I have a friend that tries to put on a tought front and acts like he doesn't care but he has to he's human..could this have something to do with his upbringing..His mother left him really young to be raised by his grandmother..once out of 7 years I've known him..he expressed his frustration saying he would punch her if he met her again....could this be the reason he is so tough and can't admit he has feelings for someone? or am i looking in the wrong place..wait why am I looking? I guess I love this man..we're just friends.
2007-02-20 10:39:08 · 10 answers · asked by 00666 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
His father wasn't there either. His grandmother did everything.
2007-02-20 10:46:36 · update #1
You are supposed to learn that the world is a place where you can trust others to meet your needs when you are young. A mom is usually the more nurturing of the parents and from a mom you learn that you are special and will be loved no matter what. You would reasonably expect that without a mom around a boy would have difficulty establishing a loving and caring relationship with others and might tend to use others and love things. His capacity for empathy would be diminished as would his ability to manage his anger and strength that he would have gotten from a dad who was really there.
Now really loving and nurturing grandparents would help lessen the damage, but as a kid looks around to others who have loving parents it would be reasonable to expect a boy to feel cheated. Some boys would guess that there was some defect in themselves that mom and dad left while others might guess that the world can be a cruel place where you cannot rely on anyone else, so you need to rely on yourself and yourself only.
Those are reasonable guesses about how this may impact a boy.
Your info says this is a very wounded man and he probably has no idea what you are talking about when you talk about him missing out on parents since that was the world he grew up in. Love him and continue to be his friend. May God bless you and him.
2007-02-20 12:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by georgiagolfer72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It affects all men differently. The two most common thoughts are that it makes them 'great' men...they are trying to be better than any other man/husband/father to right their father's wrong OR they repeat the behaviors their father made. Some are in between, trying to be good but just don't know how.
2016-05-24 00:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe that all children ,male and female need positive female and positive male role models while growing up.It doesn't matter if they are raised by their grandmother or not.I think he has some abandonment issues that need to be dealt with.There are many reasons why people are unemotional,and blaming his mother is a little premature.
2007-02-20 10:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably missed the nurturing that he so desperately needed.
Doubtthat his grans was really able to do this.
Trust ,sensititvity will be big issues for him.
It would take a lot for him to find feelings that he has buried away.
Be a good friend,and give good hugs.
2007-02-21 05:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the rest of his childhood. Is/was his father verbally or otherwise abusive. Was his father nurturing or a alcoholic? People are the sum result of the experiences of their childhood.
2007-02-20 10:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so does this mean you dont have a question no more... he probably doeshate her but he probably would not hit her if he met her he would probably e more shocked then anything!! he would be shoked that he acually got to see her again cause he proabably doesnt want to see her ever again cause hes made it this far without her... he probably thinks that he can go the rest of his life without her!!
2007-02-20 10:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don´t know myself,it will be better if professionals have a say on this.anyway,good question.
2007-02-20 10:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by back54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh. I'm in high school and I don't know what I'd do w/ out my mom. seriously. I'd just be nice to the dude, believe me he probaly just thinks your cute.
-bob
2007-02-20 10:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could end up with a very low sensitivity level.
2007-02-20 11:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman who leaves her family can be beaten or killed by her husband or son.
2014-05-27 06:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by That Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋