A lady has an abortion at 5.5 months. She regrets it very much. How soon can she have another one to keep this time?
2007-02-20 13:32:25 · 19 answers · asked by ocean 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't listen to nasty posters who indicate you should not be allowed to have another baby because you had an abortion. How dare they. What you went through was obviously a very personal, private thing, and you had your reasons.
If you are asking from a purely physical perspective - when can I get pregnant again - then assuming all is well with you and you are otherwise healthy then you should be able to become pregnant again as soon as your cycle kicks in. For some women this happens pretty much right away, for other women it can take a few months for their bodies to settle down. Wait until your body has healed from the operation (about 2-6 weeks) before trying though, just in to make sure the cervix has healed.
Either way, having an abortion without any complications does not generally prevent a woman going on to have healthy babies in the future.
If you want another baby simply because you are missing the one you lost then you maybe need to speak to a counsellor to have a look at your situation a little more closely, a little less emotionally. You have to weigh up your reasons behind having the termination in the first place, and figure out what is really motivating you to want another child. Because it may well be that effective counselling will be able to get you through this period of mourning and loss without the need for you to have another child at this time while you may well still be fragile about the whole thing.
And then maybe later, when you are absioutely ready and have no doubts about your motivation for wantitng a child, you can try for another baby.
I wish you good luck.
2007-02-20 13:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by SydneyMum101 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, you would have to talk to your doctor of maybe even planned parenthood to find out. People make mistakes and regret them later, it does no good to dwell on what should have been done. You live with it and have the child knowing you wont make the same mistake again. We all have made our mistakes. Some people do not see it as a mistake and I do not condemn them. I wouldn't think nearly six months is too soon though, but as I said, it would be best to contact the doctor or place the abortion occured and ask them. There may be complications, but I could not say whether there are or not so it is best to ask. Also, I could not tell you even physically as I couldn't tell you whether she would be emotionally ready. Only that person could say for sure. If the doctors say they are healed enough and they know they are emotional ready then whenever the doctor okays it.
2007-02-20 14:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a question probably best answered by a doctor. Since it was a late term abortion then i would imagine (although i couldn't say for certain) that the body probably needs a fair bit of time to heal.
Not only that, i think the mind also needs time to heal. Such a big decision at such a late stage of pregnancy, especially one that is now regretted, needs to be addressed. Unfortunately having another baby is not a "replacement" of the one that was terminated and it shouldn't be viewed that way.
I think time is whats needed at the moment - for body and mind to heal.
2007-02-20 13:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a pretty major decision to make at 5.5 months along and regret it so soon. I would advise waiting a while, maybe getting some counselling first, giving your body time to recover and then decide if she really wants it.
2007-02-20 13:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
was the abortion done because of a medical issue with the mother? No one has asked that before judging her. I would assume there was to get one at that time
Deserve a child is a loose term.......... alot of people dont deserve them. Does a poor woman deserve to have children she cant afford? Does someone on drugs deserve children? Does a mom of 2-3 that doesn't take care of what she has deserve more? Alot less would have children if they deserved them.
2007-02-20 13:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by tammer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she should really ask a doctor.. I had an abortion at 10 weeks... and they told me i should wait 2 weeks before having sex.. and i just read on a site that you can get pregnant after 2 weeks of aborting... but she should really think things over and make sure that shes ready this time.. I was forced to get an abortion and when i went there... i felt so out of place... there were all these girls there and they were acting like nothing was wrong.. i prolly looked stupid to them cuz i was crying the whole time... and this one girl had 3 abortions before... i dont think its right for these ppl on here to be saying the things that they are... like that she should never be allowed to have children again... and stuff like that!! Yes abortions are wrong, but some ppl arent ready.. and what about girls that get raped... do you think they really wanna have a sex offenders baby... YOU WOULDNT!! or what about girls that are gonna have complications... im guessing you think she should also take her life... IM NOT SAYING THAT ABORTIONS ARE RIGHT... BUT AT TIMES THEY ARE.. STOP WITH ALL THE MEAN CRAP AND PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES FOR ONCE... I BET YOU WOULDNT ENJOY GETTING CALLED A WHORE EVERYDAY... AND HAVING PPL TELL YOU THAT YOU DONT DESERVE TO LIVE AND ALL THAT MEAN ****..
2007-02-20 14:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
That is horrible. I had a 4 D ultrasound done of my baby at 19 weeks just before 5 months and she looked just like a little person. So cute. That is to far along to have one. I cant imagine that. Even if she regrets it very much, she still should wait quite a while or not have any others at all. Having another is not going to ease any pain.
2007-02-20 13:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by Blondi 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
A "lady"? I would never call a female who killed her baby at 5.5 months gestation a "lady". I should hope she regrets it. It makes me heartsick to think of that little baby dying and being thrown away. That female was able to feel that baby kick and move, and she still wanted it dead? No, she doesn't deserve to have another simply because she feels bad and thinks having a baby will fix things. She'll deserve another one when she can give that child a stable, loving, father as well as a mother, who are committed to each other. I hope she carries this guilt around her whole life and cousels others thinking about abortion to think twice.
2007-02-20 13:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by Margie 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Wow, last time I checked we lived in a free country and any "woman" who would degrate another woman for having an abortion should live in a shed away from the rest of society. Shame on you. Judging someone without even knowing the situation. Those are the woman I hate, at least men have the excuse of being idiot and never having to make a decision like that.
But you can have another pretty quickly, I would agree in saying you should give your body time to heal and talk to a womans counselor. Good luck to that lady and never regret, only you know whats best for you.
2007-02-20 13:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Natalie L 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
That all depends on how long after she is trying, and she needs to get checked out by her DR first. If she is really truly ready, and it has been a sufficient amount of time to recover, and perhaps she should seek counseling to make sure she is not simply trying to seek relief from her regret and guilt, then she should try to have a baby.
2007-02-20 13:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Shayna B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋