When Im stressed I self harm?

Question

I have tried to stop it but find my hands on my face and scratching till I feel wet then I stop but its too late my face is bleeding. My shrink says to try and do something to take my mind of it, but I cant seem to do it in time. Please help.............

Thanks rico3151, maybe I am too far gone, now I have left a note - on your head be it, I am about to do what you suggested - sleep well - arsehole

Answer 1

u have an obsessive compulsive problem, and something like that can be very difficult to control, as the neural pathways in your brain get used to reacting in this way in certain situation. it's a way of getting a natural hit of happy chemicals called endorphins. best thing u can do is get a type of counselling called Cognitive therapy, which basically teaches u to 're wire' your brain to react differently in those situations. u may be able to get referred by your doctor, otherwise u may have to go private, and pay about £30 per session.

Answer 2

I don't know if it helps you to say that you are not alone in this. And in my view it's not that horrible problem. I've been finding myself in the same kind of situation almost "peeling" the skin off my face. Some people cutting themselves. I didn't know what is the problem, what makes me do that, and why on the face? till lately. I've been living far from my parents for the last couple years. I have had this "thing" since I was about 14-15. I am 27 now. And I thought that I've grown out of this, but couple months ago my mum came to visit me first time for the last 5 years, we had a lot of talks, hard talks for both of us. And here I am! scratching till i bleed as You said. And then I started thinking why is it not hands, legs, i don't know what else, but my face? Because she knows me like that! Because for her and for most of my family - I am still that "ugly duck" that I was as a teenager. These are all my problems and complexes from those days coming out. And the main thing I realized - that because I SO much wanted to be beautiful for my mum (and not only) and could not make it, so I get it to be ugly (not sure why). I understood one thing that the problem was my personal failure in trying to please somebody (my parents) by being pretty or clever or funny, like we all want when we are 15 - 16 - 17 years old. So if now I am with somebody who accepts me just the way I am without expecting me to be something, I am in harmony with myself, and don't have to bleed :-) I love my parents but my teenage complexes are tough to deal with. And you know what? Everyone of us have been through that pain, just all reacted differetly. Nothing worth treating is here I think. Just be with people who love You and Your face. I am sure it's cute enough to be loved....without scratches.
All the best

Answer 3

if you're on your own cut the back of your arms instead - it isnt dangerous and people wont see it. this will tell you if you are doing it for attention or not. most people do, those who dont are sometimes even advised to carry on in a controlled way (as above) by health professionals. Careful who you see in health care too because some hold prejudices which aren't going to be helpful for you.

Also don't ask people on yahoo. when you already have a shrink - what makes you think people will tell the truth at all. See a new shrink if your current one doesnt help

Answer 4

Hey!
I don't think people read your comment properly, especially when it said the word "shrink" as they were suggesting professional help! lol!
It is quite hard to do something else to take your mind of being stressed, because if it is work that needs doing, then doing something other than the work probably won't work.
How about making cookies or something?
Or sit on your hands and enjoy the pins and needles?
I think you need to find something to do with your hands...musical instrument? painting? drawing?
It is probably hard to do it in a public place...
What about tapping out a rhythm on your side or something?

Good Luck!
xx

Answer 5

I don't mean this in a nasty way, but this really isn't the place for this sort of discussion I think. I think you need to be listening to your shrink (if they know what they are doing) and getting help from trusted sources rather than random strangers.

As mentioned above, someone I knew used to use art and writing as a release instead.

Self harm is a nasty addiction and needs to be handled with care. You're worth it, as they say in those horrible adverts. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you are abusing anything, be it drink, drugs or caffeine, then stop.

If situs are making you feel like this then avoid them.

Try to see the danger signs and then take preventative steps.

Answer 7

you should seek professional help becuase problems like this can sometimes be beyond your own control. Good luck with this, i wish you the best!

Answer 8

ive got that aswell is it ocd youve got try boxing or karate lessons
take you stress out on that

Answer 9

just read your added messeage on the end are you ok and worried about you.

Answer 10

i think you should try to find like rpofesional help. that about all anyone on here is gunna say.