do you do things,separately,jointly or both?
its not *really*a matter of trust is it?i mean like say barbra wont let harold look at her statments or emails its all about privacy right?
2007-02-20 10:24:33 · 16 answers · asked by south_parker98 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Every person is entitled to some privacy and personal possessions. In this day and age, it's much more expected that couples will have separate bank accounts, and so forth.
Some couples share e-mails, some do not. That's a personal space and privacy issue. It only becomes a trust issue when one partner worries that the other is cheating or using the online communications to meet with others, etc. And that's a trust issue that would exist if they were both just using cell phones or what have you... it's not localized to just the Internet.
Be open with your partner about your friendships, answer their questions about how you communicate, and make sure they're comfortable with your privacy. Be prepared to make a few compromises, but by no means should anyone have to give up their privacy and personal financial security to their partner.
2007-02-20 10:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well this might sound crazy but we have a joint account and he has some accounts on his own and i have my own personal account too, we also have a savings account too but we also have separate ones too. were very happy and it seems to work for us as far as credit cards we have some together and some not we both need to have a credit history and it helps to have your own too. The reason why we do this is i help out my family sometimes and he helps out his and we both do that from our own personal accounts. i know it crazy but it works for us and were very happy and we never have a financial or money fight ever, we have never had one. as far as privacy goes everyone deserves to have a little even when u are a couple, i would not care if he picked into my statements but i like to know that he want cause he loves me and give me my privacy, if u have trust and great communication u have everything a gold relationship.
2007-02-20 10:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it has anything to do with not trusting your spouce. My husband and I have separate accounts, emails, bank statements, etc. and we're okay with it. With us its more or less like we already do everything together why can't we have some type of separation somewhere, and thats just it. My husband is the best thing that has happend to me but I've always been taught that 2 much of a good thing isn't good for u.......And thats one of the ways that we're in our own zone......u could say
2007-02-20 11:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by charms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have a joint bank account, but since I am better at handling finances I write out the checks. As far as e-mail goes, We have nothing to hide from each other, so even though we both have our own private accounts, neither one of us would be upset if the other took a peak at what was in there.
2007-02-20 10:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Monica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have one bank account (shared). We have several separate e-mails, but one joint e-mail. Our auto insurance is with the same company. But we don't have any credit cards or anything together, and there's a reason for that!
It is a matter of trust. I trust that he won't spend money needlessly, and he trusts I won't either.
And we have no secrets, so privacy isn't really an issue. But we have separate e-mails for that reason.
2007-02-20 10:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should have a joint account if u have a home together etc ,but u should also have your own personal account as for emails that is a privacy thing
2007-02-20 10:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I absolutely have not at all paid any interest to the elements at the same time as it contains my animals, until eventually it regards a tutor, path journey, or some thing similar. there turned right into a time very last year at the same time as 4 horses at my barn, and the barn canines all mandatory surgical treatment interior an similar week - each and each interior some days of an entire moon. All survived, all are healthful and satisfied at present, playing their favourite events, etc. the in effortless words reason I bear in thoughts that is the completed moon became the nighttime earlier a large horse tutor, and none of those horses ought to pass to the tutor because of their surgical procedures. (And no one became harm or some thing on the tutor both! lol)
2016-12-04 10:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married for almost 12 years now and the only joint account we've ever had is a savings one, so when wedding gifts were cheques were able to pay into as Mr & Mrs.
Never seen it as a trust thing in our marriage though, more of an independance thing. Everyone is different though.
2007-02-20 10:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by lynn a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband & I have always had a joint bank account & our e-mails are always there for the other to see if they want to.
When it comes to the banking, it's not a matter of privacy, its a matter of being a couple together & not having seperate finances.
2007-02-20 10:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is 'Barbara' doing to want to hide her bank statements/e-mails? If she's doing nothing wrong and has nothing to hide - why the need for privacy? Surely she'd be with 'Harold' because she wants to be and loves him otherwise what is the point of being together? Hiding things from your partner????? Why?
2007-02-20 10:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by borogailybev 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋