How should i come out to my mother that i am a lesbian?

Question

she has already heard about me kissing and holding hands. i didn't tell her i did because i don't want her to know. she has ask me i said no but its really yes. she says that i need to read the bible because im sining. tells me that i dont like no woman i like men but deep down inside i dont im in love with women. how do i just come out and tell her the truth? what will happen?i think she will kick me out and stuff she said she was going to get me some prayer. so i dont kno what to do please help!

Answer 1

Maybe you shouldn't.

Your mom sounds ignorant and probably wouldn't understand. At least wait until you are secure (have your own living area, don't depend on her at all) to say anything. Even then, it's optional.

Answer 2

Since from what you say, she doesn't accept it, I think for starters, it would be best to ease into the subject, not go right out and tell her. Just show her a few things like a newspaper or magazine article to start with and move into the other things gradually depending on her expression or what she says.
If you explain everything to her slowly, she could start to get used to the idea, but if you tell her without her ever knowing much about it, then you could make things worse to the point she could disown you.

In short, my advise would just be to take your time and give subtle hints with questions and what you have been doing a lot of the time, like "I was over at Monica's again, I love how she is always so hyper!"

Answer 3

I think your mother is feeling disappointed that you didn't turned out to be the daughter she wanted . You have to respect that . I understand where you coming from and I appreciate that you are honest with your parents. But your mom is a person too and we all have certain ideals in life that we follow up. Coming out is not bad . Be true to yourself. Whatever the effect would be if your mom will throw you out then accept it. In every action we make there is an equal consequences attached to it. You can't change the way your mom feels if she doesn't want to. What you can do in your end is to accept her decision and learn from it. I am sure in time your mother will come around. We have a saying around here that " There is no mother that will abandon her child". I am sure she loves you deep down

Answer 4

Tough question. I'm a straight guy, so this is just talk behind my hat. I think maybe it has to do with whether the news will put her over the edge, or just be a kind of relief. You might join a Unitarian Universalist church; they're (we're) very inclusive. Just a thought. Good luck.

Answer 5

dont do that. instead how about coming to your mother and explaining that your in need of a great deal of help . ask her to help you to overcome your sinfull desire and to help you find a church that understands how powerfull sin can be. i suggest you read the holy bible pray and remain inside except for church until you are more healthy . you can resist satan by asking god for his help. god did not make people sinfull satan did. god can return you a normal loving place in his eyes if you ask him to help.
remember hell is a long painfull horrible place where you will not faint as the demonds rip the skin from your flesh and the screams of horror never end. hell is a place where you will feel all the pain and have no rest no relive from the burning fires and constant torment and torture by the demons.
you can be a person who never goes to that place by accepting god and his love and his will for you . leave satan behind you and return to the loving arm of the father .

Answer 6

I agree with the first answer. Don't bring it up again until you are old enough to get your own place if she does kick you out. Be prepared for her to never speak to you again.

Just another shining example of the divisiveness and hatred involved in most religions