Do you feel you were unfairly treated by your family during your upbringing? How has this affected your life?

Question

I was physically and mentally abused by my family throughtout my upbringing (I still live with them, but it's not as bad now and my parents divorced).

I wasn't the particularly targeted victim...they were always fighting and argueing, although I feel like I am a good person and didn't have anything to do with it, and should not have been brought into any of it.

Now I have severe Social Anxiety and depression as a result, and it has limited my life soo much, and caused a lot of suffering as a result. After several attempts at killing myself, I am starting to try and get my life back on track.

I was just wondering about other peoples experiences if you don't mind me asking.

Thanks.

I meant to say I was the target, but they didn't target me in particular, they were always targeting each other as well as me.

Thanks for your input =]

Answer 1

My folks fought a lot. There was a lot of verbal abuse & sometimes physical abuse in my teen years. I did lots of things I shouldn't have but I'm still here & almost 40 years old. I like loud music, but hate loud people, loud tv, etc. My wife & I have never fought & we are at the 20 year mark. I really like tranquility & peacefulness whenever I can get it. I have tons of energy & have a hard time going to sleep at night. My upbringing would definitely have been considered child abuse by todays standards. I control my temper but sometimes it's hard. I believe some people should not have children. I never thought about suicide because I don't want to go to Hell. I left home at 16 & never looked back. My folks also divorced. My dad remarried & died 5 years later. I don't have contact with my mom at all. Focus on education. College is very important. Best wishes to you. Life can be tough, but make the best of it that you can. I'm surprised I just told you all that. Hope it helps.

Answer 2

yep, been there too, but often I was the target, never understood why or what I'd done and I was always trying to make myself better or do things better, but nothing seemed to work.
My parents are gone now.
It affected my life in many major ways, but somewhere along the way I realized the way I was being treated was wrong, and I treated my kids very differently, I'm still finding my way, but my approach toward other people has been permanently affected.
I love to love and only sought love in return.

Answer 3

yep, been there too, but often I was the target, never understood why or what I'd done and I was always trying to make myself better or do things better, but nothing seemed to work.
My parents are gone now.
It affected my life in many major ways, but somewhere along the way I realized the way I was being treated was wrong, and I treated my kids very differently, I'm still finding my way, but my approach toward other people has been permanently affected.
I love to love and only sought love in return.

Answer 4

many cases! yet then I determine that I actually have a robust reason for feeling that way as I even have an exceptionally 'out of their brains' sister who has made existence impossible for two decades. i seem forward to shifting in 2 years time whilst my young babies have finished college. Have the land to construct and can't wait. no longer will I could positioned up with the nut case accusing me of ridiculous issues as i'll be in yet another state. Rock on 2 years time!

Answer 5

Being that I am hearing impaired, lot of people mistreated me, because they thought i was special and knew nothing. I was often called names and people was alway finding a way to bring me down. It wasn't until i went away to a college where i finally found myself and every since that point on, i learned to stand up for myself and prove people wrong.. so i really feel you on that. it takes a lot so just be patient and find who you are.

Answer 6

I was emotionally and physically abused throughout my childhood. It still has reprecussions now. I have depression, anxiety and panic disorders. I find it very difficult to trust anyone. If I trust a person and they do something to break that trust, I have nothing to do with them. I also have control issues. e-mail me if you would like to talk more.