Do you worry?

Question

Do you worry about what sort of Mother you will make? I'm 32wks pregnant and really looking forward to the end of pregnancy - really looking forward to meeting my baby, and yet at the same time i'm worried about what sort of Mother i am going to make. I mean i am going to be responsible for an actual little person - how daunting is that? I have an absolutely wonderful mother - but being a good mother isn't heriditary is it?! lol.

I just worry i won't be the mother my baby deserves - but i don't know why i think this.

Anyone else scared/daunted/worried about being a Mom?

Answer 1

The mere fact that your worried about it says tons! You CARE about being a good mom and you put thought into how you will do that. I think that's great. (I would be worried for you if you DIDN'T have these thoughts!). Every new mother (the good ones) worry about how they will handle all this new responsibility. I have a 3 year old daughter and a 13-mo-old son and I was DEFINITELY worried about how I was going to do this.

Trust me! When you hold your baby that you've been feeling all these months and dreaming of how she/he will feel, look, smell, sound -- you will do anything in the world to protect your baby forever!

Some days are easier than others, and sometimes right in the beginning (some) babies can be pretty demanding -- but when they are old enough to look at you with those big eyes and smile as if you're the only person in the world for them -- it will ALL be worth every bit of energy you've spent.

And actually, mothering is a bit "hereditary" -- more than likely, you will pass down a similar childhood to your child. Hopefully (and I think so from what you said) it was a good childhood.

Good luck! You are soooooo close now!

Answer 2

I'm nowhere near pregnant, but I am going through a lot of stuff with my sister right now. And, I worry that if I ever have kids I will not be able to handle it if my child acts like my sister does. So, I think your worries are valid and rationale. However, I would encourage you to BELIEVE and to know that you are well equipped and able to provide love, good advice and appropriate parenting skills. Draw from the good and bad things you saw your parents do and make a conscious effort to provide a better childhood than you had. And, even when you don't feel like it, make sure your child knows that you love him/her and that you have her best interest at hand. But, whatever you do - don;t spoil them or baby them. Make them responsible, mature, respectful adults. My sister is definitely a product of a mother who tried to hard to be her daughter's friend, rather than her mother.

Answer 3

I am pregnant and I haven't told my parents yet, it was a mistake, but it's too late to abort, not like I would have. I have often broken down in tears, not because I am upset but because I have so many mixed feelings about becoming a mother, one minute I think that I am the perfect mother, but then I recall a secnario in my past childhood and how my parents couldn't handle it, and then I get worried that I won't be able to handle it, and it gets very confusing. I am seeing a therapist to help me get these emotions under control. So don't worry honey, your not alone, email me if you ever just want to talk. I am here usually. Don't worry, it will be ok.
Sarah

Answer 4

Yes, that is why I do not want children. I don't want to be one of those moms that just pawn off their kids on others. I am so afraid I would be a horrible mother!!!

I think a lot of people think the same way. I believe that, that fear will go away after the birth and all you can focus on is caring for your child. Good luck :)

Answer 5

I was also felling the same way you were at first.I then learned the best thing you can do is love your baby.You are truly the mother the baby deserves, your the one who supplied his/hers first 9 or so months. Don't worry parenting comes naturally to most people who have been pregnant.

Answer 6

if u are worried that shows u are gonna be a good mom . alot of people out there think oh having a baby is gonna be a breeze!!! ummm no! hahaha but u know what its SO worth it. It was for me anyway. Your life will never be the same I will be honest abt that but thing is... you will never want your life to be like it was after u have ur little one. :) good luck!

Answer 7

everything about being pregnant and being a mom is scary to any one at any age because its something u never experience before but am sure as soon as ur baby arrives ul forgot what ur worrying about and just act inattentively on what u should do for being a mom
congratulations
try not stress or be scared that much

Answer 8

I think it is just 1st time mommy jitters....
Being a mom is 99% common sense. Don't be over protective, but be involved. Don't be too casual, but pick your battles, don't sweat the small things. Your mom is wonderful, use her for support & advice. My mom was a huge help even though she lives 3000 miles away. I think you'll be surprised at how quickly you learn & how much seems to come naturally.
Congratulations to you & your husband & Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

You have natural worries , I did the same thing ,worry about all of this . Every one of us had a moment like this . Don't worry you will be a great mom ! Just teach the little one all you know and it will be fine!

Congrats on the baby

Answer 10

I am not yet a mother...but I am a teacher
and all I can tell you is that spening time with your children is the most important thing you can do- my happiest students are always the kids whose parents are involved in their lives
You will be a great mom
Good luck!