Can at the age of 14....can you really fall in love...and think its your soul mate?

Question

can real love be possible at the age of 14?

Answer 1

Yes, I believe it is possible sometimes at a young age, but rare. "Love" is a strong word. Love is not lust, love is not infatuation, love is not a crush on someone, love is when you deeply care for someone and what you see on the outside does not matter.. it's all in the heart. Younger people tend to not know the true meaning of love.. they go by what they think love is. For the girls, they think it is seeing a hot guy pass by and that is love. For the guys, they think it is seeing a sexually appealing female that is showing off parts of the body that should not be seen by everyone and that is love. That is NOT love. That is lust. Love and lust are very easily confused these days. It is even confused in music very often.. like T Pain's song "I'm In Love With A Stripper".. good song, but sorry guys that's not talking about real love.. that is lust. I think the younger people who don't understand actually think about songs like this and think that being attracted to a stripper is love because that is what they're being told it is. Another thing.. love for a person is not determined by what they have or how wealthy they are. Love is from the HEART!!! =)

Answer 2

Let me just say that I met my husband when we were 14, and now 7 years later we're still together and have 2 beautiful children together. Now, when we were 14 I thought I thought I'd fallen in love, and I had, as much as a 14 year old can. At that age you don't yet know who you really are, much less that you're "in love" with someone. But in my case, me and my husband grew up together and over the years our love has truely grown into something a lot more genuine. It's a lot different than what I felt as a teenager, however, I advocate "High School" sweethearts, and I do believe that people who meet and marry young stand just as good a chance as anyone else in love!

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I can answer you from two sides of the same story.

As a 14 year old: I was convinced that I was in love! NO one could have told me differently and I was going to marry that boy (even though he truly didn't know I was alive...) He was the most beautiful creature that ever walked. I was so in love I couldn't eat, sleep or think.

As a grown up, I have several degrees in Child Development and Education: I know that children don't develop fully until they are at least 18. Their brains aren't developed, their bodies aren't full grown, and this is why human infants stay with adult care givers until they themselves are adults: because they need nurturing and guidance until they are grown themselves.

We are taught as educators that children that young are not capable of decision making and don't have enough experience to understand complex emotions.

Knowing that I thought about love and heartbreak at age 14, I disagreed with my professors when I was told that, but I don't think I knew anything about soul mates and what constitutes real, deep love.

I think it was infatuation, and a naive, sweet thing. Real, for sure, but not deep and meaningful love that I know as an adult.

Answer 4

I think it is entirely possible to fall in love to the extent that a 14 year old knows love. Only time will tell if the love can last, and grow with the individual.

Answer 5

Maybe But people change all the time. So what you are at age 14 you will likely not be when your 20 or even 30.

Answer 6

Possible, I guess, but not very probable. Why? Because you are going to be a very different person at 14, 18, 25,etc...but even more radically different as you age than you are in your teens. The odds CAN work in your favor,but it's just not likely. Give it time. Time is always on your side.

Answer 7

I believe that anything is possable. I am not saying that the love this person is real cause many time peoepl get love with infatuation twisted. The way to know is to just look at the situation from another view and youll be sure to find your answer if your really in love cause no one but you knows.By the way love is not a feeling its an action

Answer 8

i thought i was in love at 14. It felt real and i was shure i would marry the girl, but now as an adult and looking at my marriage I did not know what love was back then. That was just a steping stone in my life to real love

Answer 9

I'm not asugar-coater and have to say, no...that's too young for the emotional maturity that romantic love requires. Infatuation feels like love though, and is a precursor to it...point being you are apparently feeling something strongly for someone, and it must be pretty kewl, huh?

As for soulmates, that term is as overused and misused as love. Most people don't even really know what they are.

I'd say you may have met someone you like a lot and enjoy being around...but love is down the road a ways, and a soulmate (who may or may not be a romantic partner) might never cross your path, or many may (they can be same or opposite sex people, and are ones you feel a deep connection to immediately upon knowing them). Time will tell.

Answer 10

I know when I was fourteen I thought the guy I liked was my one true love. People are so naive at that age though. I think it's possible to find your soulmate at that age, but generally, if you think they are, they really aren't. Adolescence is such a strange time in life.