Why when I try to go on Y! Answers in the gay part, why is it in culture? Why can't it be part of dating or anything else. Why does it have to be seperate? Why also do all the questions have to be a joke? We are people too. Yahoo answers is to be informative and fun. Not at the expense of other people. When I look at the gay section I look for questions from other gay people who maybe I could relate to and help. So many think that putting up hurtful questions is funny for them. Please tell me why? How would you feel if I made jokes about your life and your lifestyle? I love me and my life. I would not change anything about me. Especially being Gay. So why do so many think it is ok to make my life a joke? You know what though. I will get so many mean answers and I still will accept you and not put you or your life down like they do mine. I wish more could think about that.
2007-02-20 14:11:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am not gay, so please excuse if I miss the mark, but I'm trying to give you an answer:)
I think it probably is put into "culture" because of the communal aspect. The gay community around my area is very knit, and consider their orientation to be a major part of their culture and identity.
As for people asking ignorant questions, and spreading intolerance, I would only recommend to you to ignore them. In any other case, I would say stand up and voice your beliefs, but since these people are only over the internet, they aren't going to be as easy to inform. Remember that when people are unenlightened, they tend to act more and more like children.
I agree that it's inappropriate, and I too, wish more people would be more tolerant. Be strong!
2007-02-20 14:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by blackbirdn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the joking comes from other gay people. It may be part of the philosophy of: laugh first and no one laughs at you.
I learned a long time ago that a healthy and wry sense of humor can get me through many difficult situations. This is not to say that I need to join in if ever people are trying to me as a piñata. Often times people joke when they feel uncomfortable. Other times, though, people joke to soften what might be an actual hateful blow. In situations like this, a good response I've learned is: 'Ouch.' Sometimes people don't realize when they've gone too far.
A story: once I was in a small pit band accompanying a musical show. I was at the piano, and conducting the rest of the players from there. One day before the show we were all sitting in the green room (that part of backstage where performers/instrumentalists hang out) and the other band members began making fun of gay people. It occurred to me that none of them realized that I'm gay. I waited a few jokes to go by before I piped in. "If you're going to make fun of us," I said, "At least learn to imitate us correctly. It's not a lisp. Gay people don't say, 'You're thilly.' We use a hiss. A very sibilant 'sss.' Here. Practice it with me so you can get it right." I then made them practice the sibilant 'ess' sound. At the end of it they learned: our director is gay. And he's funny. And he has the capacity to laugh at himself.
We all got along great after that.
2007-02-20 22:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by pasdeberet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There aren't really that many of them...I know a lot of straight people and they simply don't care that I'm gay and married to a gay man. It is not an issue these days...except to a few who can't seem to progress into the future...but they get left behind.
2007-02-20 22:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes feel the same way. I get aggravated then I realize that aggrivation is the reaction they are after. Sometimes my funny bone gets the best of me. Sometimes I just ignore it because reporting seems fruitless. Still, every once in awhile I meet someone truly fantastic and converse with that person privately. It's then that it makes it all worthwhile. Stay strong, you are a good person, I can see that. Keep it real and you will shine.
2007-02-20 22:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This place can be a real barnyard - full of PIGS and CHICKENS. They love hiding behind the comforts of the computer, typing up insults that they'd never dare speak out loud. For them, insulting others makes themselves feel good.
2007-02-20 22:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Understand that this section attreacts internet Trolls...they get their entertainment by getting a rise out of those here...making them angry, etc. The best and only way to deal with Trolls is to completely ignore them...no answers, no reporting, no nothing..they will become bored very quickly..this is just plain old Internet wisdom, and the problems run through all the chat lines, etc. IGNORE! Don't be a fool and feed troll's sickness. Ignore them completely. KKKwhater, or whatever his name is at any one moment, lives to get people here to be angry and write diatribes...Ignore him. He is operating under '....lulu, princess..., you name it, he is a TROLL
2007-02-20 22:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have gay friends male and female and I joke with them all the time ,they do not mind I tell them not to do any thing in front of me they don't and I tell them that GOD made ADAM and EVE not ADAM and STEVE
2007-02-20 22:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by KJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're not spending much time in other Q&A catagories cuz it's the same in ALL of them! Ya just can't take it so personally & ya have to try to ignore the offensive Q&A's + try to recognize the helpful Q&A's!
2007-02-20 22:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by SmallVoiceInBigWorld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a caring heart. Too bad some take advantage of that
2007-02-20 22:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Biggest problem, this board is a magnet for trolls! Don't believe all that you may see here.
2007-02-20 23:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by kar506 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋