hello. m 21 and ive yet to have sex as i am terrified of it hurting. im not scared to be intimate with someone, as i believe when youre in love its amazing. But im so scared being my first time that it will hurt!!! Can people tell me whether their first time hurt when they were really comfortable with someone and what the pain is like, im so nervous bout it. (ps: i wont be having sex until im comfortable and in love with the person so theres no issue of that"
2007-02-20 11:00:41 · 21 answers · asked by KissesnKuddles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well my first time was a little painful but it's not as bad as everyone makes it out to be. Just relax and everything will be fine. Take it easy and slow...Good luck
2007-02-20 11:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by MrS.WilSoN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there were no condoms then you probably shouldn't have done it and when I was your age we waited longer than a month to have sex with somebody and I'm only about 6 years older than you are. Also you shouldn't be having sex at 14. I know I sound like a parent, but I've had friends that have become parents before they even made it to the 8th grade. Take care of yourself and if it turns out that you are pregnant then you will have to tell him and your parent so that you can get all the help in whatever decision you make.If your not pregnant then don't worry about telling your parents, but still you should hold off on sex until you are older and no more unprotected sex until you are ready to have kids.
2016-05-24 00:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Vernieke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls have a thin layer of tissue over the opening of their vagina called a hymen. When you have sex for the first time, that hymen breaks, and sometimes you experience lots of pain but for others it's not too bad. Some women describe it as a sharp pain, but others says it was more like a dull, aching pain down there. However, sometimes the hymen has already broken from normal activities such as inserting a tampon or horseback riding. Everybody is different, so there is no sure way to describe what it'll be like. Also, when you do have sex for the first time, put a towel underneath, as the breaking hymen can cause a bloody mess. <3
2007-02-20 11:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kudo's 2 U 4 waiting. I think that when the time is right, the pain will be the furtherest thing from your mind. It's just a little bit of pressure, I had periods that were much worse than that, and this is only uncomfortable for just a few seconds, and when the pleasure takes over, you forget those few seconds. I hope you make the evening as special as you possibly can - for it is a treasured memory for most!!
2007-02-20 11:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other and he is gentle and kind there should be no pain. Have a couple of alcoholic drinks to relax you and just enjoy it all. Don't forget about contraception though. Well done on hanging on till you are 21. Too many people start far too young. Best wishes.
2007-02-20 11:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me there was no pain at all. (Only later the regret of who I chose to share sex with) Don't worry, you can tell him to stop at any time, if he is a caring person he won't mind. When the time comes, talk to him about stopping if it starts to hurt. If you don't trust him you won't be comfortable, so that won't be an issue. Best wishes.
2007-02-20 11:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless if your in love or not it will hurt the first time . Just think of you trying to put a finger through a tiny hole and the more you force it your finger will hurt . It doesn't hurt extremely bad it just hurts . GOOD LUCK !!!! That's good you waited this long I know you and your parents must be proud .
2007-02-20 11:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't always hurt your first time. Your hymen could have been broken already by other means such as a tampon, your finger or certain sports such as horseback riding. When the time comes, let your partner know that it's your first time so that he knows to be gentle. Make sure you're well lubricated and try and relax as much as possible.
2007-02-20 11:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all Congrats to making it to 21 a virgin!! My hat is off to ya!! No my first time didn't hurt...it wasn't the most plesurealbe experience but it didn''t really hurt. The second time is alot better...Good luck and congrats again!
2007-02-20 11:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by b_fab115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it helps if you love the guy and relaxed.it might hurt the first time ,but it will feel good once you get pass the pain and bleeding.once you do it a few times,it will be just like riding a bicycle.
2007-02-20 13:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋