i have a big problem with my sister, i mean, she's making problems wid other people and I have to solve it coz i'm her sister, so i have to deal with my sisters problems and i'm so dizzy now.
In school my classmates are making fun of me, i'm not in the mood today and i wanna cry but i cant cry in front of everybody,
what would u do if u were in my position?
2007-02-20 14:01:03 · 9 answers · asked by wEnNy 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would tell little sister that she is going to learn a very valuable lesson. I would let her know that I am done solving her problems. If she creates any further problems, she gets to learn how to solve it for her self. And that would be the best thing for her.
As far as what I would do if my classmates are making fund of me.... You don't exactly state why they are making fun of you... but, in general, what I would do is laugh with them and let it go. I wouldn't give it a lot of my time or worry because that would just feed their fire and they would make fun of me every chance they get. Thats what happens when the person who makes fun of you knows that they are really getting a rise out of you - they want more and they will take advantage of every opportunity to make fun of you from that point on. So I would just have fun with it (no matter how hard it is to do because it will get easier - and they won't know it bothers you which will "bother" the **it out of them!)
2007-02-20 14:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention if your sister is younger or older or what the specific problems she is making & if they are with other kids or if they are with adults so it's hard to offer useful help, however you should try to express to your sister in as loving a manner as possible that she needs to take actions to correct her own problems and you should not feel like you have to shoulder that responsibility, even if others who have the problems with her come to you about it you should tell them they need to take care of it directly with your sister.
It's admirable that you want to watch out for and take care of your sister but you may just be enabling her to live a life without consequences and be robbing her of the opportunity to develop her own coping and problem solving skills that she will need in order to have a succesful adult life.
Sometimes, not doing something for someone is the best thing you can do for them.
About the teasing... I know its easier said than done, but don't let them get to you -- teasing is just to get a reaction & if they get it, it will only bring on more teasing & make you more of a target. Either ignore them all together or put a humorous spin on whatever they are teasing about.
Good luck.
2007-02-20 22:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by celia17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your sister down and have a heart to heart. Tell her what she is causing you and tell her you are suffering and that you can't do it anymore. If she is any kind of sister she will be concerned, if not you need to let her go, let her fail and let it be on her to figure out...you are not her keeper if she has no regard for you, only if she is in a position she can't help and needs you. If it's her being a brat or a non caring whatever you need to lket it go. Please don't let her keep it up and bring you doen. Also, take a gfriend aside and tell her you are stressed and you need them to lay off please. Don't give details just make sure she know you are hurting and hope they will stop their teasing. Good luck baby girl.
2007-02-20 22:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk some sense into your sister and if that doesn't work stop standing up for her. She will have to learn the hard way that causing problems means she has to fix them.
2007-02-20 22:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dase 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to solve your sister's problems? Are you conjoined twins or something? She is her own person and is responsible for herself. You are responsible only for yourself. You can help her sort herself out, but it is not your responsibility. No one else should be confusing your sister's problems with you, why are you? Let her grow up and own up to her own issues.
And why are your classmates making fun of you? Is it related to your sister? Then tell them to deal with her, not you. YOU ARE NOT YOUR SISTER.
2007-02-20 22:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't constantly solve your sisters problems. She'll always be there thinking you'lll solve everything. It'll just give you migraines. Make her step up and face the consiquences. If it gets her beat up maybe she'll stop. It worked for my sis.
2007-02-20 22:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by makalas_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your sister older or younger? Why do you feel that you need to be taking care of your sister's problems that SHE caused? Are you always going to be there cleaning up her messes? You need to get your priorities straight and take care of YOU. You're stressed because you're not taking time out for yourself and taking care of your needs instead of your sister's. Where are your parents? Let them know about what you are going through--it's their responsibility to take care of her...not yours.
You're to be commended for taking care of her, but there's going to be a time that she needs to step up and take responsibility for her own messes!!
2007-02-20 22:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by lizzieboredom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your sister and start living your own life. You shouldn't have to take responsibility for her actions.
2007-02-20 22:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this problem to your parents......
2007-02-20 22:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by Prasun Saurav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋