having sex, especially at 14, ready for a baby, a talk with the bishop....didnt think so.....tell her she needs to get back on track, and ask Jesus for forgiveness...and trust God.
2007-02-20 15:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by rob k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the fact that she believes in the Book of Mormon has anything to do with anything. Many people believe in something and act contrary to those beliefs; we're all imperfect and human.
But, I would be concerned that she's 14 and having sex. I would lay down the law. If she's living with you she needs to live as you dictate. I would also discuss it with your parents. Your sister doesn't know what she is doing right now, what 14 year old does. They are living day to day in a crazy world. The matter should be out in the open and discussed in a respectful way. Good luck.
If you have the opportuntiy I would confront the boy too. If nothing else make sure they're being safe.
2007-02-21 11:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is in your home and is openly having sex with a guy, I guess one questions comes to mind. How old is he?
Another thing that strikes me hard to believe is that you didn't establish any house rules about your teen sister having sex. She is just a kid and needs to have someone to not only be an example to her, but to replace her parental figures. I feel you took on too much, and due to being young yourself, she sees you as a big sister who does not the the authority to interfere with her love.
Send her home, tell your parents, and tell her Honestly why she cant stay with you any longer. You are going to feel like dirt if she falls into harms way while she is in your care.
This little game of grown up is going to slap both you and your sister back to reality. The winner will be the guy who gets his rocks off, and takes off at the sign of responsibility.
I hope everything works out for your both. Try to visualize that everything will be OK. If you believe in the book of Mormon, pray.
2007-02-20 23:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Krambala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how old he is?
I feel that if you are in charge of her then it is your resposibility to do what it takes to make sure she is safe. If you let her go you are at fault if she sleeps with this guy. She is way out of control being so young and doing those things. Are you sure she needs to live with you if you don't know how to handle a problem like this. I'm not trying to be mean but honest. If your in charge then you need to take charge.
If he is over 18, call the law they will stop it for you.
It is almost impossible though to stop her from having sex now that she has done it. But you can keep it from happening on your watch.
If you can't handle it pack her bags and take her back to home.
good luck
2007-02-20 23:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she believes in the Book of Mormon doesn't mean #1 that she is perfect #2 that she won't make mistakes
Talk with your parents, they really need to know. Talk to her also, talk to her about the dangers of pre-marital sex - immaturity, disease, pregnancy...also IF you are Mormon and she is also, look at some scriptures, bible or BOM and talk about how our Heavenly Father wants us to remain pure and clean and that any kind of sexual acts should only be had with our spouse. Try looking at the 'For the Strength of Youth' pamphlet where it talks about Morality.
Good luck..
2007-02-21 13:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the police it is against the law to have sex with a minor. If your sister believes in the book or mormon get a minister to talk to her and explain that she cannot believe and have sex too. She might just listen to someone other than a family member.
2007-02-20 23:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm not like an expert on this by any means... but I would have to say that it would be best to not make her mad, or tell her she is not aloud to do anything... because out of rebellion, she will probably want to do it more. I would just give her advice... and yea, maybe calling the guy would be a good idea to just make sure he is safe...
2007-02-20 23:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa, now it looks like she believes in the Book of "Moreman!" You need to tell this girl to get some real S.E.X.! Sports Exercise Xbox! That should keep her plenty busy to think about anything else! =<)
2007-02-20 23:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Grandmaster Adler von Chase 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okie dokie. im not sure if you are a mormon or not... but maybe you need to read up on them if you are not one. and just because someone says they believe in something doesnt mean that they .... are that. meaning i can go to mcdonalds and like their cheeseburgers, and believe them to be good, but i am not a cheeseburger, nor are they good (healthy). so in sum.... i recommend finding out what your sister believes, and addressing her. if that doesnt work, i dont know who her guy is or anything, maybe you should talk to your parents, him, his parents? im nto sure. how do you kjnow they have been having sex? did you walk in on them or something? or do you just... know? eitherway, good luck.
2007-02-20 23:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by ictoagsnstii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel,
Don't blame your shoes for the faults of your feet...
It's your sister you should be speaking with and attempting to convince/enlighten, not her boyfriend. Unless he is somehow forcing her to do this thing, she is of her own will. It is inappropriate to concentrate on him as the wrong doer, especially if he is not of the same philosophy...it takes two to tango, Angel
2007-02-20 23:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Pedro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋