My aunt and uncle and cousins always go on a beach trip every year for two weeks and always have fun. My cousin Kelly and her husband receltly had a baby and my aunt has been taking care of it alot since Kelly and her husband work during the day. Now my other cousin Misty is jelous( i belive) because My aunt is keeping Kellys baby alot but still seeing my Mistys kids. Now Misty has told her kids that my aunt doesnt love them and the whole beach trip has been called off. (as of now). Misty and her husband have nothing to do with us now. How can i get my family back together!
2007-02-20 14:01:06 · 4 answers · asked by ryan12bs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmm..not sure I'm really following the "he said she said" kind of stuff, but I get the gist of it. And the short answer is: You can't.
The best hope you have of getting 2 sides back together is to be as lovingly neutral as possible. IF Side A comes to you and says, "What a b---- Side B is!" you should try to lovingly, firmly (yet avoiding a preachy tone) respond along the lines of, "Nevertheless, Side B is still my aunt, and I love her." If Side B comes along and says, "I heard Side A was saying so-and-so about me! What did she say to you?" you should say, "If there was anything, I try not to hear nasty things about the people I love." If, someday, the kids come to you and ask, "Why does Aunt B hate us?" you should say, "I can't believe that Aunt B does hate you, but if you want an answer, you should ask Aunt B. Anyway, I love you, and I'm terribly sorry if it seems that anyone in this family hates anyone else."
There's no guarantee this will work. Side A and Side B may find more and more reasons to hate each other. But they will never, ever be able to say that YOU were the cause of any of it. And there is a decent chance that both sides will (eventually) hear your benign message of love and start to feel foolish about their behavior and gradually patch things up.
In the meantime, anyone who wants to take a vacation should take it. Maybe not the "traditional" trip (that might feel like sand in the face to assorted parties), but don't let silliness like this put a hitch in your whole life. You will all very quickly become unhappy, bitter people.
2007-02-20 14:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um... therapy and/or bribery? This is a bit harder than some family stuff. Try talking to Misty and using reason.
2007-02-20 22:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Maxie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody wants to watch anybodys kids.Some don't want to watch their own.Maybe in a pinch,or payment up front makes everyone happy.
2007-02-20 22:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by escargo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer to all tension is Tai Chi. Its really calming
2007-02-20 22:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by jj_frolik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋