my boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years and for the past 6-7 months we have been trying for a baby but nothing yet so i'm worried that something might be wrong. is it normal for it to take a while to conceive. help me i'm going insane cause everytime i think i am we get a bunch of tests and they're always negative it's depressing.
2007-02-20 14:35:48 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
i posted another comment because we are planning on eloping i just don't know where yet. so calm down people and what does it matter anyway couples get divorce everyday
2007-02-20 15:07:31 · update #1
NO, there is nothing wrong. I have actually ran into the same snag and have done a lot of research on the subject. It takes a while for you to get pregnant. I didn't know this. From what they teach you in school, it's like, you have sex and BOOM your having a baby. The best thing for you to do is go to your doctor and get an exam. You want to make sure that YOU are healthy first. I mean, you don't want to have the added strain of a baby if you need to lower your cholesterol or something like that. Next, don't rush it. Stressing out will only make it worse. Track your cycle so that you know what your most fertile days are. According to a few books that I have read, your most fertile days are right after your period and you only have a window of a few days to actually conceive.I would recommend going to your local library and check out a few books on the subject. Educate yourself and your boyfriend before you conceive so that when you do, you are prepared.
I know, first hand, the heartbreak that comes when you think you are and you take the test and you aren't. It's rather gut wrenching, but trust in the Lord. It will happen when he wills it.
On that note, those of you who have posted about getting married before she has a baby: Who are you to judge and open you mouth about that? It's not any of your business if she chooses to marry or not. Didn't Jesus say "do not judge or you would be judged too?" You have no place to tell her to get married. If she and her boyfriend choose not to, it's not any of your business.
2007-02-20 14:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by keeperofpuppies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor and have a full examination, have some blood tests scheduled (they'll know which ones to do) and have you soon to be husbands sperm checked. You say you plan on getting married, you should probably do that first. Yea people get divorced but if you plan on that before you get married then you should consider your relationship before you get pregnant. Good Luck and best of wishes to you, I hope everything works out.
2007-02-20 15:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking Vitex for a couple cycles. I know it seems like forever, but try to take it for at least one full cycle before concieving. I had a surgery that was supposed to make me unable to concieve, I took Vitex (also called chateberry or chastetree fruit extract) and have a 13 month old that dr's in 2 states said I'd never have! Good luck to you and if you ever need to talk, e-mail me!
2007-02-20 14:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by jm_luvs_m&ms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to try so hard. If you want to spend money on tests, get the ones that show when you are ovulating. If you think something may be wrong, see a doctor and stop beating yourself up. Good luck to you.
2007-02-20 14:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello and evening. Worry not, you aren’t the only one who is trying to be a parent, there are many couples who also are trying hard. Keep trying, and trust in the >Lord, for He will deliver you a beautiful baby, just trust in Him, that He will do. (Nothing is wrong with you)
2007-02-20 14:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by FlowMaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no nothing is wrong, i have been trying for about almost 2yrs and nothing yet, just go to ur dr. and tell them ur story they will run some tests, when i went to my dr. i found out i had pcos, making it harder for me to get pregnant.....i know its sad when u think u r and u go and buy all kinds of tests and there all -
I recently started on ovulex so i'll see how it works and i will keep everyone updated.........
lots of baby dust to you
good luck
2007-02-20 14:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. Just hang in there-nothing may be wrong at all. try and find something that will help you both destress that you can do together and alone. Hang in there and good luck!!!
2007-02-20 15:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by lindseymarie1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't think about it too much, just do it and relax, also you need to make sure that you are ovulating while trying, because if you aren't your chances won't be too high. go onto those baby sites and see what you can do. also i heard lately that Iron helps with your fertility.
2007-02-20 14:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try femta it monitors your periods and ovulations. It helped me conceive my second child. Good Luck
2007-02-20 15:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress will reduce your chances of being successful. It can take up to two years for healthy women to conceive.
2007-02-20 14:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋