than the actual marriage itself and getting prepared ? I can't for the life of me figure out why people are going into all this debt or their parents are for a ceremony that last 10 t 15 minutes than have a big party afterwards when most of these marriages that had 20k weddings will end in divorce since the divorce rate is over 50 percent.
I know everyone wants a fairytale wedding, the wedding doesnt matter if the marriage isn't prepared or strong. I got married on the beach, 40.00 wedding dress( still elegant and beautiful), 5.00 shoes from kmart, hubbys suit 80.00, flip flops 2.00 from kmart. Buffett at local restuarant 3.50 per person. been married going on 15 yrs.
Dont say ugly hateful things, im just curious how much time have these brides to be or grooms to be have spent on getting ready for the actual marriage, cause living together is just playing house, once you are married cosmic forces changes things,lol your views ?
2007-02-20 14:03:04 · 9 answers · asked by BoTToms UP 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I agree with you must work on the marraige first and worry about the ceremony later. Hubby and I were more concerned with making our relationship stronger and ready for marraige than we were about what cake we were gonna serve! lol
We were together 3 yrs before we were married. We went down some really rough roads..together and luckily we made it back up those roads still together; not everyone is that lucky. That showed us just how strong our relationship was. Now, I also have to say that the only part of our marraige that we would not compromise on was that God be involved in it. We both had been married at a JP before (NO OFFENSE TO THOSE WHO WERE ALSO MARRIED BY A JP...)and it just did not feel right for us to go that route. Those other marraiges we knew, deep in our hearts, would not last. So, we pretty much turned the whole thing over to my mom...who was way too happy to do it. lol
The only thing we did make sure we had control over was our vows and the prayer that was said during the ceremony.
Mom had a blast planning and throwing our wedding and reception...which was just a big ole BBQ! My dress was under $50..hubby did not even wear a suit..and he "forgot" his tie at home even! lol Mom and I made all the flowers and invites, with help from friends. That just seemed to make it all the more personal...there was no spotlight on how much things cost..it was just all about our wedding and being together.
What made it special for us was that we were able to share our special day with the family and friends we love and adore.
2007-02-21 05:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by LuLu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even in this day and age women are brought up to think that if they don't get married then they are a failure. If you don't have the big white wedding and leave yourself in debt then you have somehow failed. I have been to weddings where the bride has contacted all her guests to inform them what they can and can't wear and also a wedding where the cheapest thing on the gift list was over £30. People need to reassess their lives and their relationship if they think someone turning up in cream will spoil the wedding. I understand wanting to feel special. When I got married I wanted a nice dress and my family there, I got both and the cost of the whole wedding was less than £1000. I pledged myself to my husband and my family got a week's holiday. No one was expected to pay for their own drinks, I didn't have a photographer and I still felt special. I sometimes feel that the women that obsess over the little details in their wedding do so because it means they can ignore the problems in their relationship. Also so many women look to celebrities and see them getting married within six months and see that as they way forward (personally I have no idea why). The whole idea that a relationship has a timetable you go out for 6mths get married after 2yrs and then you have a child after another year. Women seem to look at that and think what am I doing wrong. The amount of pressure I got to get married was unbelievable. I was with my hubby for five years before marriage was even seriously discussed and by this point we had been living together and had moved abroad so the relationship was already serious. Now that we are married it has become oh when will we be hearing the patter of tiny feet hmm. It drives me insane let me progress at my pace! It is this pressure that adds to the divorce rate as women rush into a marriage so they aren't left on the shelf and then it is the wedding day that becomes important and not the relationship. Maybe as a society we should be less judgmental of women who have never married and more supportive of women who say they have never met the right man. At least they aren't making me pay £40 for a cup and saucer, £20 on train fare and £60 on a new hat; for a wedding day that within two years I will have to destroy all momento's of, as the barsteward ran off with the wedding planner!
2016-05-24 00:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right about how every girl wants to have the fairy tale wedding and i think if you marry soemone in the back of your mind you think its gonna last forever. Honestly my advice DONT have a big expensive wedding unless you really have money to throw away and someone else whos planning it for you.. I had a small ceremony at a chapel. it was like $250. we had a BBQ that night at his parents house, I think there was like 12-15 people and it costs like $50 for all the food and $25 for the cake. my dress was awesome and it was less than $100 but honestly.. even though it was a small wedding and overall costs less than $1000.oo it was So much stress I wouldnt have it any bigger AT ALL!!
2007-02-20 14:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know!
It's out of control, how much people spend on weddings these days! I bet they are still paying off their weddings when they file for divorce!
I only spent $2000 on my wedding (it's all I had, so that's all I spent) and it was lovely. Of course, that was 20 years ago.
But there really is no need to spend an arm and a leg to have a nice wedding.
2007-02-20 14:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Zippy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my wedding was about $5,000-$6,000. i wanted to elope to Vegas, BUT no one else wanted to.
i'm approaching my 2nd anniversary, and we've been together for almost 6 years. i like the idea of a casual wedding. my bridesmaids' dresses were $20 from JC Penny's, and they did their own hair, and wore their own shoes. my dress was handmade in the Philipines, so i don't know how much that was (my step-mother had it done, and won't even tell my dad). i think we had a good deal. we aren't in debt from it, and it's all paid on the spot. i agree that some people go overboard on their wedding costs, when it is only 1 day out of their lives! i hardly remember my reception! all i was thinking was VACATION!!!!!!
2007-02-20 14:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is an inverse ratio where weddings are concerned. The more money spent on the wedding, the shorter the marriage.
2007-02-20 14:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Justice of the Peace !!
2007-02-20 14:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by yahoo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
when I get married I will tell you what I do
2007-02-20 14:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by × 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's media induced hype.
2007-02-20 14:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋