My friend and I both started trying to get pregnant at the same time. However, I got pregnant within a month, and she did not. Now 5 months later she starts saying that shes not trying anymore and that she wants to wait, saying she doesn't want to be tied down and all kinds of different things in ways that it seems to me, like she wants me to regret getting pregnant. So I was wondering does this sound like jealousy to any of you? She can be spiteful sometimes as well and has told me that she wasnt going to try anymore once, then when her mood changes, she decides that she wants to. I think shes frustrated what about you?
2007-02-20 11:07:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I do understand that it would be frustrating to be in her situation. Trust me, I was sure that I was going to be the one who couldn't get pregnant.
Btw, not everyone uses yahoo answers, so I know she's not going to see my id, and I don't put it on msn like 'oh im having a baby etc' I only talk about it when she brings it up, but when she brings it up, it seems to be in a negative way is all.
2007-02-20 11:27:44 · update #1
I agree. She sounds frustrated and jealous. Just try to keep in mind that most people get pregnant as soon as they stop trying. Make sure you rise above and act SUPER excited when it finally does happen for her. You were lucky to get pregnant so fast. Make sure you send some baby dust her way from me and my one on the way!!
2007-02-20 11:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of worrying about whether she's jealous or frustrated, you should be there for her when she needs a friend the most. Of course she's frustrated! You got pregnant and she didn't. She might be thinking there is something wrong with her. And seeing you so happy about it might be like a slap in the face to her. You should talk to her and let her know that you're there for her and will go through this difficult time with her.
2007-02-20 19:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is jealousy but, you need to look at it this way.. what if you did not get preg. and she did how would you feel?? Not so good right?? Just say I know it is going to be hard and many sleepless nights but I am thankful I got preg. I hope the same for you when you decide you want to try again.
2007-02-20 19:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is jealous you know as a woman what it means to get pregnant and have a baby and thats what she wants it's not right that she should get nasty with you but it sounds like she needs you to be the bigger person and just encourage her when she does mention to you she really does want a baby that not everyone can get pregnant right away and to just be paitent. Just try not to let it get to you and enjoy being pregnant it is your right. =)
2007-02-20 19:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are both being a little petty. Yes she sounds jealous and like she is trying to get to you and, not only is it working, it sounds like you are judging her when you don't understand the pain of someone having trouble concieving because it came so easily for you. Is it at all possible that you have been so wrapped up in your joy that you have been a little inconsiderate of her feelings. (not accusing just asking). Anyway, just try to be understanding and hopefully she can learn to be happy for you.
2007-02-20 19:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she probably is jealous, but try not to let her feelings bother you. It's not as if you can help her. Just focus on your own pregnancy and look forward to having a healthy, happy baby!
2007-02-20 19:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by E K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES SHE IS PROBABLY FRUSTRATED. IT REALLY HURTS TO WANT A BABY AND NOT BE ABLE TO HAVE ONE. JUST TRY YOUR BEST TO BE THERE FOR HER AND ENCOURAGE HER. AND DON'T LET HER TELL YOU ANY THING NEGATIVE ABOUT BEING PREGNANT OR BEING A MOM. JUST KEEP TELLING HER HOW GREAT IT IS AND HOW EXCITED YOU ARE.
2007-02-20 19:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by CNT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be using those excuses to make herself feel better, but not intending you to be hurt by them. She seems frustrated from what you've said and may just be looking for reassurance and comfort.
2007-02-20 19:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by cerah_micah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And I guess that in your jubilation you made sure to temper yourself around your struggling friend...
I'm wondering if your friend has posted a Q concerning how insensitive her friend is over her inability to get knocked up. Take a look at your yahoo ID and tell me that THAT isn't pouring salt into your friend's wounds?
2007-02-20 19:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I'd bet she's jealous. You should try not to be angry with her. She is just venting because she's not as lucky as you, so she wants you to feel bad.
2007-02-20 19:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋