im 14 y/o and i like this guy at my church. he's really sweet, thoughtful and he says he likes me back. but my father totally disagrees. he always trash talks him and says awful things about him just because he is russian. he says that because he is russian he is bad news. but my dad is russian and im half russian so that bothers me too. i need help because we really like each other and my dads attitude has driven me outta my house. (im at my friends house) please help.
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2007-02-20 10:23:57 · 7 answers · asked by Amber-Zayla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's so difficult for daddy's when their daughters get to the age where they don't think boys are gross anymore! It's not nice that your Dad says things that are unpleasant about your crush...that is true. I would suggest that you really step back & think things thru just a bit - are your Dad's comments really, i mean really that bad, or is that you are super sensitive b/c you like this guy so much ..(it's just a question.)...Secondly, you shouldn't be at a friends house, you should go home immediately. That's your dad, and if you are trying to show him that you are mature enuff to have a bf, running away & avoiding your own Dad is certainly not helping your case...*ya know? What you should do, is this.. go home...right now... Hug your Daddy, tell him you love him, tell him you are sorry for running away & you realize it was very childish & immature... Then explain to him that you really like this guy at the church & that you would like to go to the movies & stuff with this guy, that you would like to have him over for dinner, and that it is important to you for your Dad to be on your side with this..not to love the guy, not to be best buds, or offer your hand in marriage to the boy, just to trust you a little bit - b/c he has been a good dad & taught you a lot & you want a chance to show him & make him proud, but he has to give you the chance, and if this guy turns out to be a "not so good dude", you will find it out & break it off & move on....as part of growing up....
Good luck. but keep in mind, that's your dad, always, he's the one that would lay down his life for you, he's the one that would do anything for you no matter what, and will be there for you always...so even when you get angry with him *which you will, think about what it would be like if you didn't have a Dad that loved you so much? or maybe, what it would be like to not have one at all?....
2007-02-20 11:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is this guy you like so much? If he's quite a bit older than you, that may be at least part of the reason your dad is upset. It sounds to me like the whole Russian thing is a coverup for something else.
But, honey, you're still only 14. You don't need to be running away from home, and you need to listen to your dad. These adolescent relationships don't ever last, anyway. Your dad will always be your dad, and that's something no boy should ever mess up.
2007-02-20 10:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should know better than to be a racist! He should treat others as he would want others to treat him! Your dad is either insane or is too protective. He has to understand that having a boyfriend can be good too. I don't get why he thinks russian is bad. He's practically russian himself.
2007-02-20 11:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well i think you should A: just go out with him and for get about your dad its your life do with it what you chose. or you could B: have a sit down with your dad and have a conversation about why you like him why he is important and that what he is saying about him is something you don't like. so i think you should just go on and live your life (but don't try to P.O your dad)
2007-02-20 11:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by TheWeakLink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love when the word church ends up in the same breath as any negative word or term...Tell your backwards dad God loves EVERYONE!!!
2007-02-20 14:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAD'S DON'T LIKE TO THINK OF THEIR LITTLE GIRLS GROWING UP AND DATING. IT'S JUST A DAD THING. DAD'S ALSO REMEMBER HOW THEY WERE AT THAT AGE AND DON'T WANT THEIR DAUGHTER'S TO BE IN A SITUATION LIKE THAT.
2007-02-20 10:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
just do it that what i would do
2007-02-20 10:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋