I WAS JUST WONDERING IF I SHOULD START HAVING SEX WITH MY BF OR WAIT LONGER. WE'VE BEEN DATING FOR ALMOST A YEAR AND HE'S REALLY ON MY CASE ABOUT HAVING SEX, BUT i DON'T KNOW IF I SHOULD WAIT LONGER. I'M NOT A VIRGIN SO IT'S NOT ABOUT LOSING MY VIRGINITY OR ANYTHING
2007-02-20 13:26:11 · 31 answers · asked by chuckhighdiva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WAIT TILL MARRIAGE.
This is how I feel about it ...
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I am a virgin. I have a boyfriend of a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2007-02-20 13:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
well, if yall have been dating for a year and yall still havent had sex, there must be a reason. it may be your morals and values, maybe you aren't sure if you love him, or maybe he just doesn't turn you on...I was a virgin until about 10 months ago, I went out on my very first date ever with a 23 year old guy and i was 17. after we dated 2 weeks we both knew we were in love, but we did not say it until like 3 and a half weeks. we did not even kiss for two weeks, and i had been raised in church, and knew that u were supposed to be a virgin until marriage and all that jazz but we had sex when we had been dating like almost 3 months. i do not regret it, except now we are getting married on june 2, and i keep hearing all this stuff about the gift of virginity, u know, so its kind of awkward, but i just think i let him have his present early. but anyway if ur man is pressuring u, then u deserve better, i mean if he is just teasing, or when u are almost at the point of doing it, then thats one thing, but if he is just constantly asking u for sex then u deserve someone better...on the other hand if he is asking u to have sex so he can show you how much he loves you...that is a better argument...but you should be careful, there are many diseases out there, people you never would guess have STD's and then of course, i imagine you do not want a baby now!
2007-02-20 13:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by marriedin2007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should wait 'til marriage. Not to mention Herpes Syp 2 is in 25% of the US population---what if he cheated on you he would be bringing outside bodily fluids into the relationship. If he seems to be big on sex...what does that tell you...he has probably done a lot of it.
and sex is addictive...next thing ya know you'll become a sexaholic...and you will be picking up strangers at bars. Sex is sacred and should be only experienced between a married couple that loves each other.
Also...lets say you have sex with one person and that one person has had sex with three people and each of those three people have had sex with three other people and so on....In conclusion, having sex in today's promiscuous age is exchanging bodily fluids with 100's of people...it goes up exponentially.
2007-02-20 13:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by stagger_lee1974 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should have sex with him on your wedding night. After a year of dating, you'd think he would have popped the question by now. He probably still thinks he can get the milk for free.
2007-02-20 13:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by ric9757 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he is really on your case about it seems like a red flag to me. Personally I would tell him that I would when he marries me, if you are old enough for that kind of thing. See what he says. It will reveal a lot about your boyfriend - good or bad.
2007-02-20 13:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're 40 8 you have earned the wonderful to be a slut at that age. yet whilst your searching for some thing extreme waiting is often superb 2 to 3weeks looking on your connection, stable good fortune
2016-10-02 11:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by carouthers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not a vergin then it is kind of easier and well let us say much better the only thing is that do you thing he only wants to have sex with you or that he would be your lover as well cause a year is not a long time in a sence of " " any ways you could decied by following you heart
2007-02-20 13:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well u can't put a time limit on when to have sex it really happens wen it happens...But if u feel that ur emotionaly and physically ready then use protection and have fun..But if ur not in da correct mind frame or think negative then don't do it
2007-02-20 13:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm a Christian, raised to wait until marriage. That was my plan. I didn't. I wound up going all the way. We had been seeing each other for about a year.
I got seduced when I was 25 and I will admit that I enjoyed it. I'm well beyond regrets.
2017-02-04 15:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a reason for your wait - you will know when the time is right for you
2007-02-20 13:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by MS L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋